BWFLI
  • Facebook
  • Home
  • Blogs
    • Brenda’s Blog
      • Brenda’s Blog
      • About Brenda A. Smith
    • Weekly Thoughts
    • Breakfast With Fred
      • What is Breakfast With Fred?
      • About Fred Smith, Sr.
      • Breakfast With Fred website
  • BWFLI Roundtable
    • BWFLI Launches the Roundtable
    • Introduction-Schedule-Bios
    • Ron Glosser-Fred Smith chapter
    • Perseverance Book
    • 200 Mentoring Questions
    • Jarvis College BWFLI poster
    • Alice Lloyd College poster
    • Lindsey Wilson College poster
  • Leadership Online
    • Leadership Team
  • About Us
    • What is BWFLI?
    • What is Breakfast With Fred?
    • About Fred Smith, Sr.
    • About Brenda A. Smith
    • Contact Us
  • Please Donate
    • Click Here to Donate
    • Why Give to BWF Project, Inc.?
  • Home
  • 2016
  • October

The “I Can” Leader

Weekly Thought – October 25, 2016

Fred consulted with numerous major corporations and Christian organizations. He looked for patterns; ability to read people increased his effectiveness. He always said character and attitude were the hallmarks of effective leaders.

This week a team of twelve will be spending two days on the campus of Palm Beach Atlantic University. Please pray for their work, witness, and impact. They are going at their own expense receiving no remuneration because they believe in the challenge of stretching and blessing the next generation of leaders to the glory of God. Thank you for your support.

The “I Can” Leader

I was interested recently in a survey that studied the difference between successful and unsuccessful businesses. The research looked at the top executives of major organizations. The outcome was interesting but not surprising. It was about attitude. The successful leaders said: “I will.” Those with the unsuccessful operations tended to say: “I should; I want to; I ought to; I expect to.” In Texas we have a simple way of saying that… “fixin’ to.”

Nothing happens until someone says “I will.” This is the action of the decisive individual. He picks up an idea, considers the applications, and implements it. In other words, he says “I will.” By the way, “she” also does this. My daughter is always quick to remind me of my male references.

The other one may get a great idea, write it down, but then file it away for future thought. Sadly, most ideas evaporate if not kept in the active file. “Getting around to it shortly” is the death knell for many good thoughts. “Shortly” seldom comes as he sits in the same easy chair, in the same rut – the one that leads to failure.

The ability to execute is a key distinctive. Careful consideration is important, but some use analysis as an excuse for inactivity. Certainly there are those who do ready, fire, aim but way too many more do the ready, ready, ready – never even getting to aim, much less fire.

The line between success and failure is very thin. My friends in the insurance industry put it this way: “The successful agent does what the unsuccessful one won’t.” The successful one does the prospecting, makes the calls, and asks for the sale. All of us know “former” insurance agents who organized the forms, read the industry magazines, and waited for just the right time to make the calls. Did that time come? Apparently not.

Right thinking followed by right action leads to success.

This week think about: 1) Who is the strongest “I can” person in my network? 2) Who am I encouraging with my can do attitude? 3) How can I create ongoing positive activity?

Words of Wisdom: “Right thinking followed by right action leads to success.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Your bow is ready for action; you commission your arrows.” (Habakkuk 3:9 NET Bible)

Read More

Stormy Weather

blog-79-hurricane-orig

Brenda’s Blog – October 18, 2016

“Each student is required to have an emergency storm plan.”

As Dr. Bill Fleming, President of Palm Beach Atlantic University in West Palm Beach, FL, and I talked about the predicted landfall of Hurricane Matthew, he mentioned their mandatory preparedness. “We have never had to use the plans, but we know each student, faculty and staff member understands what steps to take – and have them written down.”

Matthew stayed off-shore and did minimal damage to PBA. For that we are grateful. But had it come ashore, they were ready to react safely.

Don’t we all have potential storms looming? Career changes, relationship shifts, health issues, geographical moves, spiritual temptations, emotional distress… all these come with high winds and rainy days. Some hit us with little notice, while others are predictable and we see the patterns forming.

How do we prepare? Here are just a few ideas: 1) Learn to read the cues and clues; 2) play the what if game to understand options; 3) understand personal strengths and weaknesses; 4) build a support network of wise counselors for each area of potential change; 5) seek the Lord’s face each day, readying your heart for whatever He brings; 6) believe that you will come through and 7) as my Dad always said to me, “Never lose the good of a bad experience.”

Dr. Fleming emphasized that these plans prepare the members of the PBA community with an exit strategy. Scripture tells us that our God’s hand is always on us and whatever storms of temptation beset us, He provides a way of escape. He promises He will “never leave us nor forsake us.” Leaning on Him must be the foundation of any preparation.

Stormy weather is inevitable. But an action plan allows us to operate with purpose and poise. And, the opportunity to encourage others in their storms is a benefit. “How did you do it?” is a question which will open doors for conversations and sharing of enduring truths.

Read More

Following Faithfully

Weekly Thought – October 18, 2016

Fred and Mary Alice met in seventh grade English class. She loved his family and grew spiritually as a teenager through the ministry of Mathew Bunyan Smith, Fred’s Dad. She was born 101 years ago today. Her influence on her family and friends continues. Her love and encouragement flow through all she touched.

October 26 and 27, 2016 are the dates for the Breakfast With Fred Leadership Institute. The team will begin gathering on the 25th in West Palm Beach, FL. Please stand with us in prayer. Thank you for your consistent, faithful support.

Following Faithfully

In our lives “faith” is both a noun and a verb. As a noun we express what is the faith. Dr. Ramesh Richard, my theologian friend who has two earned PhDs is an international proclaimer of the gospel. He gave me the “Faith Alones” (or solas) as outlined by Martin Luther: 1) by grace alone; 2) through faith alone; 3) based on Scripture alone; 4) in Christ alone; and 5) for God’s glory alone. These outline faith as a noun.

Faith, as a verb, is how we live faith out in our lives. By faith, we follow the Scriptures both in principles and disciplines for life. We look to the Scriptures for both commands and promises.

One time when I was in negotiations with the steelworkers’ union, our lawyer was convinced they were going to declare a strike. Therefore, he recommended we not make an offer because it would be used as the basis for the next negotiation. As I left home to go to the meeting, I did something I had never done before. I opened the Bible and read the first verse that I saw. “Do not withhold from workers money that is due them.” I knew right then what my decision would be. Against the lawyer’s recommendation, I opted to make a reasonable offer. To our amazement, the union members readily accepted it. So we avoided a strike. I felt I had been given divine guidance.

Any time we make a decision to do right, rather than wrong, we are living by faith. Like the old hymn tells us to walk in faith living a life that pleases God we must “trust and obey.” Dr. Richard pointed out to me Hope and faith will not be needed in heaven for we will see and know. But the love of God in Christ will exist eternally. That is the faith which energizes me.

This week think about: 1) How can I translate my faith noun into a faith verb? 2) What areas of my life need faithful attention? 3) Who encourages me to walk by faith?

Words of Wisdom: “Faith is both a noun and a verb.

Wisdom from the Word: “The Rock, his work is perfect, for all his ways are justice. A God of faithfulness and without iniquity, just and upright is he.” (Deuteronomy 32:4 NET Bible)

Read More

Where Am I Going?

Weekly Thought – October 11, 2016

Fred’s strategic approach to life planning influenced generations of men and women. He focused on his gifts and the most effective way to use them. He said, “I have never felt time pressure because I didn’t get involved in things that weren’t mine to do.”

The Breakfast With Fred Leadership Institute at Palm Beach Atlantic University will be October 26, 27th. Please pray for the team members, the faculty, students, and staff. We are blessed to share these days together “stretching and blessing the next generation of leaders… to the glory of God.” Please pray about participating with us financially. All gifts are tax deductible and gratefully received.

Where Am I Going?

Choosing a goal in life is not our most important decision – choosing our direction is. Chasing short-range goals can take us in the wrong direction. Mature success and satisfaction come from the direction in which we move, not in the goal that we attain.

Too much goal orientation brings us the same problem that Harvard Business School found in the case study system of teaching. Bright young students learned to solve problems rather than identify opportunities. The real progress in life comes in recognizing opportunities. Problem solving is important, but it is just a means of taking advantage of opportunities.

When we become too goal-oriented, we become almost mechanical in our approach to life. The totally technological vantage point tends to turn us into computers. Who wants that?

I oppose setting an ultimate goal for one’s life in the sense of a specific, definable, measurable place in life one hopes to arrive. To define a place where “I will have made it” puts too much importance on one decision after another. This deterministic approach creates a sense of futility to those who attain what they have aimed for, what they have defined as success, and what they see as the “end all.” Too often they realize that it was process and the journey that energized them, not the final goal achievement.

The becoming is the joy in the journey.

I am not opposed to planning, but I am much more interested in making decisions based on the impact they will have on who I will ultimately become. Following the path is an adventure. I don’t want to be so focused on goals that I get to the top of the ladder only to see that it is leaning against the wrong wall.

Goals are important as mile markers to confirm that we are traveling in the right direction. They are never to be an end in themselves. To adhere rigidly to our goals is to miss some of the excitement that comes spontaneously. It is also a clear way to miss so much of the life God has for us.

This week think about: 1) How well am I balancing goals and direction? 2) What measures am I using to determine if I am pleased with my direction? 3) Who is in my circle to help me assess my direction?

Words of Wisdom: “The becoming is the joy in the journey.”

Wisdom from the Word: “So you will walk in the way of good people, and will keep on the paths of the righteous.” (Proverbs 2:20 NET Bible)

Read More

Leading with Meaning

Weekly Thought – October 4, 2016

Fred and Bill Glass (All-American, All-Pro from Baylor and the Cleveland Browns) met at Baylor University in the 1950s. Bill’s friendship with Fred never ended. In the last days, Bill sat at Fred’s side in the hospital. Of course, he had his notebook with him because he always took notes when sitting with Fred. Bill knew about receiving a blessing.

Leading with Meaning

When I saw the old wrangler on whose life The Horse Whisperer was based, I felt he was a kindred spirit. He used empathy rather than dominance to achieve his goals. He transformed both the role of the wrangler and the horse’s experience. It was no longer a hierarchical, tyrannical system, but one which was a team-based, mutual interest program. He no longer depended on the horse’s fear, but on its friendship. His orders became friendly suggestions that he knew would be accepted.

The famed “winningest coach,” John Wooden of UCLA basketball used his own nondictatorial system. Reportedly, he never mentioned the word “win” to any of his teams. He simply emphasized the concept of doing one’s best. This was an entirely different emphasis from the usual pre-game pep talk in locker rooms of his day.

Wooden’s philosophy excluded using dirty tricks, bending the rules, violating recruiting rules, and falsifying grades – all of which were common practices in other programs. Wooden’s teams won because he recruited great talent, helped them grow in an environment that demanded their best, and built men of honor and character.

We lead to accomplish the vision of our calling. We optimize our associates’ gifts and passions as we work to attain what we genuinely believe is the will of God – for the glory of God. We work to find the uniqueness in others and then to develop, encourage, and reward it. We work to find our own reward, desiring to hear one day: “Well done, good and faithful servant.”

Catching a vision and then creating an atmosphere in which talented men and women thrive is the role (and reward) of a leader. Working together in tandem, not working for a tyrant, is the sign of a healthy organization.

This week think about: 1) What do I contribute to a healthy atmosphere? 2) How well do I encourage a winning team? 3) Who models positive leadership for me?

Words of Wisdom: “We lead to accomplish the vision of our calling.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Give instruction to a wise person, and he will become wiser still; teach a righteous person and he will add to his learning.” (Proverbs 9:9 NET Bible)

Read More

Landing the Plane

blog-78-couple-motorcycle

Brenda’s Blog – October 4, 2016

“Come home – we miss you”

Driving down the highway, I glanced at the face on the billboard, read the message, and thought of those who installed it. The date under the picture indicated this man disappeared 15 years ago. Who was he? Why did he leave? Is he still alive? Would he ever see the invitation?

This man and those who love him were still on my mind when I pulled into a restaurant for a quick bite. It was late and the room was nearly empty. At the back snuggled in a booth, a young couple ate. They looked rough and I assumed they belonged to the motorcycle parked by the front door. In the next booth an old man sat beside his suitcase, counting out a few dollars. Caught up in my own musings, I didn’t even wonder about him. Then I heard the young man ask, “Are you traveling?” The old man told of trying to get home and not having enough money to stay overnight before “hitting the road.”

My cynical self muttered inaudibly, but immediately, the young man and woman got up. Not to leave, but to go get change for a $100 bill. Without any notice, he came back, counted out some bills and said, “Find a place to stay tonight, get something to eat, and then get home.” The young woman asked him about himself and engaged him as a person. They shook his hand, gave him their names, and slipped out.

Yes, they were on the bright yellow cycle. But they weren’t aimless – they had great purpose: doing good. It crossed my mind that perhaps two angels got a cool assignment that night – riding a bike and helping a very old man get through another night, and hopefully, home.

The old hymn says, “Come home, come home – you who are weary, come home.” I hope that man on the billboard makes it home. And I hope the old man with his suitcase gets to walk through his front door, received by those who love him.

Do you need to go home? What is stopping you? Do you need to tell someone they are welcome? Do it now.

Read More

  • Brenda A. Smith shares a TV Interview about LeTourneau-BWFLI event

  • Fred Smith Sr. shares a lifetime of Encouragement at Centennial Celebration

  • Mark Modesti TED Talk – The Argument for Trouble

  • Student Impact at Emmaus Bible College

  • BWFLI Impacts Lindsey Wilson College

Categories

Archives