Weekly Thought – December 26, 2023

Fred tolerated laziness and boredom poorly – if at all. When their children were growing up in the late 50s and 60s it was quite fashionable as teenagers to be bored. They soon learned their parents had a quick cure – work. Tasks were readily available for just such groaning and moaning.

Overcoming Boredom

Boredom is the dry rot of the soul. It comes when we feel that what we’re doing isn’t worth the time nor is it interesting, worthwhile, or challenging. Boredom can be the result of living too efficiently and less effectively. When our life becomes a series of habits and routines, then our creative juices are not stirred up enough to avoid boredom.

Oftentimes we hear children say to their parents, “I’m bored.” The best answer for that is a question: “What are you going to do about it?” we need to learn very early the response to boredom is our own responsibility, not that of others. If we stay bored too long we escape into pseudo-sophistication or melancholia, refusing to lift ourselves by our emotional bootstraps out of the quagmire. I would make three suggestions to the bored:

1) Break up the repetition of life. Sometimes the most simple changes will help because they help us use our minds rather than relying on automatic habits. When I was speaking constantly I would find a talk became boring, so I would rearrange the point just to increase my interest and concentration. Routine is needed for efficiency, but life is more than good time management.

2) Add something good to your life. Start a new activity, begin a new hobby, see the old things in new ways, start new friendships, and associations. Do something specific for others each day. Enroll in a course, sign up for a film series, symphony concert, summer theater, athletic event, Bible study – but do something good! Remembering the more bored you are, the less interested you will be when you begin, but the greater your interest the more interesting you will become.

3) Take something bad out of your life… things that need correcting. The sedentary life is a good place to start making a change. “Goofing off” may need redefinition. For example, one of the most interesting men I know has decided not to read the daily newspaper. He recognized so much of it is repetitious and absolutely of no earthly value. Some of us may need to stop an activity which is nothing but activity. Surely you can find something to throw out. We spent one New Year’s Eve in Naples, Italy. During that night we quickly became acquainted with their quaint custom of throwing things out the window that they don’t want to carry into the New Year. The streets became so littered that no vehicles could travel them for hours. It seemed everyone had something to throw out of the window.

The war on boredom can begin the same way – throwing away what isn’t needed. After all, boredom is a sign of poor self-management and that is a waste of talent, gifts, and resources.

This week carefully consider: 1) When do I find myself fighting boredom? 2) How can I help others with the tendency to get stuck? 3) What questions should I be asking myself to assess my vitality?

Words of Wisdom: “Boredom is the dry rot of the soul.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Whatever you are doing, work at it with enthusiasm, as to the Lord and not for people.” (Colossians 3:23 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – December 19, 2023

Fred was known for his problem solving skills. He did not gravitate toward difficulties. In fact, he preferred healthy organizations and relationships. However, his exceptional discernment equipped him for analyzing and assessing problem situations with objectivity.

Making a Problem Solving Plan

Any problem can be approached in an objective, logical way. Organizing the facts and building an active plan keeps you from taking a passive posture.

1. Accept the seriousness of the problem
A good friend was recently diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It is serious. It is not psychosomatic. It cannot be handled through denial, affirmations, or positive thinking. One of my earthier friends said, “you can’t cure diarrhea by ignoring it.” That may be a little raw, but it certainly is memorable. The cure to any major problem starts with acceptance.

2. Externalize the problem
I am indebted to my friend Dr. Kevin Gill for the major contribution to my understanding of illness. When I was covered with penicillin poison I said to him, “Kevin, my body is sick, but I am not.” He smiled and said, “You are the kind who will get well.” Then he told me that executives are the easiest to cure because they have a practice of externalizing their problems, organizing them, and working on them objectively. He said the most difficult one are those who internalize their problems, thinking the problem is caused as punishment, through unfairness, or evidence of guilt.

I was speaking to a large audience and noticed a young man on the front row with a serious disability. Afterwards he came up and said to me, “Mr. Smith, I have a disability, but the disability doesn’t have me.”

(Note: Fred later on in his season of physical deterioration he made a sign saying “I am not disabled, but delightfully dependent.”)
Ben Hayden who pastored the First Presbyterian Church in Chattanooga told me of a member who was diagnosed with leukemia. He told Ben his road to a cure began when he became “a student of my disease.” This meant that simply as a third party he was going to study his disease. He was going to externalize the problem.

3. Use the problem as a learning experience
I have a friend when diagnosed with cancer remarked, “I have a new mentor: cancer. In my mind I think of it as Professor C.” There’s real wisdom in never losing the good in a bad situation. There is seldom, if ever, a bad experience that doesn’t contain some good. And as we learn we have the opportunity and responsibility to share with others what we have been taught.

(Note: when Fred began dialysis he sat down and wrote about his perspective. He called it Dialysis University. It outlined his philosophy of anticipation, expectation, and approach.)

I hope you will find a plan in these quick points about organizing your approach to problems. Accept the problem – don’t duck!
Externalize it – put the problem in the third person and learn from it – find the good in the suffering. The challenge is to take control and not falter – keep moving.

Think carefully about: 1) What am I facing right now? 2) What is coming close to overwhelming me? 3) Am I running from problems or facing them?

Words of Wisdom: “Never lose the good of a bad situation.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Look, you desire integrity in the inner man; you want me to possess wisdom.” (Psalm 51:6 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – December 12, 2023

Fred started playing golf at 50. His fascination and love for the game never waned. He studied the game, used it in illustrations, and always carried “his sticks” with him – just in case! In his latter years he was bedbound and watched hours of the golf channel. He once commented to golfing friends, “I would be so much better if I were playing now because of all the hours I have watched.”

Morality versus Legality

Among individuals of character, the legal simply defines the minimum morality needed for a healthy, well-functioning society to function, benefitting the individual and the group. As long as no one wants an unfair advantage but rather desire everyone to have all that he deserves, laws can be simple.

Men (and women) of good will can have honest differences of opinion, and these can be covered legally in short order. Men of ill will use the law not for rightness, but for wrongness… this necessitates voluminous documentation.

Golf gives me an excellent illustration of the reason for law. Few games have such volumes of laws with such extensive interpretation. John L. Low, chief compiler of the 1902 Golfing Code clearly shows why. “The code of laws is being used by individuals to escape the law rather than to abide by it. They want interpretations which will favor their escape but bind their opponents. The pity of golf today (1905) is that men play entirely to win. It would be happier for golf if it could be remembered that the true good is in the playing, not the winning. The man who does his best and loses has wrought his play as bravely as the winner and is entitled to feel equal satisfaction from the day’s engagement. Those who will not abide by the spirit of the game cannot be trusted, and they need the law to birch-rod them into the ways of honesty.”

I have played with theologians who cheated – intellectuals who remained ignorant of the laws on purpose – and otherwise honest men who opportunistically made exceptions to the law for their own benefit as well as legalistic friends who would ask for interpretation hoping for advantage. These are all ways to get around the rules.

You could simplify a great many golf rules by stating: “A player shall not create any advantage for himself other than by skill.” This would do away with picking the ball up – cleaning it – moving it – kicking it – soiling the club – stepping behind the ball – and all such things which are really manufactured improvements for the advantage of the player. Yet human nature would cry out that these actions were merely a way of recompensing an unfair circumstance. This is their idea of a “fair advantage.”

Wherever morality far exceeds legality, there can be a reverence for the spirit of the law permitting the simplification of the law.
In my humble opinion, when golf became only about winning, Satan was given membership in the club. He sends some of his demonic minions our with every foursome shouting “Win! Win! Win! Win!”

This week carefully consider: 1) How often do I fall into the trap of thinking more about the legality than the morality? 2) What comes to mind when I think about the proliferation of laws? 3) Who would enjoy and understand Fred’s golfing illustrations?

Words of Wisdom: “Wherever morality far exceeds legality, there can be a reverence for the spirit of the law permitting the simplification of the law.”

Wisdom from the Word: “The one who conducts himself in integrity will live securely, but the one who behaves perversely will be found out.” (Proverbs 10:9 NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – December 5, 2023

Fred once defined a cynic as one who would choose to ride through a sewer in a glass-bottomed boat. He made sure he maintained a realistic perspective without lapsing into cynicism. He jotted down some ideas about overcoming cynicism which serve as the text for this week’s thought.

Overcoming Cynicism

Cynicism has no integrity. Even though it often properly evaluates the present, it has no hope for the future. A Christians we can never be without hope for tomorrow. Christians believe in the great possibilities given by God. It is our responsibility to make a difference, not to drop out.

Recently a bright, young executive asked me to lunch. He opened the conversation by saying, “I serve on several Christian boards and have been invited to join two national ministry boards. But as a businessman I have become cynical at what I see. You have been in this situation most of your life. How do you avoid cynicism?”

I freely admitted being involved with Christian organizations as long as I have been tainted by an amount – hopefully, it is the healthy variety.

I gave him an antidote: Maintain your sense of humor. In my experience there is no human activity (spiritual or not) devoid of human frailties. To me, humor eases the tension between where we are and where we ought to be. Tragically, and way too often, in the most serious business of the Kingdom, we act as clowns in the court. We play games, indulge in politics, defend our errors, and deny our temptations. All of these can be a source of humor. Sin garbed in ecclesiastical raiment is ridiculous. In such situations it is better to laugh than to criticize. I must emphasize I am not endorsing any of these sinful behaviors – just recommending a healthy objectivity.

May I share a personal illustration? At my father’s funeral both the elderly retiring pastor and the young incoming man shared the platform. I knew how this would work so I wrote a note to my brother, “Watch this!” Sure enough, the outgoing man widely known for his vast Bible memorization skills began with passage after passage. The younger man looked uncomfortable, but literally rose to the occasion drawing on all his recently acquired homiletical skills. I could have become cynical but I knew my Dad as a Baptist preacher influenced by George Truett and W.A. Criswell would have thoroughly enjoyed it. Both men were men of fine spirit and sincerity who just got caught up in a situation that became a contest.
To become cynical would have been to deny the present reality. To allow cynicism to overshadow the truth of their words would defeat their goal.

As Christians we have the responsibility to accurately assess the environment and respond appropriately. Maturity allows us to see without falling into unhealthy cynicism. We always want to be realistic, but keep our minds centered on the truth of the higher things.

This week think about: 1) When do I tend to become cynical? 2) How do I discipline myself to see reality without jumping into a glass bottom boat? 3) Who models healthy maturity?

Words of Wisdom: “It is our responsibility to make a difference, not to drop out.”

Wisdom from the Word: “But whoever is among the living has hope.”(Ecclesiastes 9:9(a) NET Bible)

Weekly Thought – November 28, 2023

Fred highly regarded authenticity while highly disparaging “phonies.” During his life giving up the rat race and choosing the simple life became the rage numerous times. He watched the cycles and offered his insights in a Sunday School lesson at Highland Park Presbyterian Church’s Elliott class. This week we excerpt his thoughts.

Living Simply

Living a simple life means we come to the point of defining a lifestyle to which we can apply common sense organization.

Richard Foster says, “Contemporary culture lacks both the inward reality and the outward lifestyle of simplicity. Inwardly, modern man is fractured and fragmented. He is trapped in a maze of competing attachments. One moment he makes decision on the basis of sound reason, the next moment out of fear of what others will think of him. He has no unity or focus around which life is oriented.”

We can see evidences of a simple life around us. What are they? Where do we see them? I think the Quakers have done a better job than any other group I know in fully understanding the dynamics, the beauty, and the elegance of the simple life. Therefore let me quote: “Experiencing the inward reality liberates us outwardly. Speech becomes truthful and honest. The lust for status and position is gone, because we no longer need status or position. We cease from showy extravagance, not on the grounds of being unable to afford it, but on the grounds of principle. Our goods become available to others, we join the experience that Richard E. Byrd recorded in his journal after months alone in the barren arctic, ‘I am learning that a man can live profoundly without masses of things. ’” (Note: no reference included)

The simple life is more than “simply living.” It takes consideration, evaluation, formulation, and action. When we take the true measure of what really counts we can move toward simplicity. We define our lifestyle and shut out all other voices that would distract and draw us away from our intentional purpose. Mary Alice and I had friends who established a lifestyle which was not one of the “rising tide.” As the family income rose, they didn’t change their way of life, but maintained the original bar which they had prayerfully established. Everything above was used to help Christian work.

Joseph Brackett, the Shaker hymnist gave us these memorable words: “’Tis the gift to be simple, ‘tis the gift to be free; ‘Tis the gift to come down where I ought to be.

My friend Fenelon says, “when we live in interior simplicity… we see it near to and continually with pure eyes – oh how amiable this simplicity is.”

This week think carefully about: 1) How often do I think a “simple life” would be so much easier? 2) What does a simple life mean for me, my work, my family, my community? 3) What can I do to live in this cultural moment as a positive influence?

Words of Wisdom: “The simple life is more than ‘simply living.’”

Wisdom from the Word: “Yet when I reflected on everything I had accomplished and on all the effort that I had expended to accomplish it, I concluded: ‘All these achievements and possessions are ultimately profitless – like chasing the wind!’” (Ecclesiastes 2:11 NET Bible)