Weekly Thought – September 5, 2023

Fred valued character, relationships, and faith. He also valued money, but as a tool, not an idol. Growing up extremely impoverished financially, but he was rich in wisdom and life experience. Many sought his counsel as they both built businesses, and rebuilt from financial devastation.

Thinking About Money

Money is one of life’s greatest necessities. To disparage it is to show your ignorance of real life. Money is as important to a functioning life as blood is to the body. It is necessary, but should never be the end goal. We make blood to live, not live to make blood. In the very same way, I make money to live, but never live to make money.

I have explained to our children “money is option.” With it a multitude of choices are possible. Without it our experiences are limited. However, money does not bring with it the sense of responsibility needed to make wise choices and choose the right options. When someone gets into financial, social, or relational trouble, the root cause is rarely money itself, but the irresponsible use of it.

I am sure some of my friends have found a way to through life twice. They seem to think this time they are going to focus on making money and the next time through they are going to enjoy it. In my experience I found we only go through once and I think it makes sense to make it and use it well on the one time we get.

The truth about money has been known for a long time. Aristotle called it “barren” not because it didn’t bring benefits but because the emotions it brought were among the most base and not to be compared to the nobility of love, patriotism, and religion.

The man or woman whose greatest emotions are reserved for money knows nothing of the higher emotional life. Money may buy fun, even happiness at times, but never true joy. It has no potential for elevating the intellectual and spiritual potential.

The love of gold almost blocks the love for all else…certainly those things that are noble. How pale is the struggle for wealth when compared to the struggle for freedom, searching for truth, or the love of family.

This week think carefully about: 1) When I am honest with myself is money a tool or an idol? 2) How important was money when I grew up? 3) Who is a proper model for the prudent use of money?

Words of Wisdom: “The man or woman whose greatest emotions are reserved for money knows nothing of the higher emotional life.”

Wisdom from the Word: “What’s the point of a fool having money in hand to buy wisdom, when his head is empty?” (Proverbs 17:16 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – July 25, 2023

Fred knew how to focus. He used his thinking and examples to help individuals and corporations. When asked about problems in an organization he asked pointed questions of the leadership. Although he thought deeply he limited his serious contemplation to the implications of a few areas on the way we live.

Focus, Focus

To live a focused life we must recognize those things that distract and pull us off course. Some people spend as much time on inconsequential details as they do on the vital parts. Therefore, they become extremely hard workers, but do not become great accomplishers because they don’t understand that every job has vital elements which need to take top priority.

Mother Theresa said she did not plan to accept any more honors, even ones as prestigious as the Nobel Prize. She does not want to be diverted from her mission work in India. Few of us can turn down those kind of ego satisfactions to stay with the job.

One of the questions I always have to ask myself: “What am I really about? What am I trying to do? What is the main concept for the project?” Right now I am working with a corporation that appears to have lost its focus. They are running after numerous interesting ideas, but none of them fit together – there is no synergy or profitable outcome. Because they don’t focus in on what they really are about very shortly without reversing course they will lose their sustainability.

We, and they, need to watch ego satisfaction but also just avoiding the “interesting.” When I am researching I have to watch this. I pick up a book looking for a specific idea and unless I am careful I find intriguing thoughts capturing my attention. I certainly enjoy the time, but it does not achieve the initial purpose.

One of my clients asked me: “Fred, you own your own business. Why do you generally turn down invitations to play golf?” I love golf, but I also know my priorities for my weekly schedule and what it takes to accomplish my goals. I have to keep in mind the focus of my activity and also the schedule of my priorities.

Really effective people learn to pace themselves according to their responsibilities. I think this is a key part of maturity. Whether we call it “setting the vision,” “establishing the mission,” or simply “meeting the deadlines” focused living requires discipline for achievement and accomplishment. As a mentor of mine used to say, “that is the object of the exercise.”

Think carefully about this week: 1) How clear am I on the difference between the vital and not so vital in the parts of my job? 2) What can I do this week to clarify ways to focus for greater accomplishment? 3) Who models healthy focus for me?

Words of Wisdom: “What am I really about? What am I trying to do? What is the main concept for the project?”

Wisdom from Word: “Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself to have attained this. Instead I am single-minded: Forgetting the things that are behind and reaching out for the things that are ahead.” (Philippians 3:13 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – May 16, 2023

Fred supported turning experiences into experiments. He used this philosophy to step outside the subjective response to difficulties. He constantly stopped to study what was happening in his life and to craft a set of observations. Reality was hard-wired into his personality.

Getting Ahead of Your Feet

Physical exercise is one of my favorite activities. You look at me and wonder how that can be, right? I didn’t say my own physical exercise. Mary Alice and I live close to the Cooper Aerobics Clinic. On Saturday mornings I stop by my local donut shop, load up, then drive to a convenient parking spot and watch men and women running around the track lap after lap. As I said, I am a fan of physical exercise – theirs!

However, I don’t waste the time because I take my notepad and observe styles of runners, habits of regulars, and even ego patterns. Most who circle the Cooper track are well-trained and consistent. However, every once in a while a new member decides to show out and run faster than their ability – their body gets ahead of their feet – and they fall down.

I see this happening emotionally, professionally, and financially to people who move themselves beyond the fast lane into the one marked “frantic.” They either recognize the problem and adjust, or they break down.

I remember I was driving my sports car along a stretch of highway where the cars were driving maximum speed (and so was I). All of a sudden I threw the lead balance from my front wheel and extreme shaking began. The terrific vibration required I slow down to keep the wheels from shaking the car apart.

Other drivers tried to pass me, dangerously attempting to go around me, and laying on the horn as they probably were making uncivil comments about my driving – and the inadequacy of my British car. I had to choose whether to respond and drive faster with the end result of a car permanently damaged by the vibrations, or to slow down to a manageable speed and irritate all those behind me.

Life gives us those opportunities for decision making. Do we leave the fast lane temporarily until we regain balance, or do we sacrifice to please others? The runners at the Cooper Clinic have the same decision to make? Do they pull over into the right lane, allowing others to pass them while they regain their balance or do they insist on running “with the big dogs,” risking injury and certainly producing frustration in all those behind?

One of the key factors in this decision process is: don’t panic. This is a primary rule for race car drivers. No matter what happens panic dulls reaction time, fogs the brain, and usually results in less opportunity for a positive outcome. Frantic and panic are enemies of effectiveness.

This week think about: 1) What is my built in emotional response to problems? 2) How am I disciplining myself to handle stress? 3) What can I learn from situations which would foster panic?

Words of Wisdom: “Don’t panic.”

Wisdom from the Word: “I have told you these things so that in me you may have peace. In the world you have trouble and suffering, but take courage – I have conquered the world.” (John 16:33 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought-September 27, 2022

Fred met many business people at Cindi’s Deli in Dallas at 6:00am for breakfast. When our project began men were asked, “What do you want to hear from Fred?” Every single one began answering with “When I had breakfast with Fred, he said… ” Thus, the project founded in 2004 was named BWF Project, and the leadership event for Christian higher education became the Breakfast With Fred Leadership Institute. For thirteen years we introduced students to Fred’s ideas on right thinking.

What is Success?

Let’s define success. Many people misunderstand it.

For Christians, success can never be measured by money. When people say to me, “That man’s worth ten million dollars” that tells me he is wealthy, but it doesn’t prove he’s successful. In some cases it could illustrate the opposite. For instance, if Mother Teresa,(whom I consider a tremendous success) confessed she had personal assets of over one million dollars I would think she was a hypocrite. Money would prove her a fraud, not a success.

Success can never be measured by numbers, regardless of what the numbers are. I know churches which measure budget numbers, membership, and size of the facility. One unfortunate measure is the number of young men and women who enroll in seminaries after being encouraged by home churches. I read 40% of many seminaries are populated with students encouraged to get a theological degree as they search for the will of God.

The measurement of success is simply the ratio of talents used to talents received. This definition encompasses the process of growth through the focused, purposeful development. Are you maturing? Are you clear on your strengths and gifts? What percentage of your talents are you using with intentionality? If you can answer these questions in the positive, be glad — you are successful.

Some of us tend to think “I could have been a success, but I never had the opportunity. I wasn’t born into the right family, or I didn’t have the money for more education.” But when we measure success by the ratio definition it eliminates those frustrations. I have known people with limited resources who maximized their equation, had a great sense of responsibility, a love for God, and other people. Out of all that flowed a full use of talents.

At GENESCO I promoted a young man from machine operator to lower management he wanted the challenge. Shortly afterward, he was killed in an automobile accident near Lewisburg, TN. Maxey Jarman, the CEO, wanted to go to the funeral. We drove seventy-five miles each way. On the way back Maxey said, “I believe Bill was one of the most successful men we have had in the company.” I said, “He was an hourly employee and was just promoted to a small managerial job. Why would you say that?”
“Because he used what he had.”

This week carefully consider: 1) How do I measure success? 2) What is motivating me to grow? 3) Who encourages me to maximize my potential?

Words of Wisdom: “The measurement of success is simply the ratio of talents used to talents received.”

Wisdom from the Word: “The LORD grants success to the one whose behavior he finds commendable.” (Psalm 37:23 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – February 1, 2022

Fred’s speaking ability gave him access to audiences throughout North America and beyond. His philosophy was: “speak to express, not to impress.” Respect for the audience was foundational for Fred. Preparation and prayer always formed the infrastructure for any address, meeting, or conversation. Thinking about the art and science of speaking intrigued him lifelong.

Participation, not Observation

One way we can improve our speaking skills is by remembering our goal is not simply to have people sit quietly while we talk, but to have their minds actively engaged by the subject matter.

One of the common mistakes made by speakers is trying to create false feelings by over dramatization. Telling sob stories, getting teary, or yelling are tricks which hinder genuine communication. Listeners quickly realize the speaker isn’t depending on the subject matter for a response, but on the theatrics. When people are thinking more about how you are saying something than what you are saying, your effectiveness is lost.

The minute someone starts yelling, people mentally distance themselves. Many preachers think they are doing this for emphasis, but generally it doesn’t work that way – it deemphasizes.

If I want to say something really important, I’ll lower my voice – and people will usually lean forward to hear what I am saying. In a sense, you’re attaching intimacy to a point by lowering your voice. You are saying, “This point means something to me. I’m telling you something from my heart.”

By increasing the volume, often the point comes across as part of a performance rather than a heartfelt point you are making to another person. If you want your audience to fully digest what you are saying – don’t perform. Attempt to be conversational. Audiences tend to connect with the material.

I don’t the audience to be observers. I want them to participate because the whole object of speaking is to influence attitudes and behavior. How do I encourage participation? Not necessarily by being entertaining. If people are listening for the next story or next joke, I’ve become merely an entertainer. I need to be smart enough to know when my material is getting inside them. I may need to make them laugh or I may need a pointed statement. But when they are genuinely listening and understanding, they are participating.

My goal is not to have people say, “Oh, you are such a great speaker.” When I hear that I know I have failed. If they are conscious of my speaking ability, they see me as a performer… they have not participated. My goal is for people to say, “You know, Fred, I’ve had those kind of thoughts all my life, but I’ve never had the words for them – now I do.” I have given them a handle for an idea; I’ve helped them crystallize their thoughts and experiences.

This week think about: 1) What is my goal when speaking? 2) How can I develop my communication skills by focusing on the audience? 3) Who can help me strengthen my speaking skills?

Words of Wisdom: “If you want your audience to fully digest what you are saying – don’t perform.”

Wisdom from the Word: “My soul will rejoice when your lips speak what is right.” (Proverbs 23:16 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – January 25, 2022

Fred believed habits were the foundation of character – good and bad. He supported thoughtful consideration of personal and professional patterns, especially when analyzing any needed changes. These excerpts from a 1961 keynote address to the Printing Industry of America shows Fred’s forward thinking.

Good Habits

Nearly every organization runs on habit, just as we do personally. Most of our daily activities are habitual. This is one of the problems in reorganization. When the habit structure is changed it slows down activity. Successful reorganization requires time to rebuild habits.

Here are a few good habits to cultivate in your business:

1) Create a spirit that will withstand challenges. Don’t let people come with their reasons why it won’t work. Simply respond, “I know that. Tell me what we will have to change for it to work.”
2) Healthy change is good – status quo is usually no good. I like to think “status quote” is Latin for “the mess we are in.”
3) Accept ideas. You as a leader will have to accept a new idea before your organization will accept them.
4) Don’t delay failure. I have a friend who told me, “Fred, I never delay cutting short a failure that is funded with my money.” Good leaders don’t waste business dollars, either.
5) Get management on the offense. How many times do you see management fighting back instead of leading?
6) Develop the habit of good work. A friend of mine who is President of a pipeline company has developed the habit of training his employees to step back from their job and say, “That’s good.” In the news recently there was a story about a 12 year old boy who saved his sister from a house fire using rescue techniques in the Boy Scouts. The news reporter asked him what he thought. He confidently responded, “I did a good job.” That is a great habit.
7) Evaluate your sources of pride. The other day I met with a company’s leadership team. They quickly told me of accomplishments and sources of pride. On analysis, many of these were obsolete and should have been jettisoned long ago but their pride didn’t allow them to this examination.
8) Work smarter, not harder. Too many businesses brag on employees who are the hard workers. Unless this effort is combined with smart working, I give no credit. Taking time to think through a task, not just spend time working on it is working smart.

I haven’t told you anything you don’t already know. My job isn’t to tell you anything new, but to remind you good habits are a key to successful living. Find one habit and make it work for your organization…and your personal life, as well.

This week think about: 1) What are my most productive habits? 2) How long has it been since I did an evaluation of work (family, faith, friendship) habits? 3) Who can help me do an objective assessment?

Words of Wisdom: “Nearly every organization runs on habit, just as we do personally.”

Wisdom from the Word: “But as for you, communicate the behavior that goes with sound teaching.” (Titus 2:1 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – November 30, 2021

Fred treasured his friendships, nurturing them through the years. In the 1950s he spent hours traveling across the country. Because nonstop flights were nonexistent, he had long hours in airport layovers. Not one to waste time -or connections- he had a file of 3×5 cards organized by city with the contact info on everyone he knew in that town. His secretary would load his briefcase with all the travel necessities including the pertinent cards for the airport stays and a roll of change for the pay phone. These calls kept friendships alive and fertilized his large network. This is an excerpt from a commencement speech.

An Educated Heart

I want to congratulate you on completing your degree. You hear about life-long learning, but just as key is an educated heart. One evidence is a right evaluation of self-worth. I am convinced Christians should understand their identity in Christ without buying into the false emphasis on image and esteem which the current culture emphasizes.

A friend of mine was a professor who came to faith in Christ late in life. During a conversation he said, “True dignity happens when genuine pride and genuine humility unite.”

We in the Christian community think of pride and humility as antonyms when actually they are two sides of the same coin. Don’t you feel that you can be justly proud of being God’s child, a member of His family? A wealthy business friend in Boston and his wife took a girl off the street into their home for a year to help rehabilitate her. Each night after dinner he would go over the catechism he developed for her which began with the question, “Why does God love you?” Her reply was: “Not because I am good but because I am precious.” Then the second question was “Why are you precious?” The reply: “Because Christ died for me.” Once when speaking in East Texas a little 80 year old woman heard this story, and hurried to speak to me afterwards. “Thank you, Mr. Smith. All my life I have wanted to be precious and now I know I am.”

You unite that pride with genuine humility and you have a truly educated heart. True humility is best defined as “not denying the power you have but admitting the power comes through you and not from you.” Denial is lying; attribution is truth telling. Some people develop a false humility by bad-mouthing themselves. This perpetuates a lie. We are to feel good about ourselves when we as a member of the Body of Christ knows we are being used. The power is not ours, but His. In this is dignity and the realization of self-worth, not image driven self-esteem, but God’s self-worth.

Another evidence of a learning heart is a homing sense – a magnetic pull for home. Just as the carrier pigeons never lose the pull of the home pad, the educated heart draws toward the Father…His values, His plan, and His community. In a graduating class this large. Many of you will get lost in the trees as you chase the dollar, fame, or even service. In this lostness, you need your homing instinct to activate driving you back.

I visited recently with a CEO who told me of veering away from his “old time religious principles,” making decisions with faulty foundations. He said he finally had the desire to “come home.” He realigned with the church finding true direction.

The challenge is to remember the lighthouse of your faith which will always shine the way home.

This week carefully consider: 1) If I were speaking to college graduates, what would I say? 2) How do I reconcile pride and humility? 3) What system do I use to nurture relationships?

Words of Wisdom: “Humility is not denying the power, but admitting it comes through you and not from you.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with a heart of mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” (Colossians 3:12 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – May 11, 2021

Fred valued brevity. He is well-known for pithy one-liners with great punch. The campus ministry (BWFLI) knows them as Fred Saids. It is not surprising he respected William Barclay’s five phrase prayer: “Lord, grant us: In our work, satisfaction, In our study, wisdom, In our pleasure, gladness, and In our love, loyalty.”

The focus of BWF Project, Inc. will pivot toward “preserving the work” during the next twelve months. Over 10,000 3×5 index cards with observations are now available. They will be archived for your benefit.

In Our Work, Satisfaction

William Barclay constructed a powerful prayer with minimum words and maximum impact. I want to think with you about the phrase “in our work, satisfaction.”

We all have to work; but unfortunately, we don’t all experience genuine satisfaction. Peter Drucker opened a lecture, “Gentlemen, let the task be the reward.” In these few words he pointed out pay is never the full reward for our work. It is a necessary secondary reward, but not the primary.

I played golf with a CEO after an 80 million dollar business loss. “I wasn’t in it just for the money. What I have done will live on in the industry.”
Mothers understand the emotional cost of raising children. They are not in it for the money. Mary Alice and I were in Blowing Rock, NC sitting across from the ice cream store and people watching. One young boy fussed and fumed as his Mother told him they were going home. “I don’t like you anymore,” he shouted. She quietly responded, “I will always like you, and we are still going home.” She understood the satisfaction of good parenting.

We who spent a great part of our lives building GENESCO lost a great deal of our personal money that we invested in the stock. When we get together, loss is not the major topic. We talk about “we did it” – going from 75 employees to 83,000. We took the volume to nearly $1.5 million in the 1960s. We were a bunch of Southern boys invading New York City and the world of apparel. When we got into the shoe business some of us had to learn to “wear ‘em, as well as make ‘em.” Often we would go to the plant, work all day, and then call each other at night excited about building a great corporation. That was satisfaction.

Professor Young at the 150th celebration of Guilford College stood, watching the procession of classes move through the auditorium… he was looking at forty years of students whose lives he had influenced. He knew satisfaction. Our host was Seth Macon, chairman of Guilford’s Board and recently retired SVP of Jefferson Pilot Companies. When I asked about his satisfaction in work he immediately said, “The present leaders are those I selected and trained.” He, like great dancers who leave their legacy on the stage, or artists who leave something great on canvases or composition paper have much in common with teachers and parents whose legacies are built into people.

Four elements of satisfactory work:

1) Sustainable income – though not primary, a life-supporting income is important.
2) Serves the common good – when our work has value for others we do what the Puritans called “fulfilling our calling.”
3) Sense of significance – what we do must have meaning and we are making a difference.
4) Stretches our development of personal uniqueness – our work should be founded on our talents, gifts, and design. If we do not make our contribution through our God-given uniqueness, we are wasting our life.

This week think carefully about: 1) How satisfied am I in my work? 2) What elements of my work need fine tuning to maximize satisfaction? 3) Who could benefit from these thoughts?

Words of Wisdom: “Often we would go to the plant, work all day, and then call each other at night excited about building a great corporation.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Whatever you are doing, work at it with enthusiasm, as to the Lord and not for people.” (Colossians 3:23 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – July 28, 2020

Fred spent much of his last years immobilized and limited to his hospital bed at home, in a wheelchair, or in dialysis. Yet, the disciplines he constructed earlier in life allowed him to manage his time and his attitude, bringing his wisdom as a blessing to many. God implanted Fred with the ability to think, process, and communicate effectively in order to move others to healthy living. This final excerpt from his speech to GENESCO management draws together his challenge to supervise rightly.

Management’s Responsibility to the Sales Force, part four

I call this final point “providing healthy motivation.” Management must distinguish between motivation and manipulation. The latter is a counterfeit which artificially or temporarily moves people. My psychiatrist friend Dr. Howard Rome says motivation is a person’s thirst. If we are to understand true motivation, then we must understand what causes the thirst and know how to supply the answer.

In the hiring process we must ask these questions: 1) does the applicant have a thirst we can satisfy? 2) Is this person’s thirst compatible with our philosophy and organizational structure? 3) Is there a conflicting thirst which will eventually create a problem?

Here are a few thirsts we can check:

1) Compensation – money is important and says much about the applicant. To many it scores the accomplishment and social ranking. To many it represents attainment, power, and independence. Studying the subject of compensation in relation to its motivating power within your organization is key.

2) Competition – most sales people are naturally competitive and want to know where they stand in the organization. It is a healthy, productive motivation, but must be guided rather than exploited in an anti-social way. Competition is for excitement, not incitement… to build spirit, not tear it down.

3) Participation – Sales people like to feel a part of “what’s going on.” Sales forces can become lonely and detached. Management can reduce this by implementing feedback channels which then can increase the enjoyment, learning, and retention.

4) Recognition – There is an old sales adage: people work for gold or glory. Most sales people desire recognition from others in the organization, particularly upper management. Management has a responsibility to create systems which bestow recognition widely, and not just on the top producer or two.

5) Attention – I could say communication, but what I am pointing out is the need to listen to the sales force. There is no shortage of “talking to” with memos flying daily. What is often lacking is the focused, intentional time spent listening. It is an extreme compliment which too few of us pay to too few. We choose to listen up the chain, ignoring those who aren’t influencing our future moves. The sales force is a critical element in any organization’s success and often has important information gathered from front-line communication with customers.

The relationship between management and the sales force is a mutual responsibility. The sales team owes the company: productivity, a fair trial of the prepared tools, effective use of time, a clear and accurate presentation of the sales proposition, as well as appreciation for the opportunity to earn a living, develop talents, and utilize abilities.

This week think about: 1) How do these principles apply to me? 2) What can I do to better practice my responsibilities? 3) Who could benefit from these words from Fred?

Words of Wisdom: “Competition is for excitement, not incitement…to build spirit, not tear it down.”

Wisdom from the Word: “A laborer’s appetite has labored for him, for his hunger has pressed him to work.” (Proverbs 16:26 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – July 21, 2020

Fred opened a management consulting firm in 1957, headquartered in Cincinnati, Ohio, but working with companies with national and international reach. His ability to capture the sense of a corporate culture gave him a national reputation. One of his clients, GENESCO, reprinted the text of a speech given to their annual management conference. This excerpt is part three.

Management’s Responsibility to the Sales Force, part three

Respect for the dignity of the sales force is critical to a successful operation. In my experience, I find the attitude toward them determines the supervision policies. Able sales management finds many ways to express respect for the individual dignity of the sales team. Unfortunately, some are violated daily.

Personal and professional respect ties the sales force to the company, creating loyalty and camaraderie. It creates stability for the sales department and ultimately affects the success of the entire company.

Here are a few ways to show respect:

1) Ensure home office/sales force relationships reflect respect. The push/pull between home office staff and sales force creates a negative environment. Respect is breached with the sales force is by-passed in communication with customers, or used by executives to pass the buck. Home office negativity about the sales people should be actively discouraged. Respect is basically an attitude. Scratch the surface of shabby treatment and you find a shabby attitude.

2) Create sales meetings which recognize the professional qualities of the sales force, as well as the provision of helpful training sessions. Some meetings are so boring and demoralizing companies would be better to invest time and money somewhere else.

3) Use positive discipline to maximize performance. Many times we confuse punishment and discipline. Discipline is the fence we put around the sales force’s behavior and activities…broad enough to include the proper and narrow enough to exclude the improper. It is critical for management to clearly outline the definition of proper and improper. A good sales person appreciates organizational discipline. The secret of effective, constructive discipline is doing it according to our responsibility, not our authority. We discipline to be a championship team, not a tough boss.

4) Encourage personal development through delegation. Theodore Roosevelt said, “The art of good management is the ability to pick people and the humility to leave them alone.” Often management fails to delegate, not because the sales person doesn’t do the job, but because the manager wants to feel needed. Some sales managers treat the sales people like bird dogs to shoo up the birds while the sales manager shoots them. This violates individual development and dignity.

This week think about: 1) How well do I express respect for others around me? 2) What do others around me do to show respect? 3) Who is a model in my work, school, and community of respect?

Words of Wisdom: “The secret of effective, constructive discipline is doing it according to our responsibility, not our authority.”

Wisdom from the Word: “I know, Lord, that your regulations are just. You disciplined me because of your faithful devotion to me.” (Psalm 119:75 NET Bible)