Weekly Thought – May 7, 2024
Fred spent much of his later years either in dialysis three times a week, or intense hospitalizations. His friends faithfully visited. After long stays one expressed his frustration in not knowing what to say when he was with Fred. “Bring him a problem,” was son Fred’s wise counsel. Sure enough, they started coming with decisions to be made, situations to discuss, and issues of concern. Three of the four “come to say goodbye to Fred” stays ended up with recovery and a return home.
Decisive Actions
Decisiveness is a quality of effective executives, but at the same time it is one of the rarest traits in most. Everyone likes to believe they are decisive – and are quick to declare it to others. However, most wait until they are forced into a decision or until the decision is made for them.
I have been accumulating clever ways people avoid decisions. And there is no dearth! You can see them every day. For example, there is the fellow who sits in a decision meeting, waits to see which way the wind is blowing, then makes a big deal about his decisive action. The worst offender is the executive who talks five minutes on both sides of the question, then emphatically announces, “That’s what I think.” Oh, no, there is one worse – he is the fellow who sits next to him, and says, “I agree with Joe.”
Actually, decisiveness is a matter of the will. I think I can illustrate it with a true story. I was on the West Coast consulting with Mobil for a few days. Being anxious to get home I caught the 11:30 American flight back to Chicago and on to Cincinnati. When I got to the check in a large crowd was waiting to load. Wanting to be graciously sociable, I got on first… to be helpful and get out of their way, of course. Eventually every seat on the plane was taken except one – the one next to me.
Just before the door closed a man at least 6’3” with big, broad shoulders and a flat stomach came running on the plane, sitting down next to me. He shouldn’t have done that. How unkind to make me uncomfortable all the way to Chicago as I sat there with my 225 pounds of solid blubber? I recognized him as Charlton Heston and began the conversation:
“Mr. Heston, you are in wonderful shape.” He said, “I have to be in my business.” I replied, “I wish I could be, too, but I have to work.” “Well,” he said, “I have to work, but I can stay in this kind of shape on 17 minutes a day.” He had no right to say that. That was totally unsociable. I have 17 minutes a day. He should have talked about half a day at the studio (which would totally count me out).
For 30 minutes I sat and stewed in my own fat, but whenever I am wrong I try to avoid admitting it through ingenuity.
“But Mr. Heston, I travel a lot.” He said, “So do I.” Then I asked, “What do you do about exercise when you travel?” He said, “It is simple. I go into the hotel room, take my luggage off the rack, sit down on it, and put me toes under the bed and do back bends.” It had been a LONG time since Fat Fred did that! However, again, when caught in the wrong, I don’t give up, so I countered, “What do you do about your shoulders?” “I roll under the bed and push the bed up in the air.”
Now, what is the difference between Heston and Smith? I saw the difference in a survey recently which indicated there was only one definable distinction between successful and unsuccessful people. The unsuccessful say, “I should – I ought to – I plan to – I’m going to” – but never do. The successful say, “I will.” They make the decision and take action. They do it.
This week carefully consider: 1) Where do I need to make a decision? 2) What excuses do I make? 3) How would my life change this week if I said “I will.”
Words of Wisdom: “Decisiveness is a matter of the will.”
Wisdom from the Word: “Bring a plan, make a decision.” (Isaiah 16:3(a) NET Bible)