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Motivation or Manipulation?

Weekly Thought – April 18, 2017

Fred refused to sacrifice his integrity for the sake of winning. He believed in the value of moving people to action, but never tricked them into action which only benefited him. His dear friend Zig Ziglar dedicated his life to inspiring and motivating others. They shared the joy of seeing the wood catch fire.

Motivation or Manipulation?

There is a critical difference between motivation and manipulation. One is getting people to do something from mutual advantage. The other is getting people to do what you want them to do, primarily for your advantage. If the person benefits, it’s purely a secondary goal.

Manipulation carries a hidden agenda; motivation carries an open agenda.

We all agree that motivation is good and manipulation is bad. But sometimes only a fine line separates the two, and it’s difficult to know which side of the line you are standing. The issues aren’t always clear-cut. Intent is the key. What could be motivation in one instance could be tainted by self-interest and turned into manipulation.

A psychiatrist friend chided me one night by saying, “You businessmen mistake manipulation for motivation. The difference is you can substitute the word “thirst” for motivation, but not manipulation.” That got my mind working. He was saying unless you are satisfying someone’s thirst, you are probably manipulating rather than motivating. What a simple, yet effective, measurement. Bottom line for me: I can motivate with integrity when I am bringing to consciousness a genuine thirst in another.

Whenever we try to motivate without the other person’s knowing what we are doing we need to be very careful. We can try to bring out a latent desire a person doesn’t even know exists. But we must always keep in mind: 1) recognize how close we are to manipulation; 2) set a checkpoint, and be willing to stop if an authentic thirst doesn’t develop; 3) never resort to immoral means even for righteous ends.

My good friend Zig Ziglar reminded my daughter one time to be sure and understand the difference between the “need to” and the “want to.” He was saying to her she must move away from her clear vision of what someone needed until she satisfied their own desire and want.

Remember the little boy whose obedience was not willing? “I may be sitting down on the outside, but I’m standing up on the inside.” Manipulation often results in silent rebellion. True motivation is a path to growth and maturity.

This week think about: 1) What motivates me to take action? 2) How do protect myself from manipulation? 3) Who can I help find their “thirst” this week?

Words of Wisdom: “Bottom line for me: I can motivate with integrity when I am bringing to consciousness a genuine thirst in another.”

Wisdom from the Word: “This is the reason I do my best to always have a clear conscience toward God and toward people.” (Acts 24:16 NET Bible)

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Training Touchstones

Weekly Thought – April 11, 2017

Fred developed ideas, strategies, and people. He loved seeing growth and progress. He also appreciated the value of measures and metrics. Wanting to know if the process worked led him to define criteria for the effectiveness of training.

Thank you for your consistent, prayerful support of the Breakfast With Fred Leadership Institute. Our next event is April 18, 19, 2017 at Greenville College in Greenville, IL. Please pray for the team members who will be traveling to campus to “stretch and bless the next generation of leaders… to the glory of God.”

Training Touchstones

The development of others is a strategic element in good leadership. Bringing others along to grow the organization is part of the mission. As training moves along, here are five ways to measure progress:

1) Is this person’s job fitting well with his or her talents? If not, I never be successful in fully developing the potential. It is my responsibility to assess the long range outcome and make sure the job and the talent match.

2) How much willingness to do the job am I seeing? I want to see if the person is enthusiastic about the opportunity to grow. Training has to be more than just an interesting way to pass time. And if I suspect the trainee is thinking, “Well, I’ll do it if you want me to, but I’m not really keen on it” I already know not to expect much.

3) How consistent is the person’s effort? Long-term, not sporadic engagement is what I want. It is the day in, day out effort that benefits both the organization and the employee. A friend once told me, “The amateur performs well when he feels like it. The pro performs well whether he feels like it or not.”

4) What are the objective results? I find many people want to tell me about activity, carry on conversations, give me excuses but produce little or nothing. I like to measure what has actually been done. Some people get by for years talking a good game but doing little. In our family we have a saying “Show me the baby, don’t tell me about the labor pains.”

5) Is this person willing to be evaluated? I am not going to spend time developing someone who resists having his results measured. In the same way, I do not want to attempt to train someone who will never ask for help. If a person knew all the answers, they would not need the training. I see too many whose egos won’t allow them to learn from others.

This week carefully consider: 1) How can I use these questions in my development of others? 2) What do I use as the measurement of personal progress? 3) When do I do my most effective training?

Words of Wisdom: “The development of others is a strategic element in good leadership.”

Wisdom from the Word: “A disciple is not greater than his teacher, but everyone when fully trained will be like his teacher.” (Luke 6:40 NET Bible)

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Maximizing Effectiveness

Weekly Thought – April 4, 2017

Fred’s understanding of people created a high demand for his consulting services. He was particularly effective in labor negotiations, sales/marketing campaigns, and board restructuring. He had a clear view and a sound mind when it came to the productivity of organizations. Fred’s ideas were utilized throughout his 60 year business career. Later on Jim Collins popularized these concepts with the “right people in the right seats” language of Good to Great.

Maximizing Effectiveness

The secret of any organization’s success is choosing the right people to play key roles. I recently read about business executive Bernard Tapie who became famous in France by taking over failing corporations and turning them into successful money makers. He developed an empire of 45 companies. His secret: whenever he assumed control of a failing business he immediately brought in his fifteen member management team to reorganize. They worked like a well-oiled machine and repeated the process over and over.

One of the most important aspects of successful leadership is putting together a group of people to carry out the mission. Great athletic coaches know they must have talent to win and so take an active role in the recruiting process. Teams that just happen get happenstance results.

In the small organization staffing can be particularly vexing. But it is extremely important. A costly mistake in smaller operations is thinking they can get by with inferior employees because they aren’t large. Actually, the opposite is true. In a firm of one hundred employees, if one doesn’t pull their weight, it is a loss of 1% productivity. If a company has only 3 employees, one who is unproductive represents 33% of the workforce.

Attracting the right people requires enthusiastically selling your organization to quality prospects. Julian Price who built Jefferson Standard Life Insurance Company surprised the industry by his ability to draw outstanding men and women to a small, regional company in the South. It was small, but mighty in its people pull. In interviewing he would say, “We are going to build a mighty company here. Don’t you want to be part of it?” The challenge of growth and the promise of a future brought many to Greensboro, North Carolina.

Leaders should not be timid about going for the most qualified who bring to the organization the skills needed for growth. When we believe in our vision and our mission it becomes a critical endeavor and one worth sharing. People want to be part of something exciting. Finding the right people to fulfill the dream is the privilege and responsibility of leadership.

This week carefully consider: 1) How strong are my recruiting skills? 2) What is the profile of my ideal team member? 3) When do I enjoy pulling together on a project?

Words of Wisdom: “Teams that just happen get happenstance results.”

Wisdom from the Word: “The one who works his field will have plenty of food, but whoever chases daydreams lacks wisdom.” (Proverbs 12:11 NET Bible)

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Taking Time

Weekly Thought – March 28, 2017

Fred approached every element of his life from a philosophical and theological position. He constructed a system of thought which served as the underpinning. His study of time is a good example.

Taking Time

As Donald Bloesch puts it, “Busyness is the new holiness.” Lack of time is a status symbol, and to me, that is backwards. If you really are somebody, you are in control of your time.

Personally, I think optimizing opportunities and talents is in a sense bringing redemption to everything around me – that is the valid reason to use time well.

These are my philosophical cornerstones:

1) I am a created being and therefore responsible to the Creator for my life.

2) Time is simply life’s clock. Time is a tool – a means in life – never an end. Time is not something to be pursued for its own sake, but for what can be done with it.

3) Since my life is measured by time, I have a responsibility to control it. Most of us don’t let other people spend our money; likewise, we should limit their power to spend our money.

4) I have been given the same amount of time each day as everybody else. The great achievers of the world don’t have any more hours than I do. It is simply untrue to say, “I don’t have enough time.” What is not the same for everybody is energy. Unless I recognize my level of energy and realize that it comes in ebbs and surges, I won’t use my time well. I won’t accomplish all that I could.

5) I also believe that anything I cannot accomplish in the time I have is apparently not my God-given responsibility to achieve. God is not going to hold me accountable for what I cannot do because of genuine lack of time.

6) When I know the ultimate purpose of my life, I can know whether I’m using my time properly. If I do not know that ultimate purpose, I have no way of judging my efficiency. Only God and I can know for sure whether I’m wasting or using.

I decided a long time ago that my ultimate goal in life was to stretch other people. I wanted them to live better, fuller, bigger, more noble than if they hadn’t met me. This is my redeeming call.

This week think about: 1) What is my purpose? 2) How do I assess the use of my time? 3) Where is God using me to stretch others?

Words of Wisdom: “Personally, I think optimizing opportunities and talents is in a sense bringing redemption to everything around me – that is the valid reason to use time well.”

Wisdom from the Word: “God gave Solomon wisdom and very great discernment; the breadth of his understanding was as infinite as the sand on the seashore.” (1 Kings 4:29 NET Bible)

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Want To, Not Just Have To

Weekly Thought – March 21, 2017

Fred was trusted. His ability to listen accompanied by his discernment created an atmosphere of safety. While in dialysis he developed friendships with the nurses and technicians. One young woman reached her twelve month sober mark and prepared for her ceremony at AA. “Would you be the speaker for me?” Fred traveled in his wheelchair to her meeting and delivered a powerful, personal address.

Want To, Not Just Have To

A man I know – a very successful professional – paid fifty thousand dollars, cash on the barrel head, to go to an alcoholism clinic. One of the most discerning things I’ve ever heard came from a staff psychiatrist at the facility: “For a long time people couldn’t understand how a man could be an alcoholic, sober up, stay sober for ten years, and then go back to drinking. People would say, ‘Surely he knew all the problems he had as a drunk, why would he go back?’”

The doctor went on to say: “We studied it and found out. People who give up alcohol, but only remain abstainers can be drawn back to drinking at any time. Those who go from abstinence to the joy of sobriety seldom return to drinking. But until they make that transition, they are vulnerable.”

There is a theological truth here. If all I have in life is work and more work trying to make myself good, then I may cave in the spiritual war at any time. If I understand the sovereignty of God and the power of grace, my life will be changed forever. Like the Apostle Paul, a grace filled life sees the struggles as challenges but ones filled with the presence of God, and not dependent on my own efforts or goodness. Once Paul tasted of grace nothing could woo him back to “the law” again. He moved to the joy of grace.

Many executives and other leaders battle in the same way. They struggle and suffer with their efforts to overcome disabling habits. They fight, win a bit, fight again, and continue this pattern. The Myth of Sisyphus tells the story of an ill-fated young man whose life work is to push a large rock up a hill, only to have it roll back on him just as he reaches the peak. Over and over he repeats this effort, never to get the rock up and over the hill.

Leaders need to identify their constructive strengths and their destructive weaknesses. Once defined, they should focus on the strengths and bolster the weaknesses. Once we create an environment and a lifestyle that allows this, we can run the race with joy, not just with gritted jaws.

This week think about: 1) Where have I moved from abstaining to joy? 2) What is the rock I need to abandon? 3) Who can help me identify my strengths and weaknesses?

Words of Wisdom: “If I understand the sovereignty of God and the power of grace, my life will be changed forever.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.” (Nehemiah 8: 10 (b) NET Bible)

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Time Protection

Weekly Thought – March 14, 2017

Fred understood protecting his time. He said, “Just as I don’t let other people spend my money, I don’t let others spend my time.” He was extremely generous with his time, even when his physical condition deteriorated to the point of incapacitation. But he also knew how to avoid time wasters and people with no clear purpose for meeting with him.

Time Protection

Most people spend time like they do money. They spend until suddenly they run short; then they try to find ways to compensate.

The best approach, of course, is a disciplined lifestyle that prevents time (or any other resource like energy, money, opportunities) from slipping away in the first place. Ben Franklin said, “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” Most time management books teach: Adopt a philosophy, implement it, and then maintain it as a way of life.

But in my experience, most people are not that disciplined. What they need is an emergency checklist to gain a few hours in the week – something to ease the frantic pace and get through the crunch. A number of alternatives exist: specific down periods during the week for catching up on administrative work; organized, scheduled retreats to plan future activities; an active, up-to-date calendar. One of the areas of focus most needed and most disregarded is the “eye on the goal.” Saying “is this expenditure of time advancing my mission, my plan?”

Occasionally an exhausted executive or ministry leader comes to me and I say, “You are under the gun, aren’t you? How much time would it take for you to catch up?”
More often than not the answer is, “If I just had five more hours a week!” If he or she is already working 50 hours a week that means a 10% increase to loosen up the load.

Here is a way to pick up five hours from any week you choose. It provides immediate and effective relief for those who are swamped. BUT IT IS FOR EMERGENCY USE ONLY. As in dieting or spending money, the long-range answer is a better lifestyle that doesn’t require temporary bail-outs. So, mine is a battle plan, not a war strategy. You shouldn’t continue this emergency plan for longer than four to six weeks.

For example, if the leader is a pastor he can walk into the pulpit and say, “Folks, you’re not going to see as much of me for the next month. I’ve gotten behind in some very important things I need to do. What I have been doing is important and needful, but a catching up is required. I want your understanding the next four weeks while I get some of our pressing needs in good working order.”

Everyone in leadership can do this – and must as an emergency plan. People (from board members to staff) will understand a brief on-the-job refocus. But they will feel dismayed and annoyed if they find you excusing goof-off time and declaring it an emergency – it has to be legitimate.

This week think carefully about: 1) How am I handling the time/task pressures right now? 2) Do I have social media fasts to reduce the distractions? 3) What is my emergency plan for capturing some extra time?

Words of Wisdom: “Most people spend time like they do money. They spend until suddenly they run short; then they try to find ways to compensate.”

Wisdom from the Word: “And God is able to make all grace overflow to you so that because you have enough of everything in every way at all times, you will overflow in every good work.” (2 Corinthians 9:8 NET Bible)

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Effective Leadership

Weekly Thought – March 7, 2017

Fred encouraged maturity. He believed in the goal of growing to the end. This is why he was a life-long learner and lived with a burning desire to “finish well.” Foundational to maturity is character. He consulted with many organizations, both corporate and ministry. Character is the first element he studied.

Effective Leadership

Leadership, as we know, is both something you are and something you do. But effective leadership starts with character. When leaders fail, more often it is a result of a character flaw than the lack of competence, training, or even opportunity.

In the case of Christian organizations, the aim of the leader is to conform more and more to the image of Christ. And, it is their responsibility to build up the congregation, training them in righteousness with a goal of maturity. It is a process. It is critical to understand this. There is no “getting there” and settling down to rest. Leaders who last don’t stop growing; they continue stretching themselves. And in the same manner corporate officers refuse to let down. They strive to get better, stronger, and more adept.

Those who understand this process have intangible personal qualities. Some find these hard to define, but I think we can look at it as a growth process.
Growth must be seen as a whole. I wonder sometimes what we would look like if our mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects were as visible as our physical bodies. I expect each of us would have deformities representing our lack of development. When we are seriously out of balance we would be misshapen, distorted, even grotesque. An example of this idea would be the person who develops their mind to the exclusion of social skills or emotional health.

My good friend Zig Ziglar looks at our lives as a wheel. He teaches others to measure where each section of their life is by marking it on the wheel. Then when the dots are connected the seminar participant can see how rocky the ride would be if areas of their lives are much stronger (or weaker) than others.

Maturity is balanced growth. It’s obviously difficult to keep the inside and outside in total symmetry – or Zig’s wheel rolling smoothly, but it is a worthwhile endeavor. I look at life through the prism of discipline, so I suggest a balanced growth pattern contains plans for the disciplines of: freedom, emotions, things, recognition, accomplishment, experiences, ideas, and relationships.

This week think about: 1) What is my personal definition of mature growth? 2) How symmetrical are my internal and external appearances? 3) What is my biggest challenge to maturity?

Words of Wisdom: “Leadership, as we know, is both something we are and something we do.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Brothers and sisters, do not be children in your thinking. Instead, be infants in evil, but in your thinking be mature.” (1 Corinthians 14:20 NET Bible)

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Understanding Leadership versus Management

Weekly Thought – February 28, 2017

Fred said he never felt the time pressures so often discussed in leadership articles. He attributed this to the art of delegation. However, before he could delegate he had to understand what his unique abilities were and what “only he could do.” These thoughts from Fred were written in the mid-80s but are strikingly current and relevant.

Understanding Leadership versus Management

Leadership and management are two different skill sets. Many good leaders are not good administrators. And in the same way, good managers are not always effective leaders. The rule of thumb is: Lead people and manage work.

As President, Jimmy Carter was a better executive than leader. He read up to three hundred pages of reports before breakfast, it is said. He was one of our best-informed Presidents, but he had great difficulty getting others to follow him.

Ronald Reagan’s strength has been leadership, not management. The press criticizes him because he often doesn’t fully answer technical questions. He doesn’t focus on the memorization of that information. He devotes his energies to leading through setting the vision for the country, getting others to join behind in the vision, and achieving a sense of well-being about the direction he outlines. People who mock him call him “The Great Communicator.” This is intended to suggest that capable talkers are not thinkers. They also allude to his film career as a negative quality. They do not realize the power of clear communication in strong leadership. Reagan simply delegates the administration.

Even if a leader is not strong in administration, he must recognize its absolute value. It is a foolish person who closes his mind to “the details.” Those who understand the contribution of a well-run organization know how to delegate, appreciate, develop, and then leave it alone.

Over supervision (or being a control freak) is the great sin of leaders committed against managers. The leader’s task is to say, “Here’s where we are, and there is where we ought to go.” The administrator’s job is to successfully get the organization from point A to B. Books written about well-run companies recognize the contribution of teams comprised of leaders with complementary gifts, exercised by strong people. I have always said the pairing of number 1 and number 2 positions is a critical decision.

As A.T. Cushman, the CEO of Sears, put it, “The art of administration is constant checking.” He’s so right. It’s detail work. Management takes a different, but important set of skills. To nurture both leadership and management is to put into place a winning combination.

This week think about: 1) What are my strongest gifts? 2) How am I developing my strengths and bolstering my weaknesses? 3) Where have I experienced the greatest use of my talents?

Words of Wisdom: “Lead people and manage work.”

Wisdom from the Word: “You should explain God’s laws and teachings to the people. Warn them not to break the laws. Tell them the right way to live and what they should do. But you should also choose some of the people to be judges and leaders.” (Exodus 18: 20, 21 NET Bible)

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Leadership Tweaks

Weekly Thought – February 21, 2017

Fred thought all the time. He learned from observation, conversation, and interaction. “Associations, travel, and reading” were three of the essential elements in his development program. He consistently put himself in situations which would stimulate his thinking.

This week a Breakfast With Fred Leadership Institute team will be on the LeTourneau University campus in Longview, TX “stretching and blessing the next generation of leaders… to the glory of God.” Please pray for each person to be both learners and sharers of life experiences.

Leadership Tweaks

Two subtleties are understood by effective leaders.

1) Decisions are not commitments. The first is short-term, the second is long-term.

People decide short-term to work for a specific emphasis; long-term commitment is aimed at the ultimate purpose. Both are necessary. People committed only to the long-term vision and not to specific tasks will not accomplish much. The short-term commitment produces the activity.

Wise leaders know that when they get a decision, even a group decision, they have not gotten commitment. One of the worst mistakes a leader can make is getting a group to decide something they will not commit to. In the emotional moment of decision, you can assume they’re committed, but without full buy-in, things will fall apart.

2) Recognize the “driving wheels.” There’s a difference between people who provide the momentum in a group and those who just go along for the ride. Wise leaders know if they get the drivers committed, they will bring the others. Without the commitment of the driving wheels, the organization moves at an unsteady pace.

The best way to persuade them is not with emotion, but with comprehension. I first heard this from Jack Turpin, founder of Hallmark Electronics. In a speech on sustained excellence he remarked he had no lasting respect for short-term excellence. “Anybody who can achieve that level of performance should strive to sustain it.” It isn’t easy, but it is worthwhile… and productive.

He went on to say that the only way people will perform at this level over the long-term is through complete comprehension of what they are doing. A decision based on emotional fervor won’t last; a fully understood commitment will.

This means leaders must be honest about the vision, the effort necessary, and reasons for expending it. To motivate the “driving wheel” ask the question, “Do you agree this is something worth doing? If so, let’s commit to it together.”

This week think about: 1) How clear am I on the commitments in my life? 2) What are the long-term visions for my work, my family, my community? 3) Who can I help strengthen their sustained excellence?

Words of Wisdom: “A decision based on emotional fervor won’t last; a fully understood commitment will.”

Wisdom from the Word: “But I am full of the courage that the Lord’s Spirit gives, and have a strong commitment to justice.” (Micah 3:8(a) NET Bible)

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Leadership Clarity

Weekly Thought – February 14, 2017

Fred and Mary Alice had a sweet love story. Even though they met in 7th grade, they did not date until after graduation from Hume-Fogg High School in Nashville, TN. She worked behind the candy counter at the S.S. Kress store; he would go in, buy a small bag of candy and talk to her. She often talked about what she saw in him: “He had the desire and ability to make something of himself. He was the kind of man I wanted for a husband and for the father of my children.” An interesting twist: Years later Fred was named to the Corporate Board of S.S. Kress. He gave her the first directors’ check with this note: “The second sweetest thing I ever got from Kress.”

Leadership Clarity

A true leader is committed to the cause; a true leader does not become the cause.

Staying personally dedicated to the cause can become extremely difficult, particularly if the cause succeeds. A subtle change in thinking can overtake the leader of a successful operation. He or she begins “needing” certain things to carry out the work, whether business or ministry. Early on, the material necessities were minimal. With success too often comes the requirement of more. For example, I overheard a man saying, “How in the world did we ever get along without a company plane?” Success brought the redefinition of basic minimal requirements. It is good to step back and analyze the role of personal ego.

I see this in churches, as well, even though the signs are less visible. When the leader begins entertaining the thought, “What am I getting out of this?” the focus is shifting from the cause to the personal wants of the individual. The focus has become diffused. Other symptoms are professional marketing programs to “enhance the ministry,” time spent on personal visibility and recognition, denominational political progress, etc. The line between the ministry (cause) and the personality becomes blurred.

I greatly admire Mother Teresa of Calcutta. After winning the Nobel Peace Prize she decided she would not accept any further recognition. She was convinced it interfered with her work. She knew her calling and purpose was not to accept prizes and win acclaim. She was in the business of serving the poor of Calcutta. She knew what it would take to stay focused. It also kept her work untainted by political interests, who offered recognition and acclaim in exchange for being connected with her and her reputation.

Most of us leaders have an emotional block occasionally. We need to return to the vision, restate it to ourselves, and rekindle the spark. We must ask, “What is my purpose? Am I satisfying my ego through this ministry or sacrificing my ego to it?” Genuine leaders can say with Paul, “Follow me – as I follow Christ.”

This week think about: 1) What is my cause? 2) How clear am I on the purpose of my work? 3) What steps do I need to take to clarify my leadership?

Words of Wisdom: “A true leader is committed to the cause; a true leader does not become the cause.”

Wisdom from the Word: “I will give them a single-minded purpose to live in a way that always shows respect for me. They will want to do that for their own good and the good of the children who descend from them.” (Jeremiah 32:39 NET Bible)

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