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Balancing the Flash

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Brenda’s Blog – November 15, 2016

“Playing the small notes is optional.”

As I prepared to play at a local church service I went through a number of piano hymn arrangements. For me this is like trying on clothes. I go through dozens of pieces until one “just feels right.”

The one I selected had the right balance of dynamics, technical requirements, and emotional impact. One of the attractive elements for the chosen arrangement was the “accessories.” The melody was enhanced by runs of notes which added brilliance without losing the melody (and the hearer) in the weeds of excessive flash.

There is a fine balance between raising the emotional level through exciting bursts of runs and overwhelming the melody and message. Some arrangers think more is more and create a work that looks like a woman who totally overdoes makeup and accessories.
In life we have opportunities to create impact with the way we communicate with others. Some choose to pour on the style, putting the message in the shadows. “What did they say?” is usually the response. Others avoid any enhancement and beat the basic subject to death. “Where is the back door?” is usually the response.

We have the option of adding the zest. But it is up to us to understand how best to use gestures, phrases, humor, and eye contact as a means of moving the message, not overshadowing it. Musicians (instrumental or vocal) know when to go for the big finish and when to leave well enough alone.

Appropriateness is the critical element. Having the ability to understand each situation and judge what needs to be added or deleted is the sign of maturity. Just because you can play the small notes doesn’t mean you are required to. Just because you are verbally nimble doesn’t mean you have to use every technique at your disposal.

When we communicate whether in music, writing, or speaking we must always remember as Dad liked to say: “Speak (write, play) to express, not impress.”

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Money Talk

Weekly Thought – November 15, 2016

Fred often told his children he and Mary Alice were not interested in leaving large sums of money to them. “I don’t want you to expect something that isn’t coming. Your Mother and I want to leave a legacy, not an estate.” Their children learned the value of saving, buying quality, and staying out of debt. Money was never the measure of a person’s value. He appreciated the options it brought, and respected the responsibilities, but never worshipped at the altar of wealth.

Money Talk

The truth about money has been known for a long time. Aristotle called it “barren” – not because it doesn’t bring benefits, but because the emotions it evokes are among the lowest on the hierarchy of values. These feelings don’t measure up to the nobler, finer emotions drawn out by patriotism and faith. The man or women whose greatest emotional energy is reserved for money knows nothing of the higher emotional life.

Money can bring fun – even happiness – but not joy if it is only “money for money’s sake.” It has no intrinsic ability to elevate the intellect or spirit. In fact, the love of gold often blocks the love for all else that is higher and more meaningful. How pale the struggle for wealth becomes when compared to the struggle for freedom, the search for truth, the war for principles, or the fulfillment of the noblest passions.

However, money is one of life’s greatest necessities. To disparage money per se is to demonstrate an ignorance of life and its rules. I often say that I think about money like I think about blood. I make blood to live – I don’t live to make blood. The same thing is true about money for me. I make money to live, but I certainly don’t live to make money.

In my view, money has always represented option. I have been poor and I have been financially comfortable – I prefer the latter. But having money and loving money are poles apart.

The options money make possible are part of its utility. Without it, there are limited choices; with it, choices are opened up. The interesting thing about money and choices is that having many options doesn’t necessarily mean we are capable of always making good choices.

And having money doesn’t necessarily create good character. When someone comments, “Do you know Joe? He’s worth millions!” I always respond: “He may have accumulated millions, but that doesn’t determine his worth.” The stewardship of great wealth requires discipline and the recognition that what you have isn’t the same as who you are.

This week think carefully about: 1) What is my relationship to money? 2) Do I have money or does money have me? 3) How can I use my financial resources to multiply God’s work?

Words of Wisdom: “Having money and loving money are poles apart.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Of what use is money in the hand of a fool, since he has no intention of acquiring wisdom?” (Proverbs 17:16 NET Bible)

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Pain and Gain of Tribulation

Weekly Thought – November 8, 2016

Fred read deeply in devotional writing. He appreciated Gratian’s Manual, Practicing the Presence of God, The Seeking Heart, and My Utmost For His Highest, among many others. His copies were heavily noted and annotated with thoughts prompted by these ancient writers. Fred’s long-time and valued friend Harold Myra is currently working on a devotional based on the writings of Brother Lawrence. Fred would have thoroughly enjoyed “thinking on those things.”

The BWFLI schedule for 2016 is completed – with great joy and thanksgiving. Please pray for LeTourneau University and Greenville College which are actively in the planning stages currently for 2017.

Pain and Gain of Tribulation

Until I spent several months on my back, unable to move, I didn’t really appreciate patience. Perhaps I could have given you “three points of managing a patient attitude,” but I didn’t experientially understand. Now I know that true patience reduces unhealthy distress without diminishing healthy stress. Patience brings poise to our life, enabling us to discern between the important and the less important. It gives us tolerance for the point of view of others. Patience promotes meditation. The Scripture confirms the ancient saint’s belief that patience develops character. “Tribulation brings about perseverance and perseverance, proven character, and proven character hope” is the way Paul said it. Here we see that hope is in the direct line of blessing with tribulation and patience.

Brother Lawrence said that he prayed for tribulation in order to become stronger so that he might endure even more tribulation. He saw suffering as “God’s gymnasium.” When you are an A-type personality, everything has to happen quickly. Yet tribulation has its own pace – its own rhythm. I have found patience to be the only antidote for my frustrations, most of which have been seated in my ego. I get irritated because I wanted my own way and at my speed. Today my immobility and total dependence on others have made patience so valuable in avoiding testiness. (My family may think I have more work to do to completely operate with my irenic spirit!)

Tribulation can be either positive or negative. The choice is yours to make and as you want it, so it shall be. A national magazine picked up a phrase I have begun to use: “I am not disabled; I am delightfully dependent.” The “delightful” is my way of being patient.

Patience, like many of our most valued qualities, is slow growing. Patience is an oak tree, not a cornstalk. Patience is available to all of us who are willing to pay the price. It is not an inherited quality that comes in the genes – it is the result of tribulation and our disciplined response.

Sweating it out in God’s gymnasium is hard work, but the Coach knows best.

This week think about: 1) What do I really think about tribulation? 2) How do I adjust my attitude in patience-building circumstances? 3) Who models patience in a healthy way for me?

Words of Wisdom: “Patience is not an inherited quality that comes in the genes – it is the result of tribulation and our disciplined response.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Not only this, but we also rejoice in sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance, character, and character, hope.” (Romans 5: 3,4 NET Bible)

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Clarity

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Brenda’s Blog – November 1, 2016

“What has become clearer since last we met?”

Ralph Waldo Emerson and Henry David Thoreau were friends who enjoyed their conversations. With no email, phone, text, or SKYPE, they depended upon their face to face times. Therefore, when they saw each other one would ask the other: “What has become clearer since last we met?”

I told this story to a good friend I don’t see often. Recently, she came to my house and upon sitting down smiled and said, “What has become clearer?”

This presupposes intentional thought, contemplation, and growth, doesn’t it? This assumes the conversations prompted mental activity.

But this has a broader application. How about periodic personal reflection? How about a catalog of categories which require consideration? For example: financial, physical, educational, spiritual, and relational areas of one’s life? Shouldn’t we be able to sit down quarterly or certainly annually and point to clarification?

Maturity demands clarity. Muddling through with little or no understanding creates pygmies. To see is promised by Paul in the first letter to the Corinthians. He tells us we see partially as through wavy glass, but one day it will indeed be clear – it will be face to face.

Our Lord Jesus healed a blind man. When he was interrogated by the Pharisees he had a simple answer: “All I know is that once I was blind and now I see.” Shouldn’t we be able to identify some blind spots in ourselves and rejoice when clarity occurs?

Don’t be surprised if we meet and you are asked “What has become clearer?”

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Keeping the Engine in Gear

Weekly Thought – November 1, 2016

Fred loved cars. Getting to sit in the pit area with the Sam Hanks team was definitely a life thrill. He loved the sound of finely tuned engines. And, he worked diligently to make sure his three children all understood the value of mechanical devices.

Thank you for praying with the BWFLI team at Palm Beach Atlantic University. The conversations and connections were abundant and invigorating. We have men and women of great character being trained to lead.

Keeping the Engine in Gear

During times when we have no great career accomplishments, it is important to have outside achievements. This is the way we re-attach our egos.

I suggested that a friend who was going through a low time after selling his company find personal satisfaction in a non-career arena. Several months later I saw him. To my surprise he had lost 40 pounds. He said, “I took your suggestion and it is working. Not only have I lost the weight that I badly needed to lose, but I’ve also won the doubles tennis championship at the club.” He had rediscovered the joy of achievement.

Every career has its dead spots. Inevitably there are idling times as we hit plateaus on the climb. It is important to remember that we haven’t failed; only our plans have. Rather than letting it throw us off track, we can redirect our productive energies in an avocational direction. We can channel our need for productivity into charitable or ministry outlets. We can develop new skills and broaden our current interests. It is important to acknowledge the importance of useful development.

The lull in the career won’t kill the proper use of ego gratification. It is important, of course, that these ancillary accomplishments do not become an escape, nor that we let our avocation supersede our vocation. The principal idea is to keep experiencing a productive life – which we continue to contribute and know a sense of accomplishment. It is important to keep our engine clean, in good repair, and our gears meshing.

If we miss the opportunity to grow in the plateau, we end up circling round and round without forward progress. The proper use of plateaus can strengthen us as we begin again. When we put ourselves into gear, we can move smoothly down the road.

The productive man or woman recognizes that achievement breeds achievement. Low times give us time to slow down for the next climb. Parking the car in the garage is not the answer. Revving the engine and developing new outlets is the way to go.

This week think about: 1) What is my way to handle the plateaus? 2) How can I help others deal with these times? 3) Who do I know right now that needs this word?

Words of Wisdom: “If we miss the opportunity to grow in the plateau, we end up circling round and round without forward progress.”


Wisdom from the Word: “Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with a heart of mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” (Colossians 3:12 NET Bible)

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The “I Can” Leader

Weekly Thought – October 25, 2016

Fred consulted with numerous major corporations and Christian organizations. He looked for patterns; ability to read people increased his effectiveness. He always said character and attitude were the hallmarks of effective leaders.

This week a team of twelve will be spending two days on the campus of Palm Beach Atlantic University. Please pray for their work, witness, and impact. They are going at their own expense receiving no remuneration because they believe in the challenge of stretching and blessing the next generation of leaders to the glory of God. Thank you for your support.

The “I Can” Leader

I was interested recently in a survey that studied the difference between successful and unsuccessful businesses. The research looked at the top executives of major organizations. The outcome was interesting but not surprising. It was about attitude. The successful leaders said: “I will.” Those with the unsuccessful operations tended to say: “I should; I want to; I ought to; I expect to.” In Texas we have a simple way of saying that… “fixin’ to.”

Nothing happens until someone says “I will.” This is the action of the decisive individual. He picks up an idea, considers the applications, and implements it. In other words, he says “I will.” By the way, “she” also does this. My daughter is always quick to remind me of my male references.

The other one may get a great idea, write it down, but then file it away for future thought. Sadly, most ideas evaporate if not kept in the active file. “Getting around to it shortly” is the death knell for many good thoughts. “Shortly” seldom comes as he sits in the same easy chair, in the same rut – the one that leads to failure.

The ability to execute is a key distinctive. Careful consideration is important, but some use analysis as an excuse for inactivity. Certainly there are those who do ready, fire, aim but way too many more do the ready, ready, ready – never even getting to aim, much less fire.

The line between success and failure is very thin. My friends in the insurance industry put it this way: “The successful agent does what the unsuccessful one won’t.” The successful one does the prospecting, makes the calls, and asks for the sale. All of us know “former” insurance agents who organized the forms, read the industry magazines, and waited for just the right time to make the calls. Did that time come? Apparently not.

Right thinking followed by right action leads to success.

This week think about: 1) Who is the strongest “I can” person in my network? 2) Who am I encouraging with my can do attitude? 3) How can I create ongoing positive activity?

Words of Wisdom: “Right thinking followed by right action leads to success.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Your bow is ready for action; you commission your arrows.” (Habakkuk 3:9 NET Bible)

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Stormy Weather

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Brenda’s Blog – October 18, 2016

“Each student is required to have an emergency storm plan.”

As Dr. Bill Fleming, President of Palm Beach Atlantic University in West Palm Beach, FL, and I talked about the predicted landfall of Hurricane Matthew, he mentioned their mandatory preparedness. “We have never had to use the plans, but we know each student, faculty and staff member understands what steps to take – and have them written down.”

Matthew stayed off-shore and did minimal damage to PBA. For that we are grateful. But had it come ashore, they were ready to react safely.

Don’t we all have potential storms looming? Career changes, relationship shifts, health issues, geographical moves, spiritual temptations, emotional distress… all these come with high winds and rainy days. Some hit us with little notice, while others are predictable and we see the patterns forming.

How do we prepare? Here are just a few ideas: 1) Learn to read the cues and clues; 2) play the what if game to understand options; 3) understand personal strengths and weaknesses; 4) build a support network of wise counselors for each area of potential change; 5) seek the Lord’s face each day, readying your heart for whatever He brings; 6) believe that you will come through and 7) as my Dad always said to me, “Never lose the good of a bad experience.”

Dr. Fleming emphasized that these plans prepare the members of the PBA community with an exit strategy. Scripture tells us that our God’s hand is always on us and whatever storms of temptation beset us, He provides a way of escape. He promises He will “never leave us nor forsake us.” Leaning on Him must be the foundation of any preparation.

Stormy weather is inevitable. But an action plan allows us to operate with purpose and poise. And, the opportunity to encourage others in their storms is a benefit. “How did you do it?” is a question which will open doors for conversations and sharing of enduring truths.

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Following Faithfully

Weekly Thought – October 18, 2016

Fred and Mary Alice met in seventh grade English class. She loved his family and grew spiritually as a teenager through the ministry of Mathew Bunyan Smith, Fred’s Dad. She was born 101 years ago today. Her influence on her family and friends continues. Her love and encouragement flow through all she touched.

October 26 and 27, 2016 are the dates for the Breakfast With Fred Leadership Institute. The team will begin gathering on the 25th in West Palm Beach, FL. Please stand with us in prayer. Thank you for your consistent, faithful support.

Following Faithfully

In our lives “faith” is both a noun and a verb. As a noun we express what is the faith. Dr. Ramesh Richard, my theologian friend who has two earned PhDs is an international proclaimer of the gospel. He gave me the “Faith Alones” (or solas) as outlined by Martin Luther: 1) by grace alone; 2) through faith alone; 3) based on Scripture alone; 4) in Christ alone; and 5) for God’s glory alone. These outline faith as a noun.

Faith, as a verb, is how we live faith out in our lives. By faith, we follow the Scriptures both in principles and disciplines for life. We look to the Scriptures for both commands and promises.

One time when I was in negotiations with the steelworkers’ union, our lawyer was convinced they were going to declare a strike. Therefore, he recommended we not make an offer because it would be used as the basis for the next negotiation. As I left home to go to the meeting, I did something I had never done before. I opened the Bible and read the first verse that I saw. “Do not withhold from workers money that is due them.” I knew right then what my decision would be. Against the lawyer’s recommendation, I opted to make a reasonable offer. To our amazement, the union members readily accepted it. So we avoided a strike. I felt I had been given divine guidance.

Any time we make a decision to do right, rather than wrong, we are living by faith. Like the old hymn tells us to walk in faith living a life that pleases God we must “trust and obey.” Dr. Richard pointed out to me Hope and faith will not be needed in heaven for we will see and know. But the love of God in Christ will exist eternally. That is the faith which energizes me.

This week think about: 1) How can I translate my faith noun into a faith verb? 2) What areas of my life need faithful attention? 3) Who encourages me to walk by faith?

Words of Wisdom: “Faith is both a noun and a verb.

Wisdom from the Word: “The Rock, his work is perfect, for all his ways are justice. A God of faithfulness and without iniquity, just and upright is he.” (Deuteronomy 32:4 NET Bible)

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Where Am I Going?

Weekly Thought – October 11, 2016

Fred’s strategic approach to life planning influenced generations of men and women. He focused on his gifts and the most effective way to use them. He said, “I have never felt time pressure because I didn’t get involved in things that weren’t mine to do.”

The Breakfast With Fred Leadership Institute at Palm Beach Atlantic University will be October 26, 27th. Please pray for the team members, the faculty, students, and staff. We are blessed to share these days together “stretching and blessing the next generation of leaders… to the glory of God.” Please pray about participating with us financially. All gifts are tax deductible and gratefully received.

Where Am I Going?

Choosing a goal in life is not our most important decision – choosing our direction is. Chasing short-range goals can take us in the wrong direction. Mature success and satisfaction come from the direction in which we move, not in the goal that we attain.

Too much goal orientation brings us the same problem that Harvard Business School found in the case study system of teaching. Bright young students learned to solve problems rather than identify opportunities. The real progress in life comes in recognizing opportunities. Problem solving is important, but it is just a means of taking advantage of opportunities.

When we become too goal-oriented, we become almost mechanical in our approach to life. The totally technological vantage point tends to turn us into computers. Who wants that?

I oppose setting an ultimate goal for one’s life in the sense of a specific, definable, measurable place in life one hopes to arrive. To define a place where “I will have made it” puts too much importance on one decision after another. This deterministic approach creates a sense of futility to those who attain what they have aimed for, what they have defined as success, and what they see as the “end all.” Too often they realize that it was process and the journey that energized them, not the final goal achievement.

The becoming is the joy in the journey.

I am not opposed to planning, but I am much more interested in making decisions based on the impact they will have on who I will ultimately become. Following the path is an adventure. I don’t want to be so focused on goals that I get to the top of the ladder only to see that it is leaning against the wrong wall.

Goals are important as mile markers to confirm that we are traveling in the right direction. They are never to be an end in themselves. To adhere rigidly to our goals is to miss some of the excitement that comes spontaneously. It is also a clear way to miss so much of the life God has for us.

This week think about: 1) How well am I balancing goals and direction? 2) What measures am I using to determine if I am pleased with my direction? 3) Who is in my circle to help me assess my direction?

Words of Wisdom: “The becoming is the joy in the journey.”

Wisdom from the Word: “So you will walk in the way of good people, and will keep on the paths of the righteous.” (Proverbs 2:20 NET Bible)

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Leading with Meaning

Weekly Thought – October 4, 2016

Fred and Bill Glass (All-American, All-Pro from Baylor and the Cleveland Browns) met at Baylor University in the 1950s. Bill’s friendship with Fred never ended. In the last days, Bill sat at Fred’s side in the hospital. Of course, he had his notebook with him because he always took notes when sitting with Fred. Bill knew about receiving a blessing.

Leading with Meaning

When I saw the old wrangler on whose life The Horse Whisperer was based, I felt he was a kindred spirit. He used empathy rather than dominance to achieve his goals. He transformed both the role of the wrangler and the horse’s experience. It was no longer a hierarchical, tyrannical system, but one which was a team-based, mutual interest program. He no longer depended on the horse’s fear, but on its friendship. His orders became friendly suggestions that he knew would be accepted.

The famed “winningest coach,” John Wooden of UCLA basketball used his own nondictatorial system. Reportedly, he never mentioned the word “win” to any of his teams. He simply emphasized the concept of doing one’s best. This was an entirely different emphasis from the usual pre-game pep talk in locker rooms of his day.

Wooden’s philosophy excluded using dirty tricks, bending the rules, violating recruiting rules, and falsifying grades – all of which were common practices in other programs. Wooden’s teams won because he recruited great talent, helped them grow in an environment that demanded their best, and built men of honor and character.

We lead to accomplish the vision of our calling. We optimize our associates’ gifts and passions as we work to attain what we genuinely believe is the will of God – for the glory of God. We work to find the uniqueness in others and then to develop, encourage, and reward it. We work to find our own reward, desiring to hear one day: “Well done, good and faithful servant.”

Catching a vision and then creating an atmosphere in which talented men and women thrive is the role (and reward) of a leader. Working together in tandem, not working for a tyrant, is the sign of a healthy organization.

This week think about: 1) What do I contribute to a healthy atmosphere? 2) How well do I encourage a winning team? 3) Who models positive leadership for me?

Words of Wisdom: “We lead to accomplish the vision of our calling.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Give instruction to a wise person, and he will become wiser still; teach a righteous person and he will add to his learning.” (Proverbs 9:9 NET Bible)

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