Weekly Thought – April 15, 2014
Fred commented: “Parenting changes from managerial to relational as the family grows older.” Later on, he remarked, “I have moved from being an authority figure to a consultant with my children.” He enjoyed that role. As an executive, he had difficulty leaving his management style at the office, but he tried. Especially as he aged, he appreciated the value of relationship for its sake alone. This week’s thought is unusual – it is a letter written from Fred to Howard E. Butt, a life-long friend.
Keep on praying for Taylor University and the strong team gathering on the campus April 24, 25. Pray for those who come from Illinois, Ohio, Kentucky, and Texas to participate in our inter-generational ministry of connection.
Howard – I’m beginning to see the family in a very different light. The family’s primary function is a relationship to create loving relations and secondarily a production unit for developing mature individuals. It is different from the plant, where production is primary and relation is secondary. One hopes, and I believe it is possible, to have both functions running together smoothly, each complementing the other. However, until we understand which is primary and which is secondary, we are not able to make a good, objective decision when one conflicts with the other.
Howard, you can’t believe what is happening as I’m writing these words to you. Mary Alice is knocking on the door, wanting to know if I want to go to McDonald’s with Brenda, Mary Helen, and our four grandchildren. I believe the Lord is testing me as to my sincerity, for you know that isn’t exactly what I want to do right now. Yet, if I’m going to change according to my new knowledge, I must take leave of you and finish the letter when I get back. (more…)