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Eagle Time


Weekly Thought – August 30, 2016

Fred‘s birthday was September 1, 1915. In his lifetime he experienced vast social, economic, and even spiritual changes in his world. He grew up with an intuitive sense of what it would take to grow personally and eventually, professionally. His belief in reading, travel, and association led him to interesting situations.

Eagle Time

I believe I am responsible for own personal development. Only I know who I want to become. Only I truly know my strengths and weaknesses; my talents and skills; my passions and desires. Only I know the price I am willing to pay to become who I want to be.

My personal development stands on four legs:

1) Mentoring – When I was young I heard the expression, “Birds of a feather flock together.” I knew from an early age I wanted to associate with individuals who would be my mentors and role models. As a young business man I defined six qualities I wanted in my life. Then I identified six individuals who personified each of these qualities. I reached out to them asking for an autographed picture. On my wall I hung the framed pictures in a square with Hoffman’s Head of Christ on the top and a mirror at the bottom. It became my measure of personal growth. I assessed how I was doing in the areas while looking in the mirror and reflecting on the head of Christ. This was the first step in my development.

2) Reading – I do prescription reading. Just as everyone doesn’t have the same eyeglass prescription, reading lists shouldn’t all be the same. We have separate needs and growth areas. I read no fiction and I focus on particular authors who think and write along the lines of my study. For example: Oswald Chambers, Francois Fenelon, Peter Drucker, and Frank Laubach. I also read chapters in books which are aimed at my major themes: philosophy, theology, leadership, and psychology. I have a natural affinity for those areas.

3) Writing – Until I started working for Maxey Jarman I was a totally verbal person. One day when I was telling him about a situation in one of our plants he said, “Write it, Fred.” When I explained I wasn’t a writer, he answered back: “The reason you can’t write it is you don’t really know it. Anything you really know you can write.” Later in life I found this quote from Sir Francis Bacon: “Writing makes an exact man.” I learned to write to burn the fuzz off my thinking.

4) Travel – It opens the windows of my experience and exposes me to different people, cultures, thinking, and environments. Growing up in the home of a pastor, we had few opportunities to travel. In fact, when Mary Alice and I married, my entire family went with us – all piled into our car.

Personal development is just that: a personal commitment with a personal price tag.

This week think about: 1) How committed am I to continual growth? 2) What allows me to be a lifelong learner? 3) Who is part of my development team?

Words of Wisdom: “I learned to burn the fuzz off my thinking.”

Wisdom from the Word: “My teaching will drop like the rain; my sayings will drip like the dew, as rain drops upon the grass, and showers upon new growth.” (Deuteronomy 32:2 NET Bible)

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Principal-Based Thinking

Weekly Thought – August 23, 2016

Fred’s reputation for principle-based thinking continues on as part of his living legacy. His gift for understanding the way things operate and people think gave him great opportunities for his unique contribution.

Please pray for our fall BWFLI schedule. Our teams are diligently preparing for Asbury University and Palm Beach Atlantic University. Peter McNally will be the chapel speaker at Asbury and Steve Brown will challenge the students at Palm Beach Atlantic University.

Principal-Based Thinking

While the book of Proverbs says “the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,” it does not give us a clear and succinct definition of wisdom. Personally, I think of it as the “knowledge and use of divine principles.” As Einstein said, “I want to think God’s thoughts after Him. To me, that is wisdom. Too many make the transition from data to information to knowledge, but fall short of the final step: wisdom.”

The understanding of divine principles is often conceptual and not always captured in chapter and verse. A fine example is the comment from my friend Ray Stedman: “My entire life changed when I realized God is for me.” This encapsulates the principle of God’s love for us.

The first step is acquiring knowledge. My good friend Jack Modesett, Jr. said, “My time at Princeton became enjoyable and profitable when I discovered learning was fun.” He has carried this attitude over into his Bible teaching where he thoroughly enjoys exploring the mysteries of God. Knowledge of God is exciting to Jack.

Another helpful principle: “God will not do for me what I can do for myself and He will not let you do what only He can do.” That is probably my paraphrase, but it has served me well. The Bible is replete with examples of taking the first step. He enables us, but also expects us to use the power He provides.

Oswald Chambers gave me a principle which serves me well during this season of disability. “God will not give you strength to overcome, but strength as you overcome.” Again, I am convinced God gives us the ability to take action. A friend called to ask how I was doing with my physical limitations. He bemoaned my handicaps. I put this principle into practice by responding: “I am not handicapped – I am delightfully dependent.”

What a treasury of wisdom we have in the saints who have gone before us. They point us toward God’s Word as the authority and the true source of wisdom. When we walk in obedience we understand the depth and reality of His divine principles. Fear is the beginning; obedience is the end.

This week think about: 1) Where do I need wisdom this week? 2) How can I grow in obedience? 3) What measures am I using to indicate wise decisions?

Words of Wisdom: “God won’t do for us what we can do for ourselves and He won’t let us do what only He can do.”

Wisdom from the Word: “God gave Solomon wisdom and very great discernment; the breadth of his understanding was as infinite as the sand on the seashore.” (1 Kings 4:29 NET Bible)

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Work in Progress

Brenda’s Blog – August 23, 2016

“When in work zones, expect the unexpected.”

The Tennessee digital warning signs caught my attention as I drove. Then they made me laugh. My kids roll their eyes when they see the “that’ll preach” look come across my face.

But think about it – when we are growing, stretching, and changing, unexpected things happen. In other words, when we are moving from one phase, level, or season we are in the midst of work. Sometimes we are working on ourselves, and quite frequently God is working on us.

A sweet friend is going through a painful life transition. She is valiantly trying to live in “day-tight compartments” as my Dad used to counsel me, but she (like the rest of us) looks out wondering how to continue living out her purpose. Christians typically seek to identify ways of effectively serving Jesus and others. We often feel certain of our giftedness and spend years living out what we see as our calling. Then WHAM! We enter a work zone and the unexpected occurs.

What gets us through the road work on the highways? After dealing with frustration because schedules are awry, and “best times ever from A to B” are abandoned, a healthy person accepts the situation and focuses on being alert. The same is true of life changes. We kick and scream just to assert our sovereignty and assumed control. Then we understand we can do it smoothly or roughly, but we will do it! Those who follow Jesus know our triune God is the only one in control and nothing thwarts His plans – NOTHING!

Work zones can be dangerous. But they are also promises of better conditions. Are you in a work zone right now? Are you moving through an unexpected patch? YAY for you! You are transitioning to a place of refinement, repair, and rejuvenation. (Hey, I am the granddaughter of a Baptist preacher and love three-part alliteration!) Prepare your heart and mind, seeing the value of what it is… a work zone.

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A Leader’s Integrity

Weekly Thought – August 16, 2016

Fred finished his work on earth at 9:15am on August 17, 2007. He left a legacy of love, trust, and wisdom. He greatly appreciated Andre Crouch’s gospel song Through It All. As he completed his time here, his last words were “I’ve learned to trust in Jesus; I’ve learned to trust in God.”

A Leader’s Integrity

As I think about spiritual leadership, I am convinced the key is the Holy Spirit’s energizing and directing the leader’s uniqueness and giving him or her a vision that creates passion. I have never known a lazy or confused leader who was clearly passionate. Oat Willie of Austin, Texas, charged “Onward Through the Fog.” It works for cartoon characters, but fails miserably as a leadership mantra.

For years, I have been writing articles targeted to Christian leaders. I have spoken to groups, large and small. I realize that it is difficult to be a Christian leader in an almost totally secular society whose renewed interest in spirituality is non-biblical Christian leaders have lost much of the respect they once enjoyed.

Burnout is increasing. Depression is almost epidemic. Stress is increasing. Immorality and divorce are more prominent. Short tenure is too much the rule, rather than the exception. More and more preachers are faced with the demand to entertain and excite.
Could a major part of this problem be that leaders have lost their vital identification with the Lord? Have they become convinced they work for the church rather than for God? Are they surrendering their spiritual authority to the church board?

Some in Christian leadership are misplaced. Remember the farmer who read a “GP” in the clouds, immediately left the fields and headed for the pulpit? After miserably failing, the word came down from above, “Farmer Brown, “GP” meant go plow, not go preach! Now get to it!”

Leaders who are not endowed with gifts energized by the Spirit become easy prey to human methodology opening themselves to the temptations of power, prestige, and money. Christian leaders should always remember that theirs is a calling, not a career… that it’s all about stewardship, not ownership.

This week think about: 1) How am I encouraging my Christian leaders to grow in their calling? 2) What do I need this week to reignite the passion for my work? 3) Who should I be praying for in their leadership?

Wisdom from the Word: “Leaders who are not endowed with gifts energized by the Spirit become easy prey to human methodology, opening themselves to the temptations of power, prestige, and money.”

Wisdom from the Word: “In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness.” (Titus 2:7 NET Bible)

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From The Top

Brenda’s Blog – August 9, 2016

“Gram, do you know what a champion is?”

My little grandson looked at me in all seriousness and asked that question. We were having a day out and walking around our favorite shopping center. The sculpture cried out for young, adventurous climbers. He attempted the ascent but failed – again and again. “Do you want me to lift you up?” I asked.

That is when he looked at me with his little earnest eyes and asked the penetrating question. “Well, if I let you lift me up I won’t make it to the top and I won’t be a champion.”

During this Olympic season we all see the fruit of sacrificial training which prepares the athletes to stand atop the winners’ stand. They know what it means to be a champion – much discipline and even more pain. A friend’s husband was a gifted runner. His coaches wanted him to train with the Olympics as the goal. He dropped out with the explanation: “It stopped being fun when it started hurting.”

What price are you willing to pay to be a champion? What dreams are in your heart which will demand strategic dedication? What fuels your drive to excel?

A small boy’s simple question comes back to me frequently. When I am willing to settle for mediocrity, I hear his little voice. I can’t be a champion at everything I do, but I can identify my uniqueness and look for ways to develop it. I can clarify my direction and focus on purposeful activity. I can remember the view from the top is worth the climb.

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Pit Stops

Weekly Thought – August 9, 2016

Fred’s belief in rhythm was well-known to his friends. He eschewed the philosophy of “every day and every day I am getting better and better.” He held to the belief of seasons and periods which allowed for growth and assimilation. He called them plateaus.

Please continue praying for the Breakfast With Fred Leadership Institute as the two fall events are coming in September and October. Gratitude is certainly felt for those who stand with us.

Pit Stops

Sound development requires a program that provides plateaus in which our information is turned into knowledge through experience and then another climb. Personal growth is not a series of nonstop climbs. Plateaus allow for assimilation before starting the next ascent. Each person has his or her own pattern and must become adept at reading their graph of climbs and plateaus. Those who try to go up too fast either run out of steam or poorly assimilate their experiences. They develop hollow spots.

All of life doesn’t evenly and systematically move through the pattern. From a distance, a graphed line may look like a consistent incline. However, when studied up close, the viewer sees it is a pattern, up, down, and flat places. The macro view often looks different from the micro experience.

We have natural divisions in our life, such as family, career, spirit, finances, emotions, friends, acquaintances, and physical health. A friend of mine who consults with executives on personal development likens these segments of life to subsidiaries of a corporation. Each one “reports” quarterly to the individual who monitors and supervises the performance of each.

I like to think of the divisions as interrelated but distinct in their focus. Clearly, each has its own particular life cycle of climbs and plateaus. Therefore, it is important to track all areas of our life and keep time tables charted for each. As we undertake this exercise, we can measure the condition of each division. I do not attempt to have each area in the same mode. Ideally, each has its season for climbs and plateaus. For example, when one is climbing in one’s career, energy and positive stress are redirected to that subsidiary. To strive with equal energy and focus to each of the other areas hoping for marked climbs is asking for burnout and poor production.

Understanding the syncopation of life’s development rhythm keeps us in sync with progress.

This week consider: 1) What are the major areas of focus for me? 2) Which area of my life is receiving the greatest attention toward climb mode right now? 3) How am I avoiding burnout?

Words of Wisdom: “To strive with equal energy and focus to each of our life areas, hoping for marked climbs in each is asking for burnout and poor production.”

Wisdom from the Word: “For he has spoken somewhere about the seventh day in this way: ‘And God rested on the seventh day from all his works.’”(Hebrews 4:4 NET Bible)

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Powered Up

Fred seriously considered the use of his time and energy, especially as his physical condition deteriorated. He carefully weighed each activity, measuring the “emotional output” each required. His wise use of time and resources enabled him to be productive to the very end of his life.

Powered Up

We are always warned by the electric company to avoid overloading the circuits. This is right, although I noticed that I have six plugs on one outlet, there is no potential danger because I only use one thing at a time. Each one alone doesn’t come close to maxing out the circuitry. We get in overload trouble by using more than one or two – that maxes it out.
The same thing happens in our lives. We get overloaded by having too many demanding involvements, emotional experiences, or commitments of time all at once. When we do so, we blow a fuse. It isn’t how many connections you have on a circuit; it is how much potential there is for an overload. Sometimes we can take on multiple activities so long as none of them requires too much or is plugged in simultaneously with too many other demands. When they compete for our energy current, we are in danger.

We draw different amounts of current depending on the emotional output require by any particular commitment. I used to speak to very large audiences, and it took practically no energy because the input was matched by the output. If there had been no positive input, such friendly reactions, laughs, agreements, interest, and so on from the audience, it would have take a great deal more output from me.

The power draw is not static. There are times when it takes much more energy to complete a task or go through an experience. I find my physical and spiritual condition greatly affect the flow. When I try to overreach in a weakened condition, I run out of energy more quickly. And when I am feeling the current strongly, I accomplish the tasks with less energy cost.

You must reach a balance where the amount that you give and the amount that you receive are equivalent – a zero sum game. We burn out when we are not sharing the energy load in the task, whether intellectual, emotional, physical, or spiritual. It is not the number of tasks, but the net energy required that determines the point of overload.

This week think about: 1) What draws power from me? 2) What gives me energy? 3) How do I measure the give and take in order to stay balanced?

Words of Wisdom: “It is not the number of tasks, but the net energy required that determines the point of overload.”

Wisdom from the Word: “Now the Lord energized Elijah with power; he tucked his robe into his belt and ran ahead of Ahab all the way to Jezreel.” (1 Kings 18:46 NET Bible)

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