Weekly Thought – March 25, 2014
Fred believed in the value of psychic space. He carefully respected these lines we draw to protect ourselves. A woman once came up to Fred after a speech to ask a question. Fred responded with another query. She expressed great anger. A psychiatrist friend explained he had violated her psychic space. Friendships negotiate space and the masks we wear to fortress our inner selves.
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The Importance of Masks
Dealing with masks is a critical element of friendship. They must be understood and appreciated.
We all wear masks. We all hide areas of our lives from public view. When we think of them we sometimes feel guilt, anxiety, hurt, and even fear as we think about being exposed. We don’t want everyone to see or know the deepest parts of ourselves.
Friendship allows us to begin the process of unmasking. We take test drives on lifting the mask, judging the reaction of another – dipping our toe into the psychological waters. “Are they shocked? Are they empathetic? Are they nonchalant?” We peek out little by little.
Masks are like bandages. Small ones cover scrapes; rolls of gauze cover serious wounds. We create them to adequately protect the sensitive part of our life – the part we don’t want to open to criticism or ridicule. We don’t even want to lift the bandage to see the hurt ourselves. (more…)

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