Weekly Thought – April 19, 2016

Fred kept careful accounting of his ego. He had his blind spots, but even then he understood them and bolstered his defense system. He frequently did a personal audit to make sure he was operating with integrity. Often, he called this process “talking to the little boy inside.” This little boy was the ultimate truth teller!

We are grateful to each of you for committing to stretching yourself. We work hard to bring you Fred’s word which can be applied in everyday work, family, church, and community.

Keeping Focus

A true leader is committed to the cause, and does not become the cause.

Staying personally dedicated to the vision can become extremely difficult, particularly if success comes. A subtle change in thinking can overtake the leader of a successful operation. He or she begins “needing” certain things to carry on the work – things that were not considered necessary at the beginning.

In business, a request for a corporate jet is a sign that personal ego needs are infiltrating an executive’s dedication to the company. The question “What am I getting out of this?” must be asked. It is a test to see if the cause has become diffused. Sometimes perks are described as beneficial to productivity and profitability. I am not decrying the use of executive benefits, and I have had my fair share of rides in corporate jets, but I am pointing out that a change occurs. The important thing is to recognize and evaluate the change.

I admire Mother Teresa, who decided after winning the Nobel Peace Prize she would not accept any more recognition because it interfered with her work. She knew she was not in the business of accepting accolades – she was in the business of serving the poor of Calcutta. She maintained her dedication to the cause.

Most of us leaders have an emotional block occasionally. We need to return to the vision, restate it to ourselves, and rekindle the spark. We must ask, “What is my purpose? Am I satisfying my ego through this business or ministry? Am I sacrificing my ego to the work?”

Genuine leaders can say with the Apostle Paul: “Follow me, as I follow Christ.”

This week think about: 1) What vision or cause currently excites me? 2) How can I protect against moving to ego satisfaction which outstrips the cause? 3) Who is a good model of leadership which is submitted?

Words of Wisdom: “A true leader is committed to the cause, and does not become the cause.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Therefore, King Agrippa, I was not disobedient to the heavenly vision,” (Acts 26:19 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – April 12, 2016

Fred’s reputation for objectivity brought people to his office (and eventually his hospital bed). His ability to step back and break situations into manageable pieces facilitated his impact. He understood the art and science of leadership.

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Leadership Ingredients

Everyone wants a list of ingredients which make a leader… the common denominators. There is no fool-proof formula. The ingredients vary in each situation. For example, there are times when the key element is courage; other times the decisions are so obvious, courage plays a minimal role.

Certainly, I could give a “traits of a leader” list, but it would be just like listing ingredients in a recipe without giving the amounts or mixing instructions. The chemistry of cooking is in the proper combination of ingredients in the proper environment for the right time. Too many lists are just intellectual exercises. You go down, check off the boxes, and then declare yourself a leader. Mary Alice is an excellent cook. She succeeds because she understands how much, how, and for how long – and does it with love.

One of the greatest requirements of a leader is knowledge of human nature. But the application of that knowledge varies, depending on the activity. For example, Napoleon was known for his exceptional understanding of human nature in war – that was the basis of his power. He knew how hard he could push, how far he could go, and how much he could do with what he had. But he didn’t understand human nature in politics.

Winston Churchill showed tremendous leadership in the throes of World War II. When he tried to exert the same leadership style afterwards, he failed. Leadership is not a formulaic, constant science that works if you only follow A to B to C. Rather, it is a delicately aligned art, as well.

I am often asked, “Fred, is leadership innate or learned?” I think it can be coached, but never implanted. I don’t believe you can make a leader out of someone without an innate gift of leadership. These gifts show up early in life.

Looking at three or four year olds, you can already see emerging patterns. That usually continues through life. But it is critical to develop those gifts. If a person has innate ability, circumstances and training will certainly enhance their use.

Think about this week: 1) How do I strengthen my leadership skills? 2) What is my favorite “go to” leadership skill? 3) Who is depending on me for authentic leadership?

Words of Wisdom: “Leadership is both art and science.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Select wise and practical men, those known among your tribes, whom I may appoint as your leaders.” (Deuteronomy 1: 13 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – April 5, 2016

Fred Smith Sr. and Bob Deffinbaugh (chair of the BWF Project board) talked much about leadership. Bob was the teaching elder at Community Bible Chapel in Richardson, TX. When they chose elders and deacons, they considered men who were already leading and doing the work of the office. They believed strongly that you recognized those already leading – that you didn’t appoint men and make them leaders by title.

The 2016 BWFLI schedule is in full swing. The teams for our April schools are eager to be on the campuses of Lindsey Wilson College and Alice Lloyd College, both in Kentucky. Keep on praying. Month by month our BWFLI Prayer Network shares concerns for our Christian higher education institutions. You will receive prayer suggestions and thoughts from Brenda A. Smith, President of BWF, and Bob Deffinbaugh.

Not Just A Title

Some think they are leaders when they are not.

One of my executive friends was asked by his son, “Dad, what does it take to be a leader?” The man spent an hour struggling to reply and finally in desperation said, “Son, all it takes to be a leader is to have somebody follow you.” That is the best definition I know.

Followers – that is what leadership is all about. If people are not following you, you are not a leader. You may have the title, but that’s all.

I remember sitting in a city park at “Soapbox Corner.” All the eccentrics assembled to promote their ideas in public. One fellow attracted great crowds with his animated speech. I noticed another man who walked around the edges of the crowd muttering to himself. Also interested in the somewhat odd folks, I moved closer to hear what he was saying. “I came here to talk, not to listen!”

He was mad because people weren’t listening to him. His crowd moved from following him to the charismatic speaker. He felt frustrated because he thought himself entitled to be the talker…but the crowd thought differently.
We communicate only when people listen.

Often leaders don’t have the title. In a manufacturing plant, I’ve known many leaders of employees who were not in management. Their personality and influence gave them informal authority. They were natural leaders.

The major characteristic of a leader in an organization is the ability to turn subordinates into followers. People can be subordinates by definition – by placement on a organizational chart, or membership roll. But they alone must decide to be followers.

Think week think about: 1) When I turn around is anyone following? 2) What do I need to be an effective leader? 3) How do I avoid leaning on the title and work on true leadership?

Words of Wisdom: “We communicate only when people listen.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Elders who provide effective leadership must be counted worthy of double honor, especially those who work hard in speaking and teaching.” (1 Timothy 5:17 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – February 16, 2016

Fred advocated for leaders who wisely considered the impact of cultural pressure. He understood the target which is permanently painted on the backs of leaders. “Going along to get along” was never his mantra. These thoughts from Fred were written decades ago, but hit the bull’s eye today.

BWFLI is committed to hope. Hunter Baker in an essay on higher education and civility remarked: “…Christians are not free to live without hope.” Teams are ambassadors of God in Christ. And teams receive the encouragement of seeing men and women growing in Christ, preparing to lead the world.

Swimming Up Stream

The integrity of a leader often is shown in the stand he or she takes for right against mistaken, but popular, concepts. They do this not to just be different or difficult, but daring enough to be right, avoiding the temptation to join in the swim downstream by challenging the direction of the flow.

I heard writer Chaim Potok say, “A true leader is never absorbed in the stream in which he swims.” Scripture calls this being transformed rather than being conformed.

Our society is facing many positions that need challenge and clarification. For example, relativism, situational ethics, personal responsibility versus rights, acquisition and distribution of wealth, equality, political expediency, self-love as expressed in image and significance, and the power of peer pressure.

While these issues rage, values and ethics have become a hot subject – almost to the point of becoming a cultural fad. Big philanthropic dollars are pouring into think tanks to study the subject; colleges are opening up departments to investigate their impact; and writers are prolifically cranking out page after page for best seller lists.

I once spoke to a conference built around “values-based leadership.” Everything that was said was well and good, but I felt I needed to point out we need to root our human values in divine virtues or we end up being controlled by our human desires and vacillating according to our human interests.

True authenticity requires the foundation of virtue (which is scriptural!) not just manufactured in convenience and social exigency. We need values based on virtues given by God.

Just as Newton did not create gravity, but discovered it, so we cannot create true virtues, but discover them, making them the bedrock of our values. We must be careful we don’t sacrifice truth on the altar of popular acceptance. Values without virtues are barren.

This week think about: 1) What is the bedrock of my values system? 2) When am I tempted to “go along to get along?” 3) How can I be a person of hope this week?

Words of Wisdom: “Values without virtues are barren.”

Wisdom from the Word: “But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people of his own, so that you may proclaim the virtues of the one who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.” (1 Peter 2:9 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – February 9, 2016

Fred spoke and wrote much about matching organizations and people. The concept of “fit” is important to the effective organization. He believed leaders needed to use the art and science of discernment when making good personnel decisions.

The BWFLI season is well underway. The steering committees at Lindsey Wilson College, Alice Lloyd College, Asbury University, and Palm Beach University are diligently planning venues. Continue praying for all who are preparing as team members. And pray for the students to find a connection.

People Patterns

Strong leaders identify patterns of behavior in their associates, especially those who are close to them. I have found it helpful to employ people in the area of their gifts, and passions. Then you only have to coordinate them, not supervise. I want to know about:

1) Character – This determines how a person uses his or her intelligence.

2) Confidence level – This is critical because it permits someone to attempt a task with a positive attitude and concentration. Loss of concentration is often disastrous.

3) Concept of self – This reflects how a person sees themselves. I am not talking about self-image, but self-worth. This has a lot to do with a person’s willingness to accept responsibility and self-development.

4) Collegial abilities – This assists to maximize team environments. Loners can be stars, but rarely make good team members. It is good to know whether a person is cooperative or competitive and under which conditions and circumstances.

5) Commitment – This is particularly critical because understanding of the organization’s vision and mission make a difference in the progress of the associate and the organization. Matching a person’s skills and passions with the overall vision is one of the key responsibilities of the strong leader.

This discernment is particularly important as measured by the size of the organization. One person out of place in a group of 100 represents 1%. The wrong person in the wrong place in a group of 5 represents 20%. Trying to continue with a misfit is like trying to run a marathon with a pebble in the shoe. Understanding behavior is the key to peak performance.

This week think about: 1) What concerns do I have about fit? 2) How can I tell my associates are being optimized? 3) What can I do to strengthen my people reading skills?

Words of Wisdom: “It is good to know whether a person is cooperative or competitive and under which conditions and circumstances.”

Wisdom from the Word: “God gave Solomon wisdom and very great discernment; the breadth of his understanding was as infinite as the sand on the seashore.” (1 Kings 4:29 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – February 2, 2016

Fred often asked “What is the object of the exercise?” He sought clarity before taking action. He particularly appreciated leaders who valued vision as a key responsibility.

BWFLI is moving quickly into the 2016 schedule. Planning for all four schools is well underway. Your prayer and financial support is greatly appreciated. Please lift up Lindsey Wilson College, Alice Lloyd College, Asbury University, and Palm Beach Atlantic University. And pray for the teams as they prepare.

Leading The Charge

Max DePree, author of Leadership Jazz once said, “The number one responsibility of top management is to define reality.”
Why are we operating? What are we about? What are we dedicated to? Once those questions have been addressed and a consensus around their answers develops, a leader has a mandate – a foundation out of which to determine programs, recruit leadership, establish organizational culture, and figure out what and what not to do.

1) Loyalty to the mandate, not the leader is critical. The leader has to say, “I am subservient to this mandate. You don’t serve me. Your job isn’t to make me happy. And don’t keep me in charge unless I fulfill the mandate.”

2) Narrow the focus. There needs to be specificity in the mandate – no broad umbrella statements which cover like tents. It should not be possible to interpret a mandate except in a narrow sense.

3) Create the right team. When a leader is sure of the mandate, he or she can create a more effective team. The needed leadership can be defined. Selection can be largely determined by the mandate.

4) Call is different from mandate. Mandate is institutional; call is personal. A leader needs to have a sense of call and dedication to serve effectively. Leaders continue to measure their call against the organizational mandate to assess the sync.

As leaders think about the mandate for their organizations, they should remember: the simplest way it can be accomplished is the most effective. Organizations tend to let what they do become too complicated. Albert Einstein once said, “God does what he does in its simplest form.” How can we improve upon that?

This week think about: 1) Do I operate with clarity in both my mandates and my call? 2) How effective are my teams? 3) What can I do this week to simplify my operations?

Words of Wisdom: “As leaders think about the mandate for their organizations, they should remember: the simplest way it can be accomplished is the most effective.”

Wisdom from the Word: “He prayed: ‘O Lord, God of Israel, there is no god like you in heaven above or on earth below! You maintain covenantal loyalty to your servants who obey you with sincerity.’” (1 Kings 8: 23 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – November 24, 2015

Fred believed gratitude was one of the most important emotions. He believed strongly in his admonition to “never lose the good of a bad experience.” To the very end of his life he expressed thanks to all, especially to his heavenly father.

We at BWF are profoundly grateful for you. May this Thanksgiving allow you a moment to stop and reflect on the blessings on our great God and Father.

Power

Any schoolboy with a B average can chant Lord Acton’s cliche: “Power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” Power gets a bad name and a bad rap. For all its addictive effects on many, power itself is a neutral instrument. Its morals have to be measured by the use to which it is put. It simply energizes.
Power rises from the spirit of the bearer.

I’m credited with original authorship on the story of the artificial fish which is a metaphor now widely quoted among Christians. It is an expression of the power of the spirit. If you put a live fish in a pool of artificial fish, everybody notices the difference immediately. The authentic spirit of the living fish stands out in contrast to the lump of plastic which forms the others. One after another, people marvel at the movement of the living fish which is doing what it was meant to do.

There are fewer situations which demonstrate the effect of power than retirement. The measure of the executive’s motivation becomes clear. Was the power for personal acclaim and acceleration or for the benefit of the organization? The self-serving conniver has to wear title as armor and power as sidearms.

Associates never want to see this person again after the obligatory retirement party. Some of the worst are the most vulnerable to vindictiveness once disarmed by loss of title and position. Rare is the executive who lives in such a way that colleagues miss the person more than the function.

A senior executive facing retirement asked me what to expect. I quickly answered, “No one will return your phone calls.” The “yes, sir” attitude is attached to the position, not to the person. Retirement awakens the realization of power’s privileges.

But, walking away from the position also provides the opportunity to create authentic relationships. And also, to understand the true power – that of the Spirit. We also can focus on our unique gifts and nurture genuine, appropriate personal power not based on title, but on contribution.

This week think about: 1) What is my power base? 2) How can I develop my gifts beyond title or position? 3) What creates gratitude today?

Words of Wisdom: “Rare is the executive who lives in such a way that colleagues miss the person more than the function.”

Wisdom from the Word: “And he displayed great power and awesome might in view of all Israel.” (Deuteronomy 34:12 NET Bible… speaking of Moses)

Weekly Thought – October 6, 2015

Fred thought ahead so he wouldn’t be surprised. He always thought good executives had the capacity to lead without excessive noise and drama. He demonstrated this in observing: “Some executives build up a legend for sensational saves – shoe string catches – in situations that they should never have gotten into in the first place.”

In these next six months we will introduce two initiatives to serve our Christian institutions of higher education, and the next generation of leaders. Please pray as the BWFLI Prayer Network and the Women’s Leadership Cohort of BWFLI move forward.

Misguided Good Intentions

No executive gains maturity until he or she has fired a friend from a job which is clearly a misfit. Knowing this is in the person’s best interest rarely saves the outcome of a broken relationship, at least for the short term.

One of my friends made this difficult decision knowing it was necessary for his organization – and for the employee. To ignore the situation would be dishonest. Years later, the employee returned to say, “The day you fired me was one of my worst, but now I look back on it as one of the best. This was the wrong job and you had the courage to say so.”

A close friend built up a very successful business. He came to see me to talk over a key personnel issue – his son wanted to join the firm “How will you tell his Mother you are going to fire him?” I asked just like this so he felt the impact on the family, (especially his wife!) not just the business. Long before a family member is hired, they had better think about how they are going to fire them. This may never come, but being surprised leads to bad decisions.

A banker once advised me: “Never use your money to delay a failure.” Out of misguided pity, we often use out time and resources to prolong the agony of a hopeless situation while we ignore the potential of a dozen alternatives.

As a board member and friend of many Christian organizations, I see this way more than I should. The idea of “Christian love” covers up inefficient and ineffective employee relations. People who should be relieved are reassigned or moved to non-essential positions. Our stewardship of people’s gifts requires wise management.

Seeking to be popular is to hand your moral choices over to others. An example is a parent who loves a child too little to administer punishment. We know “love is willing the best for the other.” The willingness to make the tough call for the good of the individual and the organization is the hallmark of strong leadership.

Think about this: 1) How would I deal with the family business situation? 2) Who needs a tough love conversation? 3) Why do others shrink back from confronting me?

Words of Wisdom: “No executive gains maturity until he or she has fired a friend from a job which is clearly a misfit.”

Wisdom from the Word: “The intentions of the heart belong to a man, but the answer of the tongue comes from the Lord.” (Proverbs 16:1 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – September 8, 2015

Fred overachieved when thinking. Give him a thought and he would chase it down roads totally unknown to the civilized world. He once started thinking about words to hymns and made a list of hundreds. And, on a sleepless night he remembered the punch lines to 200 jokes. When asked to give 12 principles for high impact living, he finally ran out of paper well into the 40s. This week we complete a four week excursion into the wilds of Fred’s thoughts on this subject. There are scribbles in the margins of these pages, but we will stop with these 40. Parts 1-3 are available at breakfastwithfred.com in the Weekly Thought archives.

Thank you for believing in our work and telling us stories of being stretched by Fred’s thoughts. Continue to pray and when possible, help us financially to keep the website and the Breakfast With Fred Leadership Institute strong.

Get It Done People – Part Four

High Impact People:

31) Use money as a means, not an end. They know that money is option and they see it as a tool, not an idol. They know how to avoid the “is this all there is?” trap.

32) Unite joy and accomplishment – I wrote a section of my first book (the great undiscovered classic You and Your Network) on “Joy for the Journey.” Work is part of God’s blessing. Accomplishment and achievement bring a sense of purpose and well-being.

33) Emphasize responsibilities, not rights – responsibilities laminate – that is, bring people together; rights divide.

34) Properly define pleasure – There is a misconception that life should be serious and any hint of pleasure is the sure road to hedonism. Baloney! Eric Liddell gives a clear definition when he says, “When I run, I feel God’s pleasure.” Pleasure is the emotion of living life in the sweet spot.

35) Recognize reality versus image – we live in a world weary of words and longing for authenticity. Too many who adopt the “fake it ‘til you make it” mindset end up perpetually faking it and never making it.

36) Celebrate – one of my dear friends, Jack Modesett, likes to ask about goal accomplishment by saying, “How will we know when it is time to celebrate?” It is important to celebrate steps along the way to the big mile marker. And joining others in the recognition of accomplishment is key.

37) Understand the difference between character and intelligence – I have rarely seen a gifted person fail because they lacked training, or even intelligence. By far, the majority of failures come because of character flaws. Check the plumb lines to make sure the character is aligned.

38) Create an environment of encouragement – they know how to make others see their gifts, use them, and feel good about themselves.

39) Make long term goals – instant gratification isn’t a hallmark of high impact people. A young man told me recently his idea of long term planning was lunch the next day. That man has much to learn!

40) Aren’t surprised at the price tag for success – I once told a woman who complained about her executive husband’s hours: “Madam, you want the earnings of a racehorse and the placidity of a mule.” There are no shortcuts.

This week consider: 1) Out of the 40 principles, which one grabbed me? 2) How much do I want a high impact life? 3) What am I willing to do to fulfill my potential?

Words of Wisdom: “Madam, you can’t have the earnings of a racehorse and the placidity of a mule.”

Wisdom from the Word: “For the love of money is the root of all evils. Some people in reaching for it have strayed from the faith and stabbed themselves with many pains.” (1 Timothy 6:10 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – September 1, 2015

Fred was born September 1, 2015. His Mother was his guiding light. She taught him the value of ideas and their ability to affect outcomes. The limits placed on him through physical disabilities and economic lack did not dampen his dreams. The little boy who listened to the world on his crystal radio in the attic became a man who stretched others. We continue with his principles for high impact living. Parts one and two can be accessed at www.breakfastwithfred.com in the Weekly Thought archives or on www.bwfli.com

On this day when Fred would have been 100 years, please tell someone else about the website and the Weekly Thoughts. Help us expand his reach and deepen the impact.

Get It Done People – Part Three

High Impact People:

21) Vision of success – They have a picture of who they want to be and what they want to do. They understand the old Chinese proverb: “If you vision is one year, plant wheat; the years, plant a tree; and 100 years, plant people.”

22) Associate with the Best – Be the smallest fish in the biggest pond. Always put yourself in the arena with stronger players. And remember to associate for growth and development, not social climbing.

23) Travel – Expand your view of culture and cultures. Take calculated risks and enjoy challenging experiences.

24) Read – My friend Charlie “Tremendous” Jones says, “Except for the people you meet and the books you read, you will be the same person in five years as you are today.” The old axiom, “leaders are readers” still holds true. But, be discerning. Read in your areas of development. And don’t feel like you have to read something just because somebody recommends it, or sends it to you. Don’t just read what you agree with – let others challenge you.

25) Write – My mentor Maxey Jarman demanded written solutions to any problems I could recognize. He reminded me that thoughts untangle as they pass through the mind and out through the point of the pencil. Writing clarifies.

26) Are Respected by Others – International developer Trammel Crow said, “I only want executives that others want to see succeed.”

27) Pick the right mentor – Never accept a volunteer mentor. Understand the principles of a mentoring relationship. Know what the responsibilities of the mentor and the mentoree.

28) Demonstrate humility – My favorite definition of humility is: “Humility is not denying the power you have but admitting it comes through you, not from you.” Meekness is harnessed strength, not weakness.

29) Operate ethically – One of my friends had a plaque on his desk which read: “You can count on me to be who I say I will be and do what I say I will do.” Nick Moore of Price Waterhouse Coopers put it this way: “It is important to know what you stand for and what you won’t stand for!”

30) Follow Jim Collins’ Good to Great model – “Have the wrong people off the bus, the right people on, and the right people doing the right things.”

This week think about: 1) Which of these strikes me the hardest? 2) Where am I influencing others? 3) Who could benefit from Fred’s wisdom this week?

Words of Wisdom: “Humility is not denying the power but admitting it comes through you and not from you.”

Wisdom from the Word: “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.” (Proverbs 11: 2 NET Bible)