The Providence of Coincidence

Weekly Thought – October 7, 2025

Fred lived a life of intentionality. He believed in the value of time and energy. Yet he chose to avoid a driven lifestyle. He encouraged others to enjoy seeing God’s plan unfold without trying to force His hand.

The Providence of Coincidence

I got a call from a men’s retreat I had led for several years on the West Coast. My physical condition kept me from being there in person, so they wanted to set up a phone call allowing me to say a few words and stay connected to the group. Over the many years this group and I had established a close relationship.

However, because the location was in the mountains there was serious difficulty with the phone connection. Even though they had one of the top professional soundmen working on the project, they were unable to access the venue’s phone lines. Without that they couldn’t set up the system to make the call go through.

Just as the technician was saying it was impossible to make the connection a man and his son walked in the door to attend the retreat. The man was there as a participant, but in his business life he was with the telephone company. They “happened” to drive up in his telephone truck and had all the tools and equipment needed to make this work. He even had the spurs in the truck which he needed to climb the telephone pole!

The next step was to talk with the next door neighbor asking for her patience and permission to disrupt her TV service during the phone call. She graciously invited the man and his son, offered them homemade lemonade – and even hugged them after hearing the story and wishing them well at the front door. Mission accomplished!

When they called me it was clear as a bell from both sides. So many things continued to happen that night “against all odds.” If you looked at the evening the numbers just didn’t add up. Even skeptics would have difficulty attributing it all to coincidence. I have seen them admit that certainly something greater than chance was at work. Years ago in looking at these situations I decided to coin a phrase “beyond arithmetic.” I used it to point to times when random and haphazard just don’t fit. When God connects the dots we can smile and simply say, “I knew that was you!”

This week consider: 1) How quickly do I recognize providence? 2) Where has God connected the dots in my life? 3) How can I train my family to look for God’s hand in their lives?

Words of Wisdom: “When God connects the dots we can smile and simply say, ‘I knew that was you!’”

Wisdom from the Word: “But Jesus looked at them and said, ‘With man this is impossible. But with God all things are possible.’” (Matthew 19:26 NET Bible)

The Wise Reader

Weekly Thought – September 30, 2025

Fred believed one of the key elements of maturity came through reading, association, and travel. Almost monthly he received books on a wide variety of topics from friends and acquaintances. He appreciated their thoughtfulness, but he had a basic principle: “I do not feel the obligation to read a book just because someone sends it to me. I also do not believe reading requires me to start at the beginning and complete the entire book. I search for the excerpts which are helpful.”

The Wise Reader

In a book I read recently the author says that some people get to age 35 or 40 and then level off in terms of their personal accomplishments, never climbing any higher. He said that during the younger part of your life, just being alive is enough to drive you forward, but that energy begins to wane. Unless you have a spiritual drive that urges you forward, the physical runs out and you peak.

One of the sources of motivation for me is reading. We can’t keep up without it. Let me ask you something: “What do you read? Do you read objectively? Do you say what do I need to read to improve?” Until you do, you miss the best of reading.
Of course, it is impossible to read everything. I learned a long time ago that my particular interests and gifts are in three areas: theology, philosophy, and psychology. I am an eclectic reader and intrigued by ideas, but since I am a slow reader, concentrate my reading in these three areas. Make clear decisions about what you read and why.

I wear glasses and maybe you do, too. Mine probably cost about the same as yours. Would you trade lenses with me just because I asked you to? Of course not! That would be silly because yours fit you and mine fit me. Reading works the same way. Are you reading what the boss is reading or are you reading what fits you? Are you reading a book because someone sent it to you or because it was on the best seller list?

You wouldn’t wear someone else’s glasses so don’t let someone else’s interests, enjoyment, or career direction determine the use of your reading time.

Understand what your purpose is for reading and carefully discipline your choices.

This week think about: 1) What three books have most profoundly influenced me? 2) What am I reading right now? 3) How would I begin a conversation with my favorite author?

Words of Wisdom: “Make clear decisions about what you read and why?”

Wisdom from the Word: “Then books were opened, and another book was opened – the book of life.” (Revelation 20:12(b) NET Bible)

Making Good Decisions

Weekly Thought – September 23, 2025

Fred expertly made decisions. He skillfully separated the objective from the subjective modes. One of his frequently used “Fred Saids” was “keep current on the facts.” He emphasized the importance of correct data in the process.

Making Good Decisions

Our life is a network of decisions. A few are vital, but many are less important. For example, the choice of a spouse and the decision to have children are two of life’s most critical decisions. Buying a new suit may seem to be critical at the moment but unless your choice creates a serious fashion faux pas it falls into the “middle of the road” category. As I say this I think of an impertinent waitress in our vacation home’s local restaurant… “Well Mr. Smith, I see you dressed yourself this morning.”

Decision making is both an art and a science. There are a few who are intuitively gifted to do this well by being able to see the problem and possible solutions in the same exercise. Charles Kettering, the automotive genius said, “A problem well defined is half solved.” One of my mentors often said, “The secret of good decisions is in knowing all the options.” His process was to outline them all and then choose the best one.

Before Robert McNamara when he was president of the Ford Motor Company was well known for his practice of accepting a colleague’s suggestion, then quickly responding, “What other possibilities did you reject in order to accept this one?” Many times the individual would have to admit that the one offered was the first one to be considered. McNamara would then end the conference and excuse the person to go back and consider other alternatives.

In order to pick good options, you first have to know the object of the decision: what is it supposed to solve; does it apply to the problem or to the possibilities.

I try to first define the current reality by establishing the current facts… not what I wish they were, but what they actually are. Then I think about how each option can be implemented and activated. Solutions that cannot be executed are impractical and unusable. I have seen executive decision makers who put policies in place which were unenforceable and subsequently made management look weak.

A good decision is structurally sound and effectively executed.

Carefully consider this week: 1) What decisions do I have before me this week? 2) How do I establish my priorities? 3) Who models effective decision making for me?

Words of Wisdom: “I try to first define the current reality by establishing the current facts… now what I wish they were, but what they actually are.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Now give me wisdom and discernment so I can effectively lead this nation. Otherwise no one is able to make judicial decisions for this great nation of yours.” (2 Chronicles 1:10 NET Bible)

The Blood of Life

Weekly Thought – September 16, 2025

Fred moved from earth to heaven on August 17, 2007 at 9:15 AM. Three days a week for the last 8 years he traveled to a dialysis center where his blood was circulated and cleansed. The lessons he learned during those sessions were often used as illustrations in his speaking. This week he tells a personal story never before related before being used in the Elliott Class of the Highland Park Methodist Church in the late 1980s or early 1990s.

The Blood of Life

Sometimes you keep stories to yourself because they are very personal. Sometimes the deep satisfaction they reflect keeps them private. This is a story from my early manhood I have never told before – simply because it was extremely personal and very satisfying. It didn’t need any broadcasting.

When I was a young man in the life insurance business I went into a lawyer’s office where an attorney and his daughter practiced together. As I spoke with them they were obviously upset, and asked me what my blood type was. A very strange question from a prospective client indeed. But I could tell by their faces they sincerely needed my answer. When I answered his question he replied, “That is exactly what we need!” After a moment he continued, “My brother is dying in St. Thomas Hospital right now and desperately needed a blood transfusion immediately. The attorney went on to ask, “Would you give him some of yours?”

We immediately got into their car, traveling to the Nashville hospital. Without doing anything than taking off my suit coat and laying down on a cot beside the brother’s hospital bed they directly transferred my blood to him without modern processing because the need was so urgent.

He lived and expressed great appreciation for my willingness to help him. He even offered to pay me for the donation.
He and his family saw the effect the gratitude had on me. They understood I didn’t want payment. In fact, it would have been inappropriate. I never saw him again; I never heard from any of his family members, either. But I experienced total, real satisfaction.

When our souls were in need of a donation for our salvation, Jesus shed His blood. When our souls were perishing His blood provided a way for us to access eternal life. Christ gave us something that we cannot buy – we can only receive it by faith – namely His grace. Growing up in the home of a Southern Baptist pastor the hymns were a constant companion. I will always remember the booming voice of my preacher father… “Would you be free from the burden of sin? There’s power in the blood!”

This week carefully consider: 1) What does the “blood of Christ” mean to me? 2) Who has benefited from a spiritual infusion? 3) Where am I applying the power of the blood in my life?

Words of Wisdom: “Sometimes you keep stories to yourself because they are so private.”

Wisdom from the Word: “But if we walk in the light as He himself is in the light, we have fellowship with one another and the blood of Jesus cleanses us from all sin.” (1 John 1:7 NET Bible)

Fundamental People Principles

Weekly Thought – September 9, 2025

Fred thought in principles. He aptly applied discernment, understanding, and experience to fundamental principles. He often said: “Principles never change; just the illustrations.” His well-disciplined study of human nature and his ever alert view of human behavior gave him ample “material” as he would say.

Fundamental People Principles

Here are three simple things I have learned about people:

1.) It is a total waste of time trying to correct other people’s mistakes. I should use the time to utilize their strengths and buttress their weaknesses. Too many training courses focus the majority of the time on overcoming weaknesses – a complete misunderstanding of human nature and effective management.
2.) You can’t change anybody else. Each person has to change himself or herself – you can’t do it for them. You can set up pressures or you can be alert to opportunities for encouragement, but the action can’t be taken for another. You might even create fear that will cause a temporary change, but nothing permanent. We spend an awful lot of time putting temporary situations in place, thinking we have changed a person but in the end it is an inefficient, ineffective short term fix.
3.) People are the way they are because they want to be that way. I haven’t always believed that. In fact, when I started out in life I wanted to be a social worker… until I became extremely disillusioned with people. Now I am totally convinced each of us is responsible for our choices. Instead of operating from this principle, we rationalize and give all sorts of reasons that people are not the product of their own decisions. One thing I have clearly observed: we do this for ourselves, as well.

When we have an opportunity to change and don’t take it, the decision is being made to stay in the same place. On the other hand, when you go through personal challenges without hiding, rationalizing, or running away, a decision is being made to grow and mature. The person who comes through is the person of choice.

Finally, people who want to change make a plan knowing growth doesn’t “just happen.” Conversely, people who avoid planning and just “go with the flow” often treat the lack of change, opportunity, or maturity with rationalization.

As I like to say, “Principles never change; just the illustrations.” These simple fundamentals can work as a skeleton for effective personal relations. Each interaction will have its own set of particulars (or illustrations). I find practice is the key to mastering these principles.

This week carefully consider: 1) How well do I understand people? 2) Which simple principle is most helpful for me this week? 3) Where in scripture can we find substantiation?

Words of Wisdom: “Principles never change; just the illustrations.”

Wisdom from the Word: “And all who heard Jesus were astonished at his understanding and his answers.” (Luke 2:27 NET Bible)

Entering the Throne Room

Weekly Thought – September 2, 2025

(On September 1, 1915 Fred was born to Mathew Bunyan and Amye Smith 110 years ago.)

Fred demonstrated the power of prayer. He believed in it and practiced it diligently. Prayer was also very private for him. A lifetime memory for his children is seeing him on his knees beside their bed before sleep. He faithfully followed the habit taught by his parents. The image of humility was permanently affixed. Mary Alice carefully noted her earnest requests for her family, their safety, their security, and their “sanctification.”

Entering the Throne Room

Prayer is both marvelous and mysterious. How marvelous hat a sinner saved by grace can at any time commune with the Lord Almighty, Creator of heaven and earth. In the night when I awake and am tempted by frustration, it is so comforting to be able to talk to the Lord about it.

I am not alone in my experience. One of the psychiatrists who helped select the first astronauts told me how they tested them in total isolation seeing how much they could withstand. He said some could go indefinitely, and when they examined them, they found that they were the ones who could pray. If we would only realize our opportunity for direct communication with the Lord, how much more we would do it.

I have found expressing gratitude to God gives me great satisfaction. Surprisingly, I have also found it has increased my self-respect. It is so much easier to live with myself as a person who is grateful, rather than a complainer and whiner.

Mysterious is the nature of intercessory prayer. How can my request impact God’s love for others? Yet we are instructed to pray for one another. Realistically, I would be frustrated if I could not pray for others when I feel there is nothing else I can do for them. Often people will say, “At least I can pray for you.” I always want to remind them praying is the most they can do for me.

I have never felt that the number of people praying for a person or situation is the vital point. I do not think God is a politician who is swayed by numbers or polls. And I definitely do not believe God is impressed with celebrity. Thinking getting famous Christians on your prayer team doesn’t get your request moved to the top of the pile. I remember the widow whose life was terrifically limited, but all of us wanted her to pray because we knew she had suffered hardship, and deprivation while trusting wholly in God.

When we say, “I will be praying for you” it is a serious commitment. Promising to join the company and community of the committed through prayer is entering into the mystery of the faith. Voicing the willingness to join with others around the throne is speaking the intention of sharing the marvelous and mysterious presence on behalf of another.

This week carefully consider: 1) How real is prayer for me? 2) Who has asked me to pray for them? 3) What does my prayer list look like?

Words of Wisdom: “I have found expressing gratitude to God gives me great satisfaction.”

Wisdom from the Word: “When you seek me in prayer and worship, you will find me available to you. If you seek me with all your heart and soul.” (Jeremiah 29:13 NET Bible)

Standing Strong

Weekly Thought – August 26, 2025

Fred and Mary Alice maintained high ethical standards in the home. The children were keenly aware of what it meant to be a Smith. There were times when each child faced the challenge of peer pressure, but the training gave them strength to hold to the family north star.

Standing Strong

Frankly, I was surprised to find in my study that loyalty is one of the key elements in love. I thought spontaneity and extravagance were always primary characteristics. But after years of marriage and long-term friendships I put loyalty at the top of the list. This virtue gains in its dearness year by year.

For example, when I was near death I woke up to see a sign taped to the wall at the bottom of my hospital bed. It featured just four letters: YTCO. Our granddaughter Catherine (daughter of son Fred and his wife Carol) recalled a story which was important to the Smith culture so she made the sign for me. Confederate Cavalry Commander Jeb Stuart always closed his letters to General Robert E. Lee with the words “Yours To Count On.” It became a family motto. During that time I could open my eyes, see her sign, and know she was saying, “We are with you, Grandfather. We love you.”

I am a connoisseur of donut shops. I have sampled them nationwide. In Grand Saline, Texas, I was visiting one of the best. Across from me was a country couple. She wore gingham and he wore overalls. Finishing before me, he got up to pay. She didn’t move which surprised me. He even went outside and opened the truck. When he returned he bent over and picked her up which revealed a full body brace. He carried her out to the pickup while most of us silently watched through the shop’s front window.

The waitress stood at the counter and remarked, “He took his vows seriously, didn’t he?”

God’s love is evidenced through His loyalty to us. “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Our names are engraved on the palms of His hand – permanently. Nothing can separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus.

This week carefully consider: 1) How often do I seriously think about loyalty? 2) Who do I know who models loyalty in family, work, and community? 3) What does God’s loyalty to me mean day by day?

Words of Wisdom: “YTCO – Yours to Count On”

Wisdom from the Word: “For I am ever aware of your faithfulness, and your loyalty continually motivates me.” (Psalm 26:3 NET Bible)

Tribulation Payday

Weekly Thought – August 19, 2025

Fred spent his last years immobilized by physical incapacity. For over 7 years he underwent dialysis treatment three times weekly. Until the last months he continued to speak, mentor, and develop while seated in his wheelchair. Even in the last week of his life he hosted dozens in his Saturday morning “Fred in the Bed” sessions. This excerpt from a Sunday School lesson was delivered before his Saturday events took place.

Tribulation Payday

Until I spent several months on my back, unable to move I didn’t really appreciate the development of patience through tribulation. Perhaps I could have given you “three points of managing a patient attitude,” but I didn’t come with three points and a poem about patience. I do want you to know what I learned (and am still learning). Now I know that true patience reduces unhealthy distress without diminishing healthy stress. Patience brings poise to our life, enabling us to discern between important and unimportant. Tribulation is the soil in which patience flowers.

The Apostle Paul writes to the church at Rome and reminds them: “Tribulation brings about perseverance; perseverance, proven character’ and proven character, hope.” In his epistle we see the direct line between tribulation and hope – and the blessings in the process as character is developed.

Brother Lawrence prayed for tribulation in order to become stronger so that he might endure even more tribulation. He saw suffering as “God’s gymnasium.” My Type A friends always demand results – and quickly. Tribulation has no regard for personality types! It has its own rhythm and pace. Personally, I found patience to be the only answer to the frustration in these months. And, if honest, I recognized much of that restlessness and aggravation was related to the attack on my ego through dependence on others and extreme physical limitations. I wanted my own way; I wanted my own independence.

I know the response to tribulation can be a choice. We may not control the circumstances, but we can manage our attitude as Dr. Frankl taught us in “Man’s Search for Meaning.”

Patience, like most of our highly valued qualities, is slow growing. It is an oak tree, not a cornstalk. It is available to all of us when we are willing to pay the price. Our decision to face tribulation in faith and fortitude makes the difference.

In times of tribulation we must always remember sweating it out in God’s gymnasium is hard work, but we know our Coach has the plan for our maturity and transformed character.

This week think about: 1) Where is tribulation serving as gym time? 2) How can I practice spiritual discipline in troubled times? 3) Who can I encourage with Fred’s words this week?

Words of Wisdom: “Patience, like most of our highly valued qualities, is slow growing.”

Wisdom from the Word: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness.” (Colossians 5:22 NET Bible)

Being Used By God

Weekly Thought – August 12, 2025

Fred believed God had a purpose for his life. Knowing he didn’t start out with a privileged background (in socio-economic terms), he became acutely aware of God’s plan for his usefulness. He spent time developing his gifts and making sure they were properly employed.

Being Used By God

I met Torrey Johnson when he was a young man first starting Youth For Christ. At that time I was asking certain people I admired for their photo and autograph. He gave me his with the inscription: “To Fred Smith, God’s man in God’s place.” I never felt I could hang that on the wall. I kept it in my desk drawer. I felt condemned by how seldom I felt that I was truly God’s man in God’s place.

During the times I felt that God was using me, I felt extremely small and extremely secure. When I felt big I felt insecure because I was depending on my own strength.

Recently when I asked a friend the usual question, “How’s it going?” he answered in the best possible way. He said, “Fred, I feel God is using me as I use my time to do the things that He wants done. It doesn’t get any better than this!” What a wonderful feeling to realize God is using us rather our using God. So long as we keep that spiritual dimension in our leadership, people will see God in us.

A great many people want to use God as a credit reference. They include their church work on their resume. They mention it in their bio so people will think them honest or reliable. They put fish symbols on their business cards, and car decals hoping others will believe they are more trustworthy than most others. Unfortunately, they can be relied upon to use God, but can God rely on them to be used?

An international evangelist once commented, “Everybody wants to be used by God but very few want to be prepared to be used.” The old gospel song line accurately describes the process: Melt me, Mold me, Fill me, Use me.

When I was growing up in a Southern Baptist pastor’s family we sang a hymn with this line: “I am satisfied with Jesus. But the question comes to me as I think of Calvary. Is Jesus satisfied with me?” Wanting to be God’s man in God’s place is the desire to satisfy Him.

This week carefully consider: 1) When do I feel God’s pleasure? 2) What can I do this week to bring beauty to my purpose? 3) What words comes to mind when I know I am being used by God?

Words of Wisdom: “Most Christians want to be used by God, but considerably fewer want to be prepared for His use.”

Wisdom from the Word: “But I am full of the courage that the LORD’s Spirit gives and have a strong commitment to justice.“ (Micah 3:8(a) NET Bible)

Viewing Our Values

Weekly Thought – August 5, 2025

Fred made no effort to excel at all endeavors. He established his core values early in life and designed his goals to be in sync with them. He had clear priorities and held to them in respect to the investment of his time, energy, and financial resources.

Viewing Our Values

The simple life is balanced. It is not necessarily devoid of tensions, but the stresses are balanced. The wife of my good friend John Bullock told me she always wanted her husband to have two irritations at a time. Why? Because, while having one just about drove him crazy, with two he could oscillate between them and keep his balance. She was a wise woman.

If our core values were manifested physically we could see the grotesqueness of imbalance. Years ago I saw a man with elephantitis. It was hard not to notice his distorted features. I started thinking about the impact if our value systems resulted in a physical representation. What if people could see externally who we are internally? What would a person given over to greed look like? How difficult would it be to overlook the deformity of self-absorption, uncontrolled lust, or unchecked ambition? On the other hand, we often do see an external demonstration of self-sacrifice, loyalty, truthfulness, and love, don’t we? Have you ever thought about the external presentation of your values?

Great sculpture has to be balanced. Skilled artists can look at a mass of stone or clay and see where the center of gravity is – where the balance exists. A mistake can result in destruction of that balance and cause artistic disaster. Purpose is shown through the balanced life, just as the purpose of the artist’s material is displayed through his capable, disciplined work.

Remember the great story of the statue of David? When Michaelangelo was asked how he carved such a splendid work out of a flawed piece of marble. “Simple,” he replied. “I just cut away everything that wasn’t David.” A balanced, healthy life is the result of having a values vision and consistently cutting away everything that doesn’t fit. Sometimes it is tedious, even sacrificial, but it is essential. A life driven by Godly values reflects the nature of the Holy.

Balance doesn’t mean devoting equal energy and resources to each and every endeavor… that would pull us apart. Identifying our purpose and designing life habits to maximize our gifts creates a life of beauty. Living with values that allow our outer person to reflect our inner being results in consistency.

This week think carefully about: 1) How satisfied am I with the inner person’s values? 2) What can I do this week to bring beauty to my purpose? 3) Where do I need to rebalance?

Words of Wisdom: “Balance doesn’t mean devoting equal energy and resources to each and every endeavor… that would pull us apart.”

Wisdom from the Word: “An honorable man makes honorable plans; his honorable character gives him security.” (Isaiah 32:8 NET Bible)

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