Weekly Thought – October 6, 2026

Fred kept a plaque in his office which said, “Any man who kneels to God can stand up to anything.” It was a gift from Dallas friend Mattie Caruth Byrd. She affectionately called her oilman husband D.H. (for dry hole). Fred and Mary Alice were visiting with them one evening.

Harold was dwelling on his drilling miscues when Mattie walked into the room with two plaques. “Pick one,” she said. “Okay, Fred, you take the other.” Before handing it to him she said, “Harold, it is only a dry hole – move on and dig again.” Fred kept it as a reminder of his friends, but also of the much bigger message about choosing your response to circumstances.

Bitter or Better

A pastor received the diagnosis of fast-moving Alzheimer’s in his mid-fifties. He faced the end of his vibrant ministry and the death of his dream. He called the board together, told them what the doctors said and made this statement: “When I am incompetent to lead this congregation would you promise me I can clean up the fellowship hall and do other menial tasks as long as I am able? I want to know my life will still be one of service to the people of God.” He could be bitter. He could struggle with “why God?” But he didn’t. Now, I am not saying he didn’t have some very difficult days. I am not taking a Pollyanna view of his situation. But, he made a decision to become better, not bitter. When I heard this story I thought of the scriptural affirmation: “We are more than conquerors through Him who loves us.”

My friend Bax Ball lost an eye when he was three years old. He refused to use the loss as an excuse. When he went to an Ivy League school he checked to see if anyone has ever carried straight As and lettered in four sports. Finding none, he set his mind to achieve this goal – with one eye. Bax made a decision to be better, not bitter.

For many years I stayed close to a young man I met when he was in college. He experienced great business success and received many personal accolades. One day he called to say he was in chapter 11. We talked for awhile and at the appropriate time I gave him a saying which has been extremely helpful to me in difficult times: “Only your plans have failed, you have not.” Too often we get our ego so tied up with our plans we forget we are more than what we do.

Our experiences make us either bitter or better – we make the choice.

Think about: 1) What situation in my life right now requires this choice? 2) How can I turn bitter into better? 3) Who needs to hear Fred’s words today?

Words of Wisdom: “Only your plans have failed – you haven’t.”

Wisdom from the Word: “No, in all these things we have complete victory through Him who loved us!” (Romans 8:37 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – September 29, 2026

Fred and Mary Alice read “My Utmost For His Highest” everyday for nearly 50 years. Their first copy was given to them by Mrs. Orene Howard of Phoenix. Fred considered her the epitome of graciousness. It was a virtue he aspired to acquire. As a young businessman, he identified Will McGrath, CEO of a Cincinnati company who exemplified graciousness. He asked for a signed photograph and kept it in his office to remind him of the importance of living a life of grace.

Grace To You

It is hard for me to envision a mature Christian who isn’t gracious. Only in recognizing what we have been given in the gift of salvation do we really understand true grace. It is our privilege to be a distributor of grace to others. Gracious people cover the faults of others with love; tolerate mistakes; forego judgment; and, give encouragement.

Grace, like gratitude, is a flow through emotion. To keep it to ourselves is futile – it only rots like day old manna. We are shown grace in order to show grace to others. The constant flow refreshes us. I commented on a woman’s graciousness once and she responded: “Fred, thanks for noticing. I have dedicated it to Jesus Christ.”

There is a distinct difference between courtesy and graciousness. Courtesy can be used to manipulate others; grace has a purity of motive.

“Christians are supposed to be gracious, so working on it makes it phony.” I think that’s baloney. Reflexive grace is the result of good habits which are the results of conscious choices. We do it by an act of the will (and the help of the Spirit) until it becomes a knee jerk reaction and looks like our “natural self.” I once met the maid of violinist Heifetz. “You are so fortunate to work for such a great violinist.” “No, he’s a fake.” I was shocked and asked what she meant. “Well, when he stands out there and plays it looks so easy and he does it without any music, but I know better.” “At home he practices and practices, using music. Then he gets up there and plays all different.” I have always said the sign of a true genius is that the performance looks simple enough for anyone else to do it. He wasn’t a phony – he was a conscious perfectionist. Being gracious is like that – we need to practice until it looks easy.

Graciousness is the thoughtful, generous, unselfish wishing the best for the other person. It is one of God’s qualities and I would say that makes it a worthwhile goal for me.

This week think about: 1) Who is the most gracious person I know? 2) How hard am I working on being “full of grace?”3) Who do I need to thank for their graciousness?

Words of Wisdom: “Reflexive grace is the result of good habits which are the results of conscious choices.”

Words of Wisdom: “The Lord make his face to shine upon you, and be gracious to you.” (Numbers 6:25 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – September 22, 2026

Fred was known for his sense of humor. His capacity to remember punch lines amazed his friends. One sleepless night he made a mental list of 200 “stories.” He found humor in the strangest places. When asked about this, he said, “I either laugh or have high blood pressure.” When the children misbehaved he often reminded his wife Mary Alice, “the things we cry about today we will laugh about tomorrow.”

Humor is for Grownups

There’s no way to be truly mature without a well-developed sense of humor. Humor is accepting the fallibility of man – it resides in the area between perfection and imperfection, between where we are where we would like to be (or people think we are). The ability to laugh at yourself will insulate you from other ego mistakes.

Christianity Today’s Leadership Journal did a survey of its readers about content preferences. Not surprisingly, they found the first thing people read were the cartoons. Often, the most profound messages are contained in dialogue balloons.

One of my great stress relievers has been to see the funny side of my mistakes. It is easy to save face by laughing. Making ourselves human by the use of humor is a good technique. Humor is part of a healthy rhythm of life. It relieves the monotony.

But humor can be abused. I think sarcasm and malicious practical jokes are poorly disguised hostility. People who use humor to embarrass, castigate, or ostracize are cruel. Misused humor is a sign of immaturity.

Humor is communal – we like to laugh together. A friend told me he called a school friend every Sunday and read the comic pages together. I ran into my good friend Charlie “Tremendous” Jones, the international speaker and writer, at the Chicago airport. He gave me his world-famous Charlie hug, then handed me a book saying, “Read this!” For the next hour, we read pages of extemporaneous speeches collected in a book. We could have wasted the time with small talk, but instead we shared an hour of good-natured laughter.

Humor is developed as is appreciation for art or music. Understanding the responsibility of using humor well is part of the maturity process. The wise and good use allows us to improve relationships, relieve tension, provide psychological breaks, reduce conflict, and add an emotional lubricant to any situation.

This week consider: 1) What makes me laugh? 2) When is the last time I chose laughter over high blood pressure? 3) How am I teaching others to laugh?

Words of Wisdom: “Laugh or have high blood pressure.”

Wisdom from the Word: “At that time we laughed loudly and shouted for joy!” (Psalm 126:2 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – September 8, 2026

Fred knew the Bible spoke more about money than almost any other subject. He filled hundreds of files with one-liners, speech memos, letters, and passing thoughts regarding financial wisdom. He was interested in the philosophy of money. He created filters through which he passed experiences, opportunities, and people. Fred’s other area of intense thought was discipline. These disciplines served him well as he employed them to finish well.

Staying On Track

A few early disciplines served me well. I adopted these when I was making $208 a month in 1941.

1) Define a lifestyle then find a way to finance it. Earning as much money as I could never seemed to be the right focus for my life. Some advise, “Make all you can and then develop a lifestyle to consume the money.” That is materialism. It is also frustrating and most who espouse this philosophy find it lacking in meaning. We outlined a general lifestyle spread over a number of years that would be useful, pleasant, and full. Then we established the specifics from which we created our budget. As our earning capacity increased, we continued defining the lifestyle first, adding in a few luxuries (but not enough to live luxuriously). We wanted to avoid the pressures of temptation. By setting our own standard we avoided social competition.

2) Maintain adequate savings. Early in our married life we determined to save enough to be liquid for a year without working. Without savings a person can become a financial slave. It cost us in our early years because we had to forego a car, live in a one room flat, and do without many things others considered necessities. Adequate savings gives more than just a feeling of security. It provides a foundation for moral decisions you may be called upon to make. I once took a moral stand in a board room which was made much easier because I knew they didn’t have me hamstrung by my need for the next paycheck. In my earlier, more irreverent days I called my savings account FFGTHF (Fat Fred’s Go to Hell Fund). I was assuring myself I could always look a bad situation in the eye and say, “go take a running leap.”

3) Understand financial security. Security is a feeling, not a fact. No amount of money can actually give us security and yet we need to find a place of financial peace. Mary Alice and I decided what we would need for our ultimate needs, medical care, lifestyle maintenance, etc. and created a plan to get there. At first it was only about savings, but then as we reached the specific amount, it shifted to investment, putting “deposits in the memory bank,” charitable giving, and personal development. It was important to learn to feel as secure in our spending as it was in our savings. As a card-carrying member of the “waste not, want not” fan club, this was hard for me. I loved to say to our children: “A fool and his (her) money is soon parted.” But financial security was the attitude of providing for outflow, as well as inflow.

This week think about: 1) What does money mean to me right now? 2) What is my FFGTHF number? 3) How do I define financial security?

Words of Wisdom: “It was as important to feel secure in our spending as it was in our saving.”

Wisdom from the Word: “On the first day of the week, each of you should set aside some income and save it to the extent that God has blessed you so that a collection will not have to be made when I come.” (1 Corinthians 16:2 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – September 1, 2026

Fred and Mary Alice sat in their chairs, side by side, watching the devastation of 9/11/01. Fred loved New York City. During his consulting years with GENESCO and Mobil, he spent happy hours with Maxey Jarman or Harry Peckheiser exploring the wonders of the city he dreamed about as a young boy.

The destruction gave him opportunities to think about the nature of man. He also looked at questions he asked a group when talking about “things” as part of a Christian’s life. As we remember one of our country’s greatest losses, it is appropriate to share these “points to ponder.”

The Power of Possessions

My friend and mentor Maxey Jarman wrote a long memo to me responding to a question I posed about the loss of “things.” His summarized it: “A time of reversal and loss is a good time for a person to take stock of himself to see what he really wants out of life, whether he wants things that have eternal value, real value, or whether he particularly wants to have the kind of things that the world puts great value on.” He experienced great financial reversal, yet saw the blessing. Things were temporal; he built on the eternal.

In preparation for a men’s retreat on excellence, I thought about the power of possessions and asked myself and the group the following questions:
1) Am I obsessive about things, being either materialistic or antimaterialistic?
2) Do I use things as an escape from boredom?
3) Do I substitute things for accomplishment?
4) Am I able to “sit loose to things,” as Chambers says?
5) Is my view temporal or eternal?
6) What do things symbolize for me?
7) Am I accumulating things that appreciate or depreciate?
8) Does my anticipation of acquisition match my enjoyment?
9) How often do I use things to impress others?
10) How do I define the Christian view of possessions?
11) What traditions am I building as a legacy?
12) Do I acquire by plan or by impulse?
13) How do I define my lifestyle?
14) How high a price will I pay to be accepted?
15) Would I sacrifice excellence for wealth?
16) How would I respond if I lost everything?

This week carefully consider: 1) Which question made me stop? 2) What is my relationship to things? 3) Where is my security?

Words of Wisdom: “Things were temporal; he built on the eternal.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Do not accumulate for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal.” (Matthew 6:19 NET Bible)