Weekly Thought – June 25, 2019

Fred and Mary Alice married on June 25, 1937 in Nashville, TN. He loved to say, “We had $5.00 when we married. And if she had saved more we would have had more since it was her $5.00. They rode a trolley downtown and shared a Krystal hamburger for their honeymoon. They celebrated 67 years in 2004 just months before Mary Alice’s death. They truly understood and lived ‘til death do you part.

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The Value of Network

Networking has various levels and definitions. I want to talk about the qualities of healthy relationships within your personal network.

First, establish mutuality. I maintain the strongest friendships have a foundation of mutual benefit, meaning we can be equally helpful to each other. For example, Jack Modesett and I talk frequently on the phone sharing ideas, quotations, and articles. He knows my major interests and I know his. When each of us sees something we know the other would appreciate, we make a point of sharing it. Mutual benefit.

Second, check out chemistry. By that I mean finding out if you have the same values and philosophy of life. For example, if one is fundamentally selfish and self-focused, this will not fit well with another who sees other-focused as a core value.

Third, assure confidentiality and trust. There are different degrees of relationship in networks. The essential nature of deep relationships leads to knowledge of intimate details. Therefore, the need for absolute confidence and trust is critical.

Fourth, take the necessary time. My mentor, Maxey Jarman, said he could not afford the time to have many friends. In my own relationships I take this responsibility seriously. I will not shoot from the hip or give a top of mind and quick reaction without adequate preparation and thought. My friends count on me to take the time to be their friend. I, also, know my inner circle devotes time to my questions.

Fifth, diversify expertise. I want to have many different areas of expertise in my personal network. For example, when I have a business decision one of the men I call is Lee Roy Mitchell because I am confident in his acumen and experience.

Networks are helpful on minor, as well as major issues. For example, I may simply need the name of someone my memory won’t recall as quickly as I would like. My networking Rolodex includes a most helpful variety of people.

A good network keeps the members apprised of events that would be interesting or helpful. Over the years I enjoy tearing out articles from magazines or newspapers and attaching a small “thought you would be interested” handwritten note before sending it out.

This week carefully think about: 1) Which point sparks my interest? 2) Who in my network helps me grow? 3) What do I need to strengthen my network?

Words of Wisdom: “I maintain the strongest friendships have a foundation of mutual benefit, meaning we can be equally helpful to each other.”

Wisdom from the Word: “This saying is trustworthy, and I want you to insist on such truths, so that those who have placed their faith in God may be intent on engaging in good works. These things are good and beneficial for all people.” (Titus 3:8 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – October 2, 2018

Fred thought deeply from a young age. He confused his parents with his need for a quiet, “thinking place” which he found in the attic. He also took his responsibility to those coming behind seriously. Although he was not considered a social activist, he devoted much time and energy to the stretching of younger leaders. On March 3, 1954 he wrote a speech memo (notes to himself for future talks) about the legacy of his generation. Ironic that we are living out generations later the legacy he foresaw. This is an unusual Weekly Thought because it exists in a list of thoughts, but the implications generate great thought. Fred was born in 1915 and wrote this piece to those born in 1940 and beyond.

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Our Legacy to the Next Generation

We have given the next generation (editor’s note: now known as builders or the silent generation):

• Religion without conviction
• Science without conscience
• Kinsey without marriage
• Excitement without achievement
• Security without effort
• Knowledge without wisdom
• Nightmares instead of dreams
• Techniques without principles
• Precepts without examples
• Freedom without responsibility
• The present without promise
• The future without fruition
• Marching orders without marching songs
• Education without motivation
• Prosperity without peace
• War without reason
• Art without beauty
• Brotherhood without Godhead
• Songs without souls
• Enterprise without enthusiasm
• Fission without feeling
• Fusions without faith

Editor’s Note: Fred’s speech memo developed the negative side of legacy. Even though there are no memos which list the positive, be assured he believed in the “faith of the fathers” which passed strength and trust down to the next generation. Perhaps it is our task to write the other list.

This week think carefully: 1) Which on this list makes me stop and think? 2) How has my generation years later solved any of these dilemmas? 3) What am I leaving for the next generation?

Words of Wisdom: This week take a moment and reread the list

Wisdom from the Word: “Wisdom, like an inheritance, is a good thing; it benefits those who see the light of day.” (Ecclesiastes 7:11 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – June 5, 2018

Fred was known as a “mentor to a generation of leaders.” Through the Breakfast With Fred Leadership Institute his legacy of mentoring continues. The “What’s Next Roundtable” focuses on mentoring, networking, and persevering. For the month of June the Weekly Thoughts will shine a light on principles of leadership Fred saw in his mentor, Maxey Jarman. This is Fred’s introduction to the article.

Intro to Mentor

I first met Maxey Jarman back in the mid-thirties when I was about twenty. I had been teaching a Sunday School class in a nurses’ training program at Nashville General Hospital. One of the attendees became an industrial nurse, and she introduced me to her boss, the director of personnel. I said to myself, “I’d like a job like that.” I had no training or experience, but I knew General Shoe (later GENESCO) was one company in town where there might be such a position. So, I decided to meet the President, Maxey Jarman.

Maxey always bought gas at the station next to the plant. I waited until he drove up in his red Chrysler, then walked over and introduced myself. We just shook hands. He probably thought it was very strange, but in his early thirties he was rather shy and not very gregarious.

Mary Alice and I had just married and rented out one of our two bedrooms to a factory worker at General Shoe. She told me of some labor problems at work, and I called Mr. Jarman, offering my viewpoint. He invited me to his office. We had a very short conversation, and I heard no more about it. But he impressed me so much I decided to join the men’s Bible class he taught. They had me lead the singing and eventually elected me president of the class.

One Wednesday night after church in 1941, Maxey invited me to have a Coke at the Rexall Drug. We sat on fountain stools, and he asked me what I planned to do in life. “I’d like to be a personnel man,” I told him. He asked if I had any experience, and I said, “No, I’ve never even seen a personnel department. But I met a guy who’s a personnel man, and I’d like that kind of work.”

That night I told Mary Alice I thought he would offer me a job, and no matter what he offered, I was going to take it because I wanted to be associated with him. I sensed then I wanted to know him and work for him for life. There was something significantly different about this man. Being a preacher’s kid in the poor part of town, I’d become cynical about Christians. But Maxey personified reality. This was so valuable to me at that time…here was a real man, a genuine person; and our years of friendship intensified that evaluation. When he offered me a position in personnel, I was elated.
I had never seen a man so serious about wanting to reach the truth. For forty-three years I wrote my observations of Maxey on scraps of paper, everything from church bulletins to napkins. Last year I compiled them – 500 pages of separate paragraphs. I spent three weeks at our lake house doing little but reading and thinking. When I told him about this, he said, “I’m amazed. What a waste of time!”

This week think about:1) Who has influenced my life like Maxey Jarman impacted Fred? 2) What lessons have I learned from my mentors? 3) How have I studied my mentors and put the lessons into play?

Words of Wisdom: “But Maxey personified reality… here was a real man, a genuine person.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Now give me wisdom and discernment so I can effectively lead this nation. Otherwise no one is able to make judicial decisions for this great nation of yours.” (2 Chronicles 1:10 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – May 8, 2018

Fred thought and spoke much about life with meaning. His executive friends often cluttered their world with work to the point of shutting out everything else. His thoughts to a Dallas group in 1981 are still relevant and helpful.

What Does It Mean?

Recently I met an old and prosperous friend who wanted to relive earlier times. Once an active layman, he has become stagnant. I asked him if he remembered the scripture verse “when it is day I long for the night and when it is night I long for the day.” He became quiet and then barely audibly said, “Fred, that’s me.” Like too many, when given the choice of filling the soul or the pocketbook – he grabbed the cash. His poor soul has been on a starvation diet. He needs some nourishment.

In East Texas when I first saw the large beetles on the pine trees, I thought they were alive. They looked completely natural. But when I looked more closely, they were hollow. Often I have to remember how possible it is to become hollow even while looking alive. The inside seems to go before the outside.

It isn’t easy to keep the inside renewed. Sometimes life seems to be a lot of activity and very little being. We use up the inside in maintaining the outside.

I truly wish I could help the many bored, frantic, angry, even violent, and meaningless people who cross my way… people who need to laugh, and love unselfishly… those who need relief from a social life that becomes rote and empty. Executives whose business life is their only life come into my office expressing their lack of preparation for life after career. I see so many who live with family lives which are fractured and scratchy – the home is only a transfer station where dirty laundry is deposited and bills are paid. These are the hollow ones who are overly concerned with the opinions of others. Some have let their bodies become little more than clothes racks or display mannequins – totally empty on the inside.

We need to help each other through the process of constant internal renewal of spirit. We need to assist each other be those worthy of respect, attention, and affection – whose insides and outsides both have substance.

Malcolm Muggeridge defines life as a mystery to be illuminated not a problem to be solved. When the true awe goes out, life becomes boring and repetitive. Too often I see prominent men and women who have substituted acquisition and entertainment for genuine awe. As a poor kid in the slums of Tennessee, I spent hours on my back leaning against the curb, looking up at the stars. Not many experiences rival those times. The awe of the universe stretched me.

This week think about: 1) How am I doing – am I getting hollow or whole? 2) Where do I find meaning for my life? 3) What one thing can I do this week to improve my family life?

Words of Wisdom: “Sometimes life seems to be a lot of activity and very little being. We use up the inside in maintaining the outside.”

Wisdom from the Word: “For wisdom provides protection, just as money provides protection. But the advantage of knowledge is this: Wisdom preserves the life of its owner.” (Ecclesiastes 7:12 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – May 1, 2018

Fred had a high view of giftedness and their use. He appreciated the effective application and dedication of gifts to the glory of God. He saw them as part of our stewardship responsibilities.

Down to Earth Gifts

As a businessman I work to hone my discernment skills. Good judgment and common sense are vital to successful leadership. These skills are often associated with the secular world, but I believe my ability to discern and make good decisions applies to my spiritual life, as well.

For example. I was asked to speak to a singles’ retreat hosted by Key Biscayne Presbyterian Church and pastored by my good friend Steve Brown. They didn’t ask me to come preach – they wanted my viewpoint as a Christian layman. I didn’t pack my discernment gifts away in my office desk drawer when I went into this church environment. I went knowing all my gifts were dedicated to God’s use.

During the time a young couple anticipating marriage asked me for coffee. She had a background of insecurity and instability. He was one of the most irresponsible young men I had ever met. They asked my opinion of their upcoming engagement. I was quite frank telling them she was looking for security but he didn’t offer that. He spent his time in non-revenue producing activities. He had a winning personality, but a losing plan for supporting a family.

She took me seriously and they decided not to marry. Three years later I was on a plane flying cross country. A flight attendant saw me and said “You are Fred Smith. Remember me from the singles’ retreat?” She gave me an update which included an upcoming marriage to a seminary professor.

At the same retreat a Christian lawyer asked me this question: “Is Christian morality more than legality?” He explained he thought if it were legal, then that meant it was moral. He amassed a great deal of money manipulating his ethical standards. “Legality is the minimum standard for the Christian, not the maximum” was my comment. Christian morality is a much higher bar. As he asked I made the decision to tell him the truth, not shade it or try to give him a way out. Discernment carries with it the responsibility of integrity and avoiding the desire to be liked when hard words are required.

Bringing our faith and our God-given gifts together makes sense. If we are given the ability to read people, their patterns, and their motivations the church needs us to operate in such a way that we are a benefit. We do not leave our thinking processes and strengths at work when we participate in the local church. Our gifts are given for full-time use.

This week consider: 1) What are my strengths God has given? 2) Who has helped me with wise counsel? 3) How can I effectively bridge work and faith?

Words of Wisdom: “I didn’t pack my discernment gifts away in my office desk drawer when I went into this church environment. I went knowing all my gifts were dedicated to God’s use.”

Wisdom from the Word: “A person’s gift makes room for him, and leads him before important people.” (Proverbs 18:16 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – October 17, 2017

Fred’s final book was entitled Breakfast With Fred. The publishers gave it a tag line: “Mentor to a generation of leaders.” Although that is not numerically measured, the anecdotal information is readily available. His wisdom which he quickly attributed to God, was a gift for which he was grateful. Another gift was his wife of 67 Mary Alice whose 102nd birthday would have been October 18th.

Keep On Questioning

(The AM/PM group asked Fred to capture some of the mentoring questions they discussed monthly. Later on, the BWF Project asked him to give his thumbnail answers to them. Fred had no preparation – these are his top of mind responses while lying in his hospital bed.)

1) How do I use small bits of time? I organize them to use these small snatches of time. Expect them to come and when they do then be prepared to utilize them. For an example, one of the greatest female executives I know carried note cards with her. Whenever she had to wait and had a little bit of extra time, would write personal notes and keep up with her friends. Red Motley, CEO of Parade magazine used these times to write personal notes in red pencil. Grady Wilson of the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association said the organization had the habit of using extra moments to contact friends. A businessman I knew in Chicago would walk between appointments and quote memorized scripture. Another friend of mine runs every morning, praying for hundreds of people while he covers mile after mile. Too many people think they have to make plans to write elegant letters requiring great time and crafting. Most people appreciate quick notes which show they are on someone’s mind. These little bits of time can be productive if we are creative and practical.

2) Am I more efficient or effective (i.e. orderly or organized)? Our esteemed friend Elizabeth Elliot was on a few days of vacation where Mary Alice and I were. In a conversation she asked if I were orderly. I knew my wife would give a truthful answer saying I was casual (usually known as sloppy). I told Elizabeth I was not orderly, but organized. I think orderliness takes too high a priority for many. Being organized means that while it looks disorganized (especially to my very neat wife) it isn’t because I can put my hand on anything I want. Being able to get my work done makes the difference. I often remind Mary Alice of the scripture admonition to not worry about the mess created when the donkey is threshing the grain. I am sure that is my paraphrase! In defense of orderliness it is an excellent quality in a manufacturing environment because it promotes precision. I always looked for it as I visited plants.

3) Am I called or driven? As I remember Gordon McDonald had an interesting book showing the difference between being called and being driven. To me it is a matter of doing what you enjoy and in line with your talents than doing something you have let yourself become required to do. I have long thought most situations in life either challenge us or threaten us. If we have a positive attitude about our opportunities then I think of them as challenges. If we are afraid and withdraw from opportunities then it seems we are threatened. Challenges give us confidence and energy; threats enervate us.

This week consider: 1) Am I called or driven? 2) How well do I use my time? 3) Which do I value more: orderliness or organization?

Words of Wisdom: “I have long thought most situations in life either challenge us or threaten us.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Let all things be done decently and in order.” (1 Corinthians 14:40 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – October 10, 2017

Fred answered these mentoring questions as a website exercise. He didn’t spend days or months preparing and crafting answers. He demonstrated his own principle: “speak from the overflow.” His disciplined thought life enabled him to engage in this activity because his life was preparation.

BWFLI will be initiating our Mentoring Roundtables in 2018. These questions will be foundational to a curriculum consisting additionally of articles, Fred Saids, You and Your Network, and conversation starters. Continue praying for us as we firm up our schedule, team members, and materials.

What Are You Thinking?

(The AM/PM group asked Fred to capture some of the mentoring questions they discussed monthly. Later on, the BWF Project asked him to give his thumbnail answers to them. Fred had no preparation – these are his top of mind responses while lying in his hospital bed.)

1) Do I put people in my life who personify desirable traits? I have found personifying desirable traits a valuable tool. Early in my business life I picked out six traits I thought would be helpful. I found six individuals who personified each of them. I hung a picture of these six on my office wall. I hung a picture of Christ at the top with a mirror for me to reflect my own image at the bottom. You should be looking for people who exemplify positive traits. For example, I had one picture of a man who personified graciousness; and another intellectual integrity. I found I could sit in front of these pictures and evaluate my growth in these areas. I think it was helpful for these men to know what their picture meant to me.

2) What are bad habits that may be building into reflexes? I have made a list of bad habits that I should try and eliminate. Some are temper, financial irresponsibility, cynicism, untruthfulness among others. I have to remember that unless it is prominent enough to be destructive, I don’t make it a primary concern. One that needs to be monitored and managed is the desire to be liked by my peers.

3) Do I have a friendly critic and what are their qualifications and responsibilities? I am more concerned that a critic is truthful than their being friendly. I imagine I used the word “friendly” to mean objective and interested in my development. Anytime I am criticized I should ask if the criticism is true. This is difficult since we tend to demean our critics. I like the old adage: “My critics are the guardians of my soul.” Be sure that any critic is skilled in the area of their criticism. I believe Proverbs indicates that a genuine, skilled critic will be more helpful than one who flatters you. One of my most successful friends says “I will accept no criticism from anyone who does not have something to gain from my success.”

4) How do I promote constructive criticism? Appreciation of valid criticism and changing as a result of it is generally enough to create another’s freedom to offer constructive observations.

5) To whom am I really accountable? I am only accountable to those who are expert enough to be helpful. Generally, we should be accountable to an outside source rather than ourselves. If we declare ourselves to be the only authority we have a great tendency to make exceptions favoring our behavior.

This week consider these: 1) What analysis have I done to identify my strengths and weaknesses? 2) Who are the people who personify the traits I consider important to my personal development? 3) If I chose six characteristics, what would they be?

Words of Wisdom: “Be sure that any critic is skilled in their area of criticism.”

Wisdom from the Word: “With God are wisdom and power; counsel and understanding are his.” (Job 12:13 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – October 3, 2017

Fred would agree with our Christian higher educational leaders who value character as the foundation of a God-honoring life. Many of the questions Fred asked explored personal integrity.

Ideas to Ponder

(The AM/PM group asked Fred to capture some of the mentoring questions they discussed monthly. Later on, the BWF Project asked him to give his thumbnail answers to them. Fred had no preparation – these are his top of mind responses while lying in his hospital bed.)

1) Am I a follower as well as a leader? Until we follow well we certainly cannot be effective leaders. I have never wanted a leader who had not had successful experience in following. In fact, seldom in life do we have complete and sole responsibilities for leadership only. Someone well disciplined in following understands well the principles in leadership. For example, in sports the quarterback follows the coach but leads the team.

2) What are the key relationships in my life? We need to relate well to our immediate family and honor our parents. We also need to commit to the relationships with worthwhile friends because they can be a lifetime asset. It is also healthy to develop good relations with our role models and our mentors. And of course, our spiritual relationship is primary and foundational.

3) Can I define my philosophy of life? Our philosophy, like our character, is the source of most of our important decisions. A good philosophy will make you useful. I have often said a right philosophy of life will see you successfully into the grave while a right theology will you successfully through the grave. To me a correct philosophy is one of stewardship not ownership. The Scripture says we have nothing but what we have received and so we are responsible for our gifts without having a right to them.

4) How do I value my time? Someone has said “show me your date book and your check book and I will tell you who you really are.” As we grow older we particularly understand the importance of investing time, not just spending it.

5) What am I currently doing for personal development? Our thoughts, actions, and decisions will largely determine who we will become. The more balanced we are in each area of our life (for example, career, family, faith, finances, physical, emotional, mental) the more productive we can be. No one other than Christ was truly balanced but that doesn’t mean we should neglect any areas. I find writing down my personal development plan is effective for accomplishment.

6) Do I learn chiefly by reading or hearing? Generally we are more proficient in one or the other. I have worked with and for highly effective executives who have a clear tendency toward one learning style. It is important to know your own style. Personally, I am a very slow reader but I retain a great deal. I take notes on almost everything I hear which works well for me in processing and applying the principles.

This week think about: 1) How prepared am I to answer these questions? 2) What helps me the most about Fred’s questioning process? 3) What question would I ask Fred if I could?

Words of Wisdom: “To me a correct philosophy of life is one of stewardship not ownership.”

Wisdom from the Word: “The Lord values the lives of his faithful followers.” (Psalm 116:15 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – September 26, 2017

Fred practiced mentoring by listening, asking questions, and applying principles. His ability to ask astute questions was part of his discernment gift which he developed through discipline and focus. We continue to provide questions he proposed to one of his monthly breakfast groups.

Thank you for praying for BWFLI. As we develop our 2018 and 2019 schedules, we do solicit your support.

Asking Myself

(The AM/PM group asked Fred to capture some of the mentoring questions they discussed monthly. Later on, the BWF Project asked him to give his thumbnail answers to them. Fred had no preparation – these are his top of mind responses while lying in his hospital bed.)

1) What are my areas of greatest discipline? We are most disciplined in the area in which we desire the most progress. For example, we can be highly disciplined in particular areas of our lives while remaining relatively undisciplined in others. I know musicians who are serious about their practice, but care little about their personal appearance! Or sadly, a singer may strive to perfect the singing skills while remaining a moral reprobate. Greatness always requires strict discipline. Exceptions and the desire to live that way are the enemy of discipline.

2) What do I learn and retain easily? I learn and retain those things that are most natural to me. I am convinced this is one of the indicators of our uniqueness. What I learn (and want to continue to learn) is a sign of my giftedness.

3) What destructive weaknesses do I have and how am I trying to buttress them? There are two things I need to know about myself – my constructive strengths and my destructive weaknesses. If the weakness does not work against the strength, I do not spend much time correcting it. I believe in developing my strengths and buttressing my weaknesses. I find a person will work much harder to improve strengths than correcting weaknesses. They have more energy displaying strengths than overcoming or improving weaknesses.

4) Do I expect more perfection from others than I do from myself? Generally we expect more perfection from others than ourselves because we understand our own limitations and not those of others. However, there are those who impose such high expectations on themselves they become difficult to work for and work with.

5) Am I willing to share credit easily? One of Canada’s most successful construction CEOs had this sign on his wall: “I can accomplish almost anything so long as I don’t care who gets the credit.” I find a great many problems in business are caused by those who want credit. Generally, they end up in competition with everyone.

This week think about: 1) Which question hits me hardest? 2) How can I use these questions in mentoring others? 3) What is God teaching me through Fred’s words?

Words of Wisdom: “I want to know two things: my constructive strengths and my destructive weaknesses.”

Wisdom from the Word: “After three days they found him in the temple courts, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions.” (Luke 2:46 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – September 19, 2017

Fred met monthly with men named “The AM/PM Group.” They met in the morning (AM) and Peter McNally (PM) organized it. The purpose was challenge and growth. The members gave Fred a photo-shopped picture of themselves as taller than real life with the inscription: “You stretched us.”

BWFLI has the privilege of relationships which continue beyond the campus events. During the hurricane disasters we have joined in prayer with several of our schools affected by the destruction. What a privilege to connect with these institutions of Christian higher education during these times.

Mentoring Questions

(The AM/PM group asked Fred to capture some of the mentoring questions they discussed monthly. Later on, the BWF Project asked him to give his thumbnail answers to them. Fred had no preparation – these are his top of mind responses while lying in his hospital bed. They will be featured for the next three weeks.)

1) How do I define integrity? To me, integrity is when all the parts do well what they are supposed to do.

2) What are my allergies (things that turn me off emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically)? I want to have an allergy to error, superficiality, and elements of a weak character. As my friend Steve Brown says, “The things that God dislikes I should dislike. The things He likes I should promote.”

3) What equally touches my head and heart? One of the most difficult things emotionally is to get the thoughts from our head into our hearts. Yet out of the heart are the issues of life. This means we must have our emotions join our mind before we are effective in what we do.

4) When do I feel guilty? A Christian should never feel guilty, but repentant in response to conviction. Once we confess we can be assured of His forgiveness. Sin should not be met with guilt, but with confession and forgiveness. One of the mystics said often our guilt is worse than our sin. This is because our guilt is self-imposed.

5) What can I concentrate on at length? Our passion should be for that which needs doing, is worth doing, and is do-able. If I can’t do it, then it is foolish to spend time thinking about it. I am strong on concentration because it is a discipline. I find focused concentration is one of the hallmarks of successful men and women. Solutions come through long term concentration.

6) How much change can I comfortably undergo? Change is always necessary for improvement. But change is not always improvement. Evaluation is required by comparing past, present, and consideration of the future to determine its value.

7) What necessary disciplines do I have (or lack)? Discipline is the ultimate result of habit. We must first decide what habits are necessary in every area of our life, and then we must practice until they becomes reflexes. Once they are reflexes then they easily become the disciplines which we do automatically. We should occasionally review our disciplines to make sure they are applicable to our progress and development.

Think carefully about this week: 1) Which of these questions should I think about this week? 2) Who needs me to ask them one of these questions? 3) How can I develop the skill of self-examination?

Words of Wisdom: “We must practice our habits until they become reflexes.”

Wisdom from the Word: “When the queen of Sheba heard about Solomon, she came to challenge him with difficult questions.” (1 Kings 10:1 NET Bible)