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Work at Faith

Brenda’s Blog – May 19, 2026

“Splash Kingdom – Family Waterpark”
“Seek the Kingdom. – Matthew 6:33”

The interstate billboard caught my attention. I understand the intersection of faith and work. But, is it possible we sometimes transpose the emphasis? Is this perhaps making faith a marketing tool, instead of making the market a place for our faith?
Certainly, the owners are believers who connect their company with the community of faith. I have taken my grandchildren to their fine establishment, throwing themselves mercilessly down slides and traversing watery canals. I hold no ill will, but wonder about the ad campaign.

Just as the early Christians drew the symbol of the fish in the dust to notify others of their secret meeting places, we have our own Christianese. We speak in lingo, don’t we? We draw ichthus symbols, we wear crosses, we say “bless you,” and communicate in Christian code among ourselves. We think this will add a plus to our business among the faithful.

But do we take the significance of these symbols too lightly? John Peterson, a noted Christian musician once said, “in composing I cannot approach the cross with flippancy. I cannot take this subject lightly.” Perhaps we should think carefully about the way we handle these icons.

There are Christians in business, but there are no Christian businesses. Christ died in obedience to the Father for individuals, not for corporations (or even partnerships or sole proprietorships!) Our faith should be evident, indeed, but should we reconsider the way we market our membership in the most holy of all associations?

Ours is a sacred privilege – to bear the name of Christ and to have access to His Word, and His throne room. Let’s hold this with awe, not aw-shucks!

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The Winning Leader

Weekly Thought – May 19, 2026

Fred met many interesting people on airplanes, especially in the early days before celebrities used private transportation. On one flight he sat down next to a well-known actor. He opened the conversation with, “You are in wonderful physical shape. I would be, too, but I have to work. (At that time he was affectionately known as Fat Fred for the 220 pounds he carried on his 6’1” frame) I travel a lot, so I can’t focus on fitness.” “Oh, I travel a lot, too, but when I go into the hotel room, I sit on the luggage rack, put my toes under the bed and do back bends.” Not to be cowed by this, Fred ventured even deeper into the weeds. “Oh, but what about your shoulders? You need to be in the gym to develop them like that.” “No, I roll under the bed and push it up in the air.” Fred’s conclusion: Successful people say “I will” and less successful say, “I ought to; I plan to…”

The Winning Leader

Strong leaders understand the key elements of organizational development.
1) Selection – there is nothing more important than selecting the team. The smaller the organization, the more critical is this element. If you have 10 people, then each one represents 10%. In the corporation, I always use a multiple interview process to protect my blind spots. “Fit” is the word we use a lot, but it means understanding the culture, benefiting the organization, and promoting the common good.
2) Removal – The employer who fires too many is actually lacking in good selection. I have fired very few, but everyone knew I was willing if necessary… that is important. I find an underperforming associate is generally dissatisfied with the company, as well. The greatest payback is having that person come back years later and say, “Thank you – you did me the best favor in my life by letting me go.”
3) Strengths versus Weaknesses – I never deal with people’s weaknesses. This may sound cynical, but after a lifetime of executive experience I am convinced people are the way they are because they want to be that way. People have some strange need to be the way they are, even if they continually talk about changing. Leaders recognize strengths and make people better where they are currently good. My goal is to accent the strength and help them move to a higher plane. I develop my strengths and buttress my weaknesses, but spend no time trying to turn weaknesses into strengths – it rarely happens.
4) Motivation versus Manipulation – If you ask people to define motivation, they often say, “Getting people to do what you want them to do.” No, that’s manipulation. You cannot manipulate an organization long term. Motivation is mutual advantage. You show somebody how you can both win. And if there is no win-win, you shouldn’t be in association. People want to be part of a winning organization. They want to experience the excitement of contributing to the win.

Think about this: 1) How do I confuse manipulation with motivation? 2) Where am I spending too much time working on a weakness? 3) What methods do I use for team selection?

Words of Wisdom: “Accentuate your strengths and buttress your weaknesses.”

Wisdom from the Word: “But the wise will shine like the brightness of the heavenly expanse. And those bringing many to righteousness will be like the stars forever and ever.” (Daniel 12:3 NET Bible)

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Psychological Barriers

Weekly Thought – May 12, 2026

Fred saw potential in others. He thoroughly enjoyed spending time with talented men and women. Visionaries got his juices going. He kept mental files in which he stored ideas to share with them when they were together.

Psychological Barriers

Visioning is one of the critical tasks of leadership. But they must be careful to avoid psychological barriers. One of the things I enjoy most is blowing up the “bridges to nowhere” that these barriers create. Let me lay out a few for you:
1) Age – One of the nation’s top psychiatrists was visiting in our home (nonprofessionally, of course). He asked, “Fred. how old are you?” “50” was my answer. “Okay, start making longer plans.” When I objected he cut me off with this observation “When you start making shorter plans, you’re subconsciously telling yourself to die.” Interesting thought. People come and say to me, “I wish I had done this and done that 20 years ago.” My response is always, “Well, what are you going to do with the next 20?” A good friend was asked by his mentor Bill Bright, President and Founder of Campus Crusade for Christ “How old are you?” He answered, “68.” Bill looked at him and challenged him, “You have 20 good years left – make it count.” Age can be a stumbling block when it should be a platform for acceleration.
2) Education – In America we’ve gone crazy on credentials and degrees. We have three children who all have advanced degrees and we are proud of that, but I occasionally remind them to get an education while they are getting the degrees. I was unable to go to college a day in my life, except to lecture. I have probably lectured at more than 25 universities. Even today I meet men and women who feel “less than” because they have no degree. I remember feeling the indignity of being in a group of dignified academics who proudly identified themselves with their alma maters. I finally decided I had the right to not have a degree.
3) Location – “It can’t happen here” is a deadly barrier. As I travel the country I like to see where bold things happen, especially in places where they are not supposed to happen. Wonder why somebody didn’t tell the Mayo Brothers Rochester, Minnesota was a ridiculous place to put a world-famous clinic. Who told Maxey Jarman an international apparel company could be headquartered in Nashville, Tennessee?
4) Unbelief – “It can’t happen to me.” True leaders know there aren’t enough extraordinary people to achieve their greatest dream, so they must find the ordinary and light their fires. Yes, it can happen and must. Mason Roberts told me “Take one hundred people, spur them to each do 1% more, and you have a whole new person.”

Think about this week: 1) What barrier is stopping my progress? 2) How can I help others to do 1% more? 3) When am I most effective as a visionary?

Words of Wisdom: “Age can be a stumbling block when it should be a platform for acceleration.”

Wisdom from the Word: “That day the Lord brought honor to Joshua before all Israel. They respected him all his life, just as they had respected Moses.” (Joshua 4:14 NET Bible)

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Keep Looking!

Weekly Thought – May 5, 2026

Fred loved to turn experiences into experiments. He once underwent dental work with a stopwatch. He decided to run the watch just when it really hurt, not when he thought he was going to hurt; now when he was afraid he was going to hurt – just when it hurt. He reported it was only four seconds! Not many of us would volunteer for that!

Keep Looking!

As leaders of businesses, institutions, and families, we need to:
1) Find Opportunities. An SMU professor said the difference between corporate and entrepreneurial is the perception of a situation as either a problem to be solved or an opportunity to be maximized. A Harvard study showed focusing on problem solving dulled the ability to see opportunities. But, opportunities have to be within the purpose of the organization. I once sent a quick note to my daughter who was always seeing “open doors.” “Opportunity is not mandate” was my cryptic counsel. Many businesses and ministries hang up “Out of Business” signs because they didn’t define what they did and adjust opportunities to fit the mission.
2) Define Problems. A problem is something I can do something about; a fact of life is something I cannot solve. Understanding the difference is critical to leadership. I have no use of my right hand because I fell on a Mason jar at age 3 and a drunk physician allowed an infection. Is that my problem? No, that is a fact of life. Have you seen people who spend their time fighting with facts of life? Stick with the problems – something you can do something about.
3) Look for the Key Log. An amateur will always try to move all the logs around to get them moving down the stream. A pro climbs a tree, finds the key log, and blows it out – then the movement continues. But you can’t kid yourself about what the log is and you can’t duck it. A friend who was a President of a bank called to say he was working himself to death. I asked, “Who’s work are you doing? Anytime you are overworked, you are doing work that isn’t yours.” He thought and said, “The cashier’s.” That was the key log. Time to blow it out.
4) Value Confidence. Confidence doesn’t increase your ability one iota. So, what is its value? It gives you the ability to concentrate. Concentration is thinking the right thing at the right time. Fear and cockiness are enemies of concentration. One distracts from accomplishment by saying “you can’t.” The other distracts by falsely saying, “you can.” True confidence gives us focus and allows our abilities to operate freely.

Think about this: 1) How does confidence help me concentrate? 2) Who needs to hear Fred’s words today? 3) Where have I transposed problem and fact of life?

Words of Wisdom: “Concentration is thinking the right thing at the right time.”

Wisdom from the Word: “So then, whenever we have an opportunity, let us do good to all people, and especially to those who belong to the family of faith.” (Galatians 6:10 NET Bible)

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Your Move

Brenda’s Blog – May 5, 2026

“Kennett, Missouri – home of Sheryl C_OW.” Clearly a mischief maker found great humor in removing the “R.” It made me think about the power of letters.

Think about the power of an “e” when you decide to be better, rather than bitter.

During my years of care giving I experienced many difficult and challenging moments. There were times when I felt truly overwhelmed. One night I sat at the computer, typing out my emotions. At the end, I realized Mom and Dad gave me the opportunity to see the Lord change “scared into sacred.” Holy transposition!

An old game gives you a word, requires you to shift one letter at a time, and then arrive at a completely new word. There is a great leadership principle embedded in this exercise. Cultural transitions aren’t made by jumping from A to Z. Making incremental steps allows the organization to stabilize before making the next move. They are shifting a letter at a time to complete the change.

Sometimes the word game gets off track because the moves weren’t the right ones. Isn’t this true of organizational morphing, as well? With each step, reassessment and review is necessary to see if the ultimate goal will be reached.

When we play the Scrabble game of life we want to make sure it doesn’t turn into a Scramble!

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Tired of Boredom

Weekly Thought – April 28, 2026

Fred rarely allowed himself to wallow in the blahs. “There’s nothing wrong with me a little excitement wouldn’t cure.” And that excitement often came in later years with a phone call from friends, a visit, or preparation for his Fred in the Bed sessions. He refused to accept life as a dead end.

“I learned what it looks like to finish well as I watched Fred,” said one of the faithful Fred in the Bed folks. Each minute of life is a teachable moment.

Tired of Boredom

Boredom is the dry rot of our soul. It comes when we feel we’re not doing something worth the time. Or when what we are doing isn’t interesting, meaningful, or challenging. Boredom can also be the result of living life too efficiently and not effectively enough. When life becomes a series of habits and routines, our creative juice dry up and we prune up.

I remember hearing our children say to Mary Alice, “I am so bored — there’s nothing to do.” She generally offered a dish rag or a dust mop which generated a flurry of “let’s get out of here” activity. I usually said, “Well, what are you going to do about it?” We need to learn early on the solution to boredom is our responsibility, not that of others.

The pseudo-sophisticate who feigns boredom just to look suave wears me out. The danger of allowing ourselves to live in that mood is that melancholy waits at the door. We can spiral down by refusing to lift ourselves out of the emotional quagmire which grows out of constant boredom.

Here are three suggestions if you are bored:
1) Break up the repetitions of life. Sometimes the slightest alterations can create interest. When I was speaking constantly and a talk became routine, I would rearrange the points to pique my own interest and increase my concentration. Routine is necessary for efficiency, but life is more than efficiently managed time.
2) Add something to your life. Start a new activity, begin a new hobby, see the old things in a new way, cultivate a new friendship, do something specific for others each day. Don’t forget — the more bored you are, the less interesting you will be to others. As you add more dimension to your life, others will notice.
3) Take something bad out of your life. We all have junk that weighs us down and holds us back. For Fat Fred it is often those 20 pounds that pound away at me. The sedentary life is a doorway to boredom. Professional “goofing off” probably needs to go. Mary Alice and I spent a New Year’s Eve in Naples, Italy. Their custom is to throw everything they don’t want into the street so they don’t carry it into the next year. Bored? Try junking the junk.

Boredom is the sure sign of poor self-management and lack of personal responsibility.

This week carefully consider: 1) How do I respond to “I’m so bored.”? 2) When is the last time I felt bored? 3) Who needs some encouragement to take personal responsibility?

Words of Wisdom: “Bored? Try junking the junk.”

Wisdom from the Word: “When Jesus saw him lying there and when he realized that the man had been disabled a long time already, he said to him, ‘Do you want to become well?’” (John 5:6 NET Bible)

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Watering It Down

Brenda’s Blog – April 21, 2026

The weather news said, “Flooding in Craighead County – roads covered with water.” It didn’t mean much to me as I traveled through driving rain in Arkansas — until I passed a “welcome to Craighead County” sign. Life is sometimes like that, isn’t it?

Shortly after entering the flood zone I noticed another sign: “Road dangerous when under water.” The rain was coming down in buckets, but the cars were coming from the other side, so I assured myself it was passable. And, it was only 15 miles – how bad could it be? At the “8 miles to Jonesboro” marker I felt like I had been driving for hours. Seeing the water rise out of the boundaries on each side and lap against the road made me harken back to “when under water.”

It was barely light, the cars from the opposite direction were noticeably fewer, and then I saw water creeping across the highway. I could see the road in between and knew I had enough room to pass through on pavement, so I proceeded, but not without thinking about being the “foolish old lady” who ignored warnings.

God was good – as it got dark and the water came up over the road, I turned on to a US highway and made the last 5 miles on “higher ground.”

To the dismay of my children (grown though they may), who groan when I begin with “life lesson,” I saw some very distinct principles illustrated:

1) When Craighead County says their roads are dangerous under water, don’t ignore it. There are times when we are given distinct, discernible warnings and we choose to look the other way.

2) Tunnel vision in achieving a goal can blind us to precarious choices we may make on the way.

3) Stupidity and perseverance are not synonymous.

4) Always remember! We have a God who knows our weariness, sees the water creeping over our roads, and never leaves us.

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Joy and Respect

Weekly Thought – April 21, 2026

Fred’s influence on others continues, even 5 years after his homegoing. “I find myself using his phrases and quoting his thoughts,” said JH. “He was so down to earth and the things he said just seem to fit in.”

Joy and Respect

Joy comes to those who can truthfully (yet humbly) know they deserve respect. We have an inner reading on our personal attributes which measure up. Feeling respect for oneself is somewhat like feeling we belong. Sadly, some people never feel the satisfaction of understanding their place in life. Some of this comes from never gaining self-respect.

Becoming respected begins with becoming respectable. Living life worthily is the way of joy and respect. Gandhi understood this.

Bill Glass, my friend who dedicated his life to prisoners, speaks often of the way the incarcerated think of themselves and others. Unfortunately, positive respect gets perverted into admiration for criminal behavior. He believes their path began with a lack of human respect. Most of them never understood respect is earned because of our human potential for being a contributing, loving person. And just as important, that we exercise self-restraint in preventing harm to others.

I always say service is the rent I pay for the space I occupy on this earth. Too often we measure worth in dollars. Respect doesn’t come through accumulation alone. For example, mothers who may have never made an outside dollar in their life but raise children well and hold their families together deserve great respect and honor. Some of those who deserve great respect earn the least. I think of teachers and preachers.

Once I talked to a retiring executive who said his lifetime ambition was to “leave a better team on the field than the one I joined.” He built a lifetime legacy. A boy scout told me they were trained to leave their campground cleaner than when they arrived. That is a tremendous way to develop respect for oneself and the organization. I love the story of the old man who donated his eye to a young man so after he was gone he knew the eye would go on seeing. Purposeful giving garners respect.

The wonderful thing about joyful respect is the opportunity to weigh ourselves daily as long as we live. If the scales show us a bit short, we can do something about it immediately. Those who show no interest in earning respect by making a contribution have very little joy and usually a lot of guilt.

This week think about: 1) What do I most respect about myself? 2) How am I paying my rent? 3) Who models respect most profoundly?

Words of Wisdom: “Purposeful giving garners respect.”

Wisdom from the Word: “The hope of the righteous is joy, but the expectation of the wicked will remain unfulfilled.” (Proverbs 10:28 NET Bible)

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Spiritual Dishonesty

Weekly Thought – April 14, 2026

Fred referred to himself as doing “crooked thinking on the straight and narrow.” Leadership Journal titled an article in 1983, Straight Answers in a Crooked Age. Fred’s article on intellectual integrity within the community of faith is excerpted this week.

“Is this Fred Smith who wrote You and Your Network?” The question from a stranger at Asbury Seminary began a conversation on Fred’s impact. God’s wisdom never ages. Fred is in heaven, but his earthly work continues.

Spiritual Dishonesty

I was playing golf with the head of a financial company. Out of the blue he asked me, “Fred, do you think God will take away my money because I’m not active in church?” “What makes you think he will?” I asked. “My family tells me he will.” They’re using religion to police him. No wonder so many have a jaundiced view of our God.

This goes on all the time. I was listening to the tape of a Christian friend’s funeral. The officiating minister said, “Jesus got lonesome in heaven and took Chuck home to be with him.” What is that widow supposed to think about such a capricious God? What do his children and grandchildren think about a God who gets so lonesome He takes away someone they love? I thought to myself if Jesus wasn’t with Chuck during life, then Chuck isn’t with Jesus now! What intellectual dishonesty.

Growing up in a parsonage I had a bird’s eye view of people who took out their hostilities intimidating others with the threat of God’s displeasure. It took me a long time to understand a God of grace.

I was speaking at a meeting in our state capital. After the meeting, a young man with a bright, but noticeably serious, face came up to me. “Mr. Smith, do you have anything I can say to my wife? We have just lost our two year old son.” He paused and then quietly said, “Do you think I am getting paid back for my past sins?”

I don’t know who put that idea in his head, but I would love to write that person a long letter about the nature of God. I would write about a God I know who doesn’t carry out grudges against unsuspecting and innocent children. As I said this to him, he was relieved.

We are called to spiritual integrity. We are called to rightly represent God.

This week think carefully about: 1) What inaccurate views of God am I carrying? 2) How do others attempt to police me for their own ends? 3) What freedom in Christ am I being called to display?

Words of Wisdom: “We are called to rightly represent God.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is present, there is freedom.” (2 Corinthians 3:17 NET Bible)

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Purposeful Mentoring

Weekly Thought – April 7, 2026

Fred believed in stretching by adding responsibility. He assumed others wanted to do their best and to grow; he mentored by adding weight.

“The weekly thought came at just the right time for me. Thank you continuing Fred’s work,” wrote a North Carolina man. He is growing through stretching.

Purposeful Mentoring

A common mistake is thinking mentoring means older men visiting with younger men without an agenda and moving eventually toward a Bible study or prayer time. Visiting, Bible study, and prayer are all excellent activities, but they are not mentoring.

Mentoring is a one-on-one relationship for the specific and definable development of a skill or an art. One of my favorite mentoring stories is the young pianist who came to Leonard Bernstein and asked to be mentored. Bernstein said, “Tell me what you want to do, and I will tell you whether or not you’re doing it.”

When you analyze this, you realize Bernstein truly understood mentoring. The young man initiated the contact, had a specific request, and made the request of an authority. I assume the young man didn’t come to Bernstein only to get rich as a concert artist, but because he wanted to be a better pianist.

I am often asked, “How do I look for the right mentor?” The mentor and mentoree must share a compatible philosophy. Our goals and methods are really an expression of our fundamental life philosophies. As a Christian, in mentoring someone who wants to grow spiritually, the process must be built on divine principles. A young man came to me asking for my help in making him a millionaire. That was his life’s goal. His focus was on materialistic, humanistic outcomes. I told him we were not compatible philosophical, so I would not be a good mentor for him.

The mentor needs to be knowledgeable in the subject and objective in his assessments. The mentor who says what the mentoree wants to hear is irresponsible. He should not counsel in matters in which he is not an expert or pass judgment in subjects beyond his limitations. It is important to be able to say, “I don’t know; I’ve had no experience with that.” But, if that becomes a common response, this is not a good mentoring relationship.
The mentoree comes to learn and the mentor must have skills and experiences that promote the growth.

This week think about: 1) What skills do I have to offer a mentoree? 2) Who is my current mentor? 3) How do I ascertain if my philosophy matches another’s?

Words of Wisdom: “Mentoring is a one-on-one relationship for the specific and definable development of a skill or an art.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Let the wise also hear and gain instruction, and let the discerning acquire guidance!” (Proverbs 1:5 NET Bible)

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