Brenda’s Blog – December 28, 2021
When the TV Barn Builder crew erects a log structure they lift the final log and the team leader yells out, “LAST LOG!” It is their traditional acknowledgement of completion.
Friday I attended the memorial service for a long time friend. Afterwards, my family asked, “What do you want for your service?” “Mom, please send me an outline so I know what you want,” responded my pastor son who will conduct the service (hopefully not in the near future).
As twenty somethings we attended weddings, taking notes for our own nuptials; then we became parents of daughters looking for ideas as we sat through more friends’ events than we could count; and at this age and stage we say goodbye to friends while focusing on features for our own service.
I hear people say, “Oh, I don’t care what the family does.” I disagree – I do care! It is my final opportunity to share my faith in Jesus. It is not a time to sanitize, creating an unrealistic image. My Dad was given many awards in his latter years. He was gracious as he received them, but in private conversation would say, “I wish I had known that man.”
What do you want people to hear about you? Who do you want to participate? What music do you want? Why? It is a good exercise. As you do that, why not consider your own obituary and epitaph? These expressions give direction while we are still alive… they shine a light on who we want to be – and be remembered. It gives impetus to stronger purpose.
Writers often include a PS known as “Last Words.” It provides summary, action charges, and goodbyes to the audience who has motivated the author during the creative process.
I challenge you to think of the projects in your life, implementing the “last log!” cheer. And, I urge you to organize your own memorial service, making it easier for your family, and giving you a platform to reflect your last words.